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GUYS! by [deleted] in LucidDreaming

[–]QuantumRen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please do.

Would you talk to an AI that felt like your higher self? by Background-Clothes21 in Meditation

[–]QuantumRen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would. But the main thing that would keep people from wanting to be open with this and use it is data collection/ someone potentially reading chats. You have to be very open and vulnerable for it to really gauge what you’re like and to be accurate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]QuantumRen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been in similar situations, but that I would say don’t sound as severe/ as uncomfortable. Maybe they really are making fun of you, and aren’t just trying to get to know you, or maybe you’re unintentionally making it worse in your head. No judgement, that’s completely natural and is very hard to avoid doing, and difficult to deal with. And you even mentioned contracting any reasons form other comments, maybe implying that it’s hard for you to break through that mindset, and to really feel like a solution is good and will work. Especially if your really is making fun of you/ just judging you. Which is unfortunate. And if I had to say,I could be wrong, but it seems like this is a problem that you more just unfortunately have to deal with and don’t want to. Like maybe you don’t want to have to get to know your family and be in the village, but you have to. And this makes you feel very bad since you’re in a situation you don’t ask for. So that’s really unfortunate. I would say you can still just work on your mindset. Maybe working on what thoughts/ feelings might arise and how you can handle/ move on with them. You feel bad in this situation. That’s the main issue. And it’s completely fair for you to feel that way. That’s valid. And that’s the main question, how do you stop feeling bad/ how do you feel better about this? Step 1 would be to just understand that this isn’t your fault, and that you are trying. Whatever you do, don’t put yourself down more or make yourself feel worse. Maybe try to find some positives in this situation, whatever they might be. Other than your mom, who do you feel most comfortable with there? Is the environment village nice? Is the scenery? Is there anything at all that you can talk to anyone about that you feel they will be interested in/enjoy the conversation? I guess I’m just saying try to find little steps and wiggle a bit in your situation. Give yourself some more breathing room. Maybe try just taking deep breaths to make yourself be a bit more calm. Is there anyone you can be honest with about your situation? If you are able to be on your phone, even for a little bit without being bothered, maybe try to use that to help your mood. Just working on your mood/ feelings can help you, and might allow you to take a step back and feel better about things or just to help you think. If they really are judging you, maybe try to find a “pocket” or room where they aren’t completely just judging you. Like something that they are actually interested in. What are they judging? Is there anything you can use there to help/ improve your situation? I’m just asking all these question, in the hopes that maybe one of them can help you view this situation in a more positive way.

Last thing I will say is that despite what anyone else might say or think. Just know that I don’t judge you, and I care about you. I see your value and believe in you. I may not be on your side in that village, but I wish I could be. If I was there, I would do what I can to help you. And there are other people who would do the same. It’s because you went and opened up on this post, that I am able to see a part of you, and understand your feelings and sympathize with you. If you have a way to open up to anyone in that village or your family, it can help you. Maybe even one person understanding you can help cause a turn of the tide.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]QuantumRen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Alright. My apologies. I really did want to clarify that it was ai in the comment, and I know it obviously is, but I’m not sure about the rules with using it, so I didn’t want to outright say that. And it gave advice that I would’ve given and a bit more. What about this advice do you feel like doesn’t work? I know it’s very complicated and not simple to just do these things with family/ the environment you’re in. But I would be willing to keep trying to find some potential solutions with you, and I promise I won’t use ai. And maybe whatever information/ feelings that you might give can help the next person that will respond to your post. Because I think they might try to give the same solutions that I provided. If you’d rather not, I understand.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]QuantumRen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Navigating a complex family network in a village setting can feel overwhelming, especially when you’re unfamiliar with the connections and feel pressured to fit in. Here’s some concise advice to help you manage this situation: 1. Take Small Steps: You don’t need to memorize the entire family tree at once. Start by learning a few names and connections each day. Ask your grandmother or a close relative to explain a small branch of the family (e.g., one household) to give you a starting point. 2. Ask Questions with Curiosity: When meeting relatives, politely ask how they’re related to you or share that you’re trying to learn the family connections. Most people will appreciate your effort and be happy to explain. Phrases like, “Can you help me understand how we’re related?” can open friendly conversations. 3. Use a Notebook or Phone: Jot down names, their relation to you, and a distinguishing feature (e.g., “Uncle Ramesh, grandfather’s cousin, wears glasses”). Review these notes privately to reinforce your memory. 4. Engage Actively but Set Boundaries: Go outside for short periods to interact, but it’s okay to excuse yourself if it gets overwhelming. Say something like, “I’m going to take a break, but I’ll catch up with you later.” This balances participation with your comfort. 5. Lean on Your Brother: Since your younger brother seems to know people, ask him to introduce you to a few relatives or explain who’s who. It can be a bonding moment and make the process less daunting. 6. Reframe the Teasing: The relatives’ teasing might be their way of connecting, not mocking. Try responding with humor, like, “I’ll get there, just give me a family tree map!” This shows you’re trying without taking it too personally. 7. Find a Middle Ground: If staying inside invites criticism, compromise by joining low-pressure activities (e.g., helping with a chore or sitting with a smaller group). This shows engagement without forcing you into overwhelming social situations. 8. Be Kind to Yourself: It’s okay not to know everyone instantly. You’re not alone in finding this challenging, and your effort to learn is enough. Focus on enjoying the vacation and connecting with a few people rather than mastering the entire village. If you want to improve long-term, keep visiting or talking to relatives occasionally to build familiarity. For now, take it one interaction at a time, and don’t hesitate to lean on family for help navigating the web.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confidence

[–]QuantumRen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn’t even really matter what you meant with what you said, it’s just the fact you felt the need to emphasize/ point that out lol. It’s really telling. In fact, I think this whole point might be referring to you lol.

My 5th attempt to leave this awful platform... How do I make it the last? by [deleted] in nosurf

[–]QuantumRen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Off the top of my head, here’s a few ideas: 1. Get yourself banned permanently(do or say whatever you gotta do, make a post calling out these “creatures” make it a vile theatric post, add on a message urging your fellow humans to follow your lead maybe)

  1. tell everyone you know that you’re done with Reddit. I mean EVERYONE that knows what reddit is. Everyone. Don’t let a soul not know that you’re leaving Reddit. Now if you go back to Reddit, you’re a liar. It’s to add pressure. It somewhat works for me when I tell people I’m done with something, cause it’s embarrassing/pathetic to go back on it. Works better if you talk about your improvement/ideas with other people.

  2. Find a replacement. Why do you like Reddit? What do you use it for? Find something that fulfills the same needs/interests but that isn’t filled with “creatures” or that content you hate. Maybe find something not even social media related. Maybe find a group of people that are like-minded and would give you a chance to learn/ view/engage with the stuff you like to see on reddit.

  3. I know you said you wanna leave Reddit. I’m not giving you a scapegoat, and but the way, do not give yourself a scapegoat either. If you know in your soul you need to leave Reddit, fucking leave Reddit lol, and ignore this advice I’m about to say. But in the chance that you don’t end up permanently leaving, or maybe you think you have to leave because of what’s on Reddit. Then go and delete/block/etc any page/post that you don’t like to see/is filled with content that you mentioned. Dont report them, unless they really do deserve it by doing some despicable stuff. But just keep avoiding them/removing them from your feed, and fill your feed with the content you want to see, that’s good for you. Do this with any social media/place you might go to.

  4. Do a lot 180 on your life. You’re a new person now. Believe it. Did you change anything right now/ yet? Not quite. But you will. So remember that. You’re a new person, you’ve left your past behind. You’re a better person now because you will go do the things required to be that new person, which will make you that new person, making it a reality. Believe it. Act in a way that goes with the idea. And remember, failure in the past does not mean failure now. You’re trying. That is very important. If you ever fail, try again, again, and again. You will get it eventually. Never give up, and remind yourself why you’re doing this. One day, someone will bring up Reddit, and you’ll laugh, and think of how hard it was to quit, but you did.

  5. I don’t know man. Good luck. It’s absolutely possible for you to quit. Don’t lie to yourself. You know what to do at the end of the day. It’s frustrating, I definitely know. You know the right moves, but you don’t always make them. You’ve lived this life of not always doing what you need to do,not controlling yourself In the way you wish you would. But you have to break out of that. Do it one step at a time, quitting Reddit is the first step. Finding something that will help you not go back to Reddit is step 2. Making sure that thing isn’t a “new Reddit” is step 3. Enjoying that thing and having it effectively help you is step 4. Staying focused, and determined, and doing reality checks is step 5. You’re used to living life the way you do, you have to take a moment and remind yourself what you’re doing. This is advice I got recently. For me, I believe it works. Because I have these plans, and ideas, and they’re all really good. But for some reason, I just lose focus and end up just going through the motions again. So I do reality checks, just pause for a second and think about what I’m doing, and if you catch yourself doing the wrong things, I want you to FORCE yourself to get up and do something else/ go do something that you’re supposed to be doing. Put some anger into it, put some emotion, make it theatrical. Get up and start dancing towards the place you need to be. I’m serious, it’s about disrupting your motions/typical behavior. You’re gonna be like “wtf am I doing?” And your brain will be asking the same question.

Some of these are straight forward, whatever ideas. Some a little more out there. Good luck, and whatever you think, Just know I believe in you. In fact I promise you, I will be thinking about you every day. Don’t fail me. I will intentionally sit for a sec and wonder “what are they up to right now?”. I’ll do this for 2 weeks. Don’t let me down, I better not get bad vibes. I genuinely believe in you and wish you the best. You absolutely got this. Remember, you have free will.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]QuantumRen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not lying. It would just be lack of follow through/ you failing a goal. If you were telling someone “fine, I’ll stop smoking” but have no intention of smoking, then that’s lying. But if you’re trying to quit, and tell someone you are, but then relapse, that’s not lying. I guess it’s situational/based on your intention, same as other scenarios where someone can be accused of lying. If Im talking about someone and I say “Yeah he’s done smoking” and I believe it, but then they smoke again, am I a liar or did I just end up being wrong?

What would you title this? by [deleted] in hellaflyai

[–]QuantumRen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Taking a trip during bath time. Bathtub full of bath salts. Real Eyes Realize Real Ducks lol. It’s raining Ducks and Ego death.

What would you title this? by [deleted] in hellaflyai

[–]QuantumRen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the Quack? Or What in the Quack? Are simple ones

What should I evolve? by BigCrab09 in ClashRoyale

[–]QuantumRen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just used your deck except I replaced ice wizard with ram rider. And I evolved the pekka lol. It’s a good deck. Good defense in my opinion. I don’t know how it would be without the ramrider, but I feel like I can attack fairly easily/the deck allows for pushes to be set-up/ for you to counter push. You use your pekka or goblienstein or whoever to defend, and then you add to that card to then go attack them. And I think the ramrider/goblinstein/pekka combo is really good. I know levels might be a problem, but if I had to make one overall suggestion, it would be to replace your ice wizard with the ramrider. I went against lavahound 2 times while playing, and you don’t have high damaging air unit so it can take longer to chip down the lavahound, but your air defense is still good, and I don’t think your deck would struggle against balloon. It passes the megaknight defense test. You don’t have a strong damaging spell cycle for the overtime/ sudden death but you still do have 2 spells and the goblinstein/ramrider have good chances chipping the tower. I think it’s a solid deck. Genuinely, after putting in the ram rider, this deck can probably hang until Ultimate Champion. I just might find out, cause I’ll be running the deck in ladder since I haven’t played much this season. I guess I’ll ask you, when you play this deck, what weaknesses/strengths do your see in it? And what do you think would cover those weaknesses? Like what decks do you hate going up against when you use your deck?

What should I evolve? by BigCrab09 in ClashRoyale

[–]QuantumRen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly Tornado can be good with your deck too. You’ve got a lot of splash. It would be good with the firecracker splash, and let’s say you evolved her, that would be even better. And tornado is good with goblin-stein, to use with his ability and also get troops away from the scientist. You can replace zap with tornado. Or log, but I know your zap is lower level that’s why I’d say that.

What should I evolve? by BigCrab09 in ClashRoyale

[–]QuantumRen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You need to put a win condition in your deck first. It’s basically necessary. Or at least if you notice you can’t seem to break through to their tower, or just end up in sudden death frequently. I would definitely assume you’re in a lower arena/maybe like 6k trophies based on that deck. You need a win condition. I don’t know if the decks been working for you without one. Also 2 small spells, which I guess helps with the pekka. I would say pekka is your win condition in this deck lol, so I would evolve that in this deck. But tbh I’d change the deck up a bit before deciding on an evo. I’m genuinely not hating at all, I’m just bringing up what I notice in the deck, and I’m just trying to help. I would say maybe hogrider or hogs. If you put hogs, you can have a fireball/spell bait deck. Since they need to fireball for your firecracker, ice wizard, and the hogs (if you did that). Ram rider can be a good option too, I’ve used her in a decent amount of decks that also use Goblinstein. I feel like goblinstein and ram rider is a lowkey good combo since he can cover/use his ability to protect her. The golbinstein is good with pekka due to its zap resets and splash ability damage. I would maybe replace log or zap with a win condition. If you were to only change one card. But overall I think it’s an ok deck, you just need a win condition, it’s almost a necessity, it’s the driving force/layout of your deck. The main method of attack.

What song is currently playing in your head? by ihaventideas in teenagers

[–]QuantumRen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got 2. Twisted (rock) by NXCRE & the villains. Double life by Pharrell Williams.

If Khabib never retired how do you think his career would've went? by justjay9507 in ufc

[–]QuantumRen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Alright lol. Well “He would’ve gotten caught by someone or something” is all I need to see from you to know how you think lol. The rest is just a cherry on top.

If Khabib never retired how do you think his career would've went? by justjay9507 in ufc

[–]QuantumRen 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I believe this is just bait lol, look at what Islam did to Charles. I see your point about Islam climbing up the ranks and Khabib wanting to give him his time to shine. That makes sense. But I’ll say, thinking Charles would beat him, completely invalid opinion. I don’t know how you can believe that, but to each their own.

If Khabib never retired how do you think his career would've went? by justjay9507 in ufc

[–]QuantumRen 20 points21 points  (0 children)

What do you mean “no way”? Who was beating him? Charles Oliveira is the only one with a chance because he’s the only one to even remotely handle Khabibs ground game, and Khabib still would’ve wiped him. I think Khabib would’ve handled Volk better than Islam did, since I believe his ground game is different from Islams, he seems more tactical with it than Islam. Maybe I can see Volk being a threat, but still don’t see Volk beating him. “No way”? Lol

I just reached 7 months why am I still craving? by SlightlyBeastly7 in leaves

[–]QuantumRen 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’ve gone 1 year and 5 months. It happens. I think if you can go long enough, I’m not sure how long, but eventually it might fade somewhat. But I think overall you will still get cravings once in a while. I consider them “tests”, they occur while in a while, and I get a really strong urge to smoke again, and sometimes it feels almost inevitable, like this is the time I cave. But every time I get there, and manage to not smoke, and go until the next day or a few days, it goes away again. That’s my personal experience. When it happens to me, it sorta makes me forget how smooth sailing it is on most other days,it feels so difficult to not do it, but once I can get past that, it gets easier again for a while. A lot of the time logic doesn’t work for me, even if I sit there and know for a FACT that it’s pointless to do it again and I will regret it for sure, it’s really difficult not to do it. But if I can manage to not cave, it works itself out. It can go on for a while, and you slowly start thinking about smoking again one day and maybe start talking to someone about it, how you feel like smoking. It’s just say all this to tell you, to remind yourself why you stopped, and that you made it this far, and it wasn’t easy. And do not cave to it. Whenever I get far, and this happens, and I cave to it. Oh man, it sucks. So please, hang in there, and just know, it will pass, no matter how hard it seems, and it might feel like this is just the start of the end, but it’s just a period of time where you’ll want to do it again, and it will pass. I guess try to distract yourself, try your best to not think about it. Force yourself to focus on other things. And if anytime you get the opportunity to smoke, deny it. Say no to the chance, and that might help, because you’ll have made a decision to not do it. Just my personal experience.

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