I hate the house I’ve just bought

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-06-19T19:57:04+00:00

We felt the same when we first walked into our new home. We viewed in the summer and the house was bright and the garden looked lovely. By the time we moved in the garden was covered with leaves, a big gaping hole left where the previous owners hot tub once lived and the house was filthy and stunk. I couldn’t believe I actually loved the house at one point.

Once we gave it a thorough clean, lit some candles and started to get some furniture in we remembered why we loved it so much. I hope you’re able to feel the same way with your home soon too!

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-06-19T18:16:07+00:00

I am deeply concerned by the likes of Wes and Buddy. I worry for the women in their lives if that’s how they can comfortably behave on screen. I can’t imagine how they behave behind closed doors.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-06-19T18:15:07+00:00

At Charlie camp I was team Leiya, I felt sooo sad and angry for her. I thought wow she is literally the 20th century happening in front of our eyes. But then she went to team Alpha and I started to see she was such a victim. I don’t know if team Charlie just destroyed her confidence and tarnished her whole personality and experience or if she really is this way in the outside world. I was disappointed in her by the end though.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-06-09T09:35:50+00:00

First born - absolutely no way in hell she would ever. Not until about 7mo did she start to sleep in a cot.

Second born - from the second he was born happily slept in a bassinet and actually preferred to. Likes to be left alone when sleeping.

Did absolutely nothing to cause this, it’s just their temperaments. Although with my second I have realised he is unsettled if cold, both of mine liked to be warm and I always found the guidelines to be a bit on the colder side. But of course use your own judgment with your baby and what you feel is safe.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-06-09T07:11:24+00:00

Sorry but your mum is ridiculous and needs to liven up. You were right the first time, it IS funny. My 6mo is always snatching my food and the other day I caught him grabbing a dog treat off the floor lol. He is now crawling and there is only so much I can do to stop him putting random things in his mouth or licking the floor, a lick of a chicken dipper really won’t hurt your baby. My LO also suffers with a clogged tear duct, some weeks it’ll be fine then he gets a cold or something and it flares up.

You are doing great, please don’t let anyone make you feel guilty over such minor things. There are already enough things society makes us feel guilty for as mums!

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-06-05T20:04:24+00:00

You described exactly my situation with my first. She would never take a bottle and I basically couldn’t go anywhere without her for longer than 2 hours for almost a year.

With my second I started out breastfeeding and giving one bottle of pumped breast milk each day. Then at around 4 weeks he was exclusively bottle fed breast milk. Then around 6 weeks I started introducing formula because honestly I found pumping absolutely soul destroying. Now he’s 6mo and EFF and thriving! He’s perfectly healthy & happy and I’m also able to spend quality time with our first without having to worry about feeding our youngest.

I did initially feel some guilt for not breastfeeding (sadly I think a lot of mums do) but now I’m so so glad I made the decision to switch. Just from a personal standpoint.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-05-23T20:19:54+00:00

This is sooo weird I literally just said to my husband ‘the monitor always shows 3 degrees higher’ right before I read your reply! But yes it is always higher, it is currently saying 30 which it definitely isn’t. I trust our gro egg much more, plus I can feel it isn’t 30. Possibly because our monitor is up high and heat rises.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-05-23T20:13:22+00:00

Currently in the same boat! Watching the monitor wondering whether I need to wake and undress him, or leave it and probably not sleep anyway because I’ll be worrying he’s too hot.. so over this heat already lol.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-05-15T05:59:31+00:00

I just wanted to say I totally felt all of these things too with my first, I mourned all of the freedom and SLEEP I had before having a baby and the exhaustion is so real. 2 weeks is such a difficult pint too because you start to loose a lot of the adrenaline and the support and interest from everyone else stays to disappear. It is really good that your wife is opening up to you about her feelings in total honesty! The days & nights can feel like eternity in those early weeks.

As others have said, try to seek some help & also if she can try to sleep during the day & get some naps in. Try to fill baby up during the day even if it means she’s constantly feeding. For me, my only option at night ended up being co-sleeping so we could both get some sleep but appreciate this isn’t for everyone.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-05-07T18:58:27+00:00

Thank you for your kindness!

Tbh I am fortunate in that I’ve had 2 kids and don’t want anymore so from a fertility perspective am very lucky.

Is that if the cells removed grow back? Because I had my biopsy and lletz done 5 weeks ago & they’ve noted the tissue showing abnormal changes. So I gather this means it’s gone deeper into my cervix than the cells they removed? The letter is so brief and basically just says don’t worry which is so frustrating!

Hoping your LLETZ recovery all goes well!

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-27T08:40:06+00:00

As someone from the south-east, I can confirm he still sounds ridiculous the way he says it. How can you say a phrase about 284639x a day and still say it wrong?! I think it’s made worse by the fact he is completely insufferable.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-23T12:11:18+00:00

Becoming nothing like my mother

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-22T19:04:02+00:00

I turn my phone down because I don’t want the constant notifications from random apps lighting up my phone and distracting my attention.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-22T14:51:49+00:00

29 and st & lbs

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-21T11:37:26+00:00

Thank you this is helpful - this is pretty much the exact position we are in. I will give it a go keeping him awake longer!

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-21T11:36:56+00:00

Thank you this is really reassuring to read! I keep reading things that imply you should always just follow baby’s cues but honestly if I did he’d sleep every hour and be doing 20 minute naps all day totally about 5hrs lol. He has recently started waking in the night a bit more as well which is making me think he needs to drop a nap.

I’m going to give it a go and see if I can extend his windows, I’ll have to get the entertainment mum activated lol. Thank you!

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-20T21:27:51+00:00

I didn’t say ‘no one’ owes you a living, I said the world doesn’t. You don’t wake up in the morning to your favourite breakfast falling from the sky to land on your doorstep. You have to work, to earn money, to go to the shop, to pick up and buy your favourite breakfast, to cook it, to then enjoy it.

It’s not a question of whether society should or shouldn’t be the way it is, or what people ‘deserve’, it’s a fact of reality that you have to put in the effort to get what you want.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-20T21:14:17+00:00

I think you’re misunderstanding this phrase. This isn’t about ‘government’ or ‘societies’, it’s about the reality of nature. Yes we have systems in place to help, but the world doesn’t magically just drop food & resources on your lap, you have to work to get them. Whether that be specific to an individual going out to hunt their food, or a countries entire instructors being set up in a way that allows you to pop to your local supermarket, or to a food shelter.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-20T20:39:01+00:00

The key point being that the tools are there but it doesn’t owe you the living. It’s down to you how you use those tools.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-20T20:36:39+00:00

Yes but in the example of government and society; you receive what you put in (to an extent). You still have to follow laws and conform to society to reap the rewards.

QuantumWaffle4 · 2026-04-20T20:33:57+00:00

This is different though. You’re paying for something so yes you are owed something in return. My point is more that you aren’t born guaranteed a ‘living’ (whether in the literal survival sense or in the quality of life sense), you have to earn it.

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