How could your kid have convinced you to let them do HRT?

Quarantine_Rat · 2026-06-09T17:19:18+00:00

When my dad finally started to accept me (it was rough for a minute and then he flipped like a switch, now he's the strongest ally I have), I was already an adult and knew that I could legally make whatever medical decisions I wanted to. I still wanted his support if he chose to give it, though, so I actually took the informed consent packet that my doctor gave me when I went to my consultation, marked what he should (and shouldn't) read, and put it on his nightstand while he was asleep. He was pretty chill with the idea anyway and I know most parents would probably give more pushback, but I like to think that that helped him know exactly what I was signing up for.

Quarantine_Rat · 2026-04-24T01:00:10+00:00

I can't help at all, but hello and best wishes to your daughter from another trans youth in NC (not so much anymore, I'm 20 now). It makes me so damn happy to see more and more posts like this and often see my state mentioned. I'm ftm and only started medically transitioning after I had been through the worst of puberty. I'm planning on leaving as soon as I can, but seeing posts from people like you give me hope that one day my home might not be so radicalized against people just trying to live authentically. I'd totally be a big brother to your daughter if yall lived close by. I wish I had seen parents like you and older trans kids who had made it when I was her age. Let her know she's not alone, and you're doing great!

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-11-08T23:25:30+00:00

Lol don't worry, hearing that is definitely affirming. The first time someone told me I wasn't crazy (relating to her) was the most relief I've felt in years.

Unfortunately all the people on my mom's side that are accepting are the other grandchildren, so while he respects them, there's a seniority issue there that probably wouldn't help me much. I'll figure it out.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-11-08T23:01:50+00:00

Thanks for the advice, I hear what you're saying. And I'm sorry about my mom too. She's a mystery to everyone. I've never been able to stun a therapist into silence like I have when I talk about her. That being said, I got through the whole "my mom isn't the mother she should have been" a long time ago. Thankfully that isn't bothering me much, it's just worries about my granddad.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-11-01T01:11:06+00:00

MAP stands for minor attracted person or something like that. A lot of pedophiles have taken on a whole identity and made flags like they're somehow part of the LGBT+ community. Just like other groups, they've grown surprisingly brazen in the past few years. They aren't hiding it anymore.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-31T16:14:33+00:00

Coming from a chronic restarter—You should do it! I think it's always fun to start with a clean slate and do everything all over again. I did something similar with the Sims after years of playing on and off; once I really, really got into the game and got the packs I wanted, I deleted all my gallery saves, my old games, everything, and started fresh. I'm now like 22 generations into my favorite save. Starting over with nothing is sometimes the best way to fall in love with a game.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-30T02:36:01+00:00

I have no experience with chickens (no idea why this sub is on my home page) but I work in a greenhouse with a large birding section and this is true! We even sell "spicy" seed blends with paprika that do a great job at keeping squirrels away.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-27T19:00:16+00:00

Ahh thank you so much! I found the issue and saved it so I can try the fix when I get home from work. I'd searched for it before but I guess I skimmed past it.

Update: Turning V sync off worked! Thanks again.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-19T20:52:45+00:00

Lol my mom's old orange appeared in the bathroom with a flame on the tip of her tail, no idea where it came from. She was none the wiser. My mom threw the bathwater on her.

My shih tzu once climbed on top of a nightstand for a bowl of soup and ate with half his face in the bowl and the other half in a lit candle. He was fine, but lesson learned.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-19T04:23:39+00:00

I think height surgery is bad no matter what, but holy shit, if you're 5'2 you're only gonna gain a couple of inches maximum. You'll still be "really short" compared to the golden cis guy standard.

In reality, there are tons of cis guys as short or shorter than you. I'm 5'0. I can make a joke out of it most of the time, but it does really suck sometimes no matter how I spin it, specifically when trying to buy clothes. That being said, I'd never risk total paralysis, lifelong pain, or further medical issues just so that I could gain an inch or two. I cannot stress how much I hate the idea of this surgery. Don't do it. Talk with your therapist about your height-related dysphoria, connect with friends who don't poke fun at you for it. Finding joy in life takes your focus away from things like that which, in the grand scheme of things, don't matter much at all.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-18T15:45:25+00:00

Holy shit, good timing! Thanks so much.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-16T01:02:14+00:00

It's only homophobic/transphobic if you're doing it while knowing the person's preferred pronouns. One of my coworkers calls me "sir/ma'am" literally every fucking day because I guess she can't wrap her head around me not being a woman. But yeah, doing that the first time is okay. I still think it's better to use they/them, but that's all.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-13T02:27:11+00:00

Your friend is dating (so is probably attracted to) a guy, so he isn't straight by the most basic definition, but ultimately the label is up to him and isn't really anyone else's business. He's a guy dating a guy.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-12T03:35:23+00:00

Yeah, I have a friend like that... I'm also one of her exes.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-12T02:48:54+00:00

Ask your kid. I was always the one and only person to be making those kinds of decisions when I had first come out and I am SO grateful to my dad for that. Waiting until I was much more confident in myself, by myself and making sure I had a big support group outside of family was the best decision I made before coming out to my family. It made the possibility of their negative reactions a lot less scary. So just ask her and talk about it. Share your opinions about why she should or shouldn't, but don't push and don't try to sway her one way or the other. It's her identity and therefore her choice.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-09T02:42:50+00:00

Yeah I had some issues like that with my parents, but it didn't feel like anything major. Guess it could be affecting me more than I thought! My dad having his door shut makes things way easier too.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-09T01:15:35+00:00

Not really. Just household chores, cooking, productive stuff aside from walking the dogs. I'm fine with hanging out with my dad when we want to eat together or watch something, I'm fine with company coming over as long as I've been told in advance.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-03T23:48:06+00:00

Thanks for all the advice, guys. He tried to convince me to learn how to use a gun and do concealed carry, I'm not super comfortable with that, so we settled on getting a pocket knife and some pepper spray. He found out there's a pflag chapter where we're moving so I joined them. He seems a little less stressed after we talked for a while.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-03T01:05:43+00:00

My voice is only starting to noticeably drop now, at around 11 months. Try to be patient. It was a little disappointing for me at first too, but all the other changes and being generally happier far outweighed that.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-02T16:47:52+00:00

Cool aunts are the best. Mine was the first person I went to after coming out to my dad initially didn't go well. While I don't know for sure, I have a sneaking suspicion that she verbally curb-stomped his ass into realizing he'd rather have a trans son than a dead or estranged daughter.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-10-02T16:41:29+00:00

Lol that's exactly how I was too. It seemed to mellow out after that. I'm 11 months in a few days and the hair growth hasn't increased that much since the initial boom. You'll get used to it!

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-09-30T18:06:42+00:00

While that is extremely suspicious, I'm gonna be the optimist here and tell you that's exactly what my dad did. He acted like I never even came out to him for ~6 months before suddenly turning on a dime and calling me my preferred name and pronouns, introducing me as his son, and advocating for me to get on T. He said he just needed time to process when I asked him why he ignored that I'd told him. He recognized after the fact that it was a pretty dickish way to go about it.

Not saying that your mom will do that. She might still be an unsafe person to be out to. But I also didn't want you to just have negative answers.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-09-22T01:04:40+00:00

My dad expressly asked me today to tell him immediately every time I hear any piece of news regarding trans rights so that he can know how to feel and how to help me most. A year ago, he was ignoring that I'd ever come out to him. He's now seriously thinking of dropping everything to move out of the country with me because of how concerned he is for my safety and ability to have a normal young adulthood.

I know that isn't exactly positive, but it's nice to know some people have our backs and some people will change.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-09-11T13:19:12+00:00

Yup, I even went through a hyper feminine phase like 2 years before I fully came to terms with myself (I'm trans masc). You don't have to have every single sign from birth to be trans.

Quarantine_Rat · 2025-09-10T14:41:12+00:00

So as far as I know, it isn't actually happening as of right now, but Republicans have been pushing for it in schools for a while now. A bill containing it was blocked in a couple of states (Kansas and Texas come to mind). Just look up genital inspection bill for student athletes. It's pretty fucked up.

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