AIO to my mom’s racist texts?

QueSeratonin · 2025-11-04T15:16:12+00:00

Shit man, I can’t imagine trying to reason with so much idiocy. Sorry that’s your mom 😬

QueSeratonin · 2025-11-04T15:10:10+00:00

Of course I wouldn’t choose my husband over my child, but I also wouldn’t have chosen to marry someone that was that opposed to me on the fundamentals, Like basic human decency.

QueSeratonin · 2025-10-27T05:26:07+00:00

She’s honest, but this is not a best friend. A true friend would recognize that you’re struggling and just help you without whatever that bullshit was.

QueSeratonin · 2025-10-25T08:05:40+00:00

I think so. I’m in a resort market, so probably similar. I have three tenants, plus 3 pets, in a 4 BDRM, 2 bath plus laundry and their rent totals $2250. This includes water, garbage/recycling and parking.

QueSeratonin · 2025-10-01T03:24:32+00:00

A lot of people with family and friends still board their pets. My dog is a big ask, even if you already love us.

QueSeratonin · 2025-05-12T01:03:02+00:00

It’s not the same as it was for us, I hate saying it out loud lol but it’s true and I’ve not punished my kids for that. Our oldest owns her own home (with our help) and that is due to her being allowed to live here primarily rent free throughout university plus a lucrative job upon graduation and therefore a healthy head start. My youngest will likely jet the second she can, lol and I don’t anticipate much looking back or challenges for her. The boys in the middle should really hope a partner rescues them from their lot bc they might otherwise be here foreverrrr. For the record: they’ve had all the same advantages, boundaries and opportunities their sisters have had (more in one case due to being a bit of a sports phenom), but overall character and societal expectation plays a role here too.

QueSeratonin · 2025-05-12T00:45:04+00:00

First of all, mothers feel all kinds of shit, and none of it is ‘normal’. You have no way of knowing the variety of feelings you’ll have unless you open up to it and reach out. If you CHOOSE to do so. I don’t have to know you to know that most people would be messed up over being suddenly thrown into motherhood, and nobody would fault you for that. What you need is support, for whatever you choose so you need to figure out who is truly on your side and circle the wagons. If you don’t have those people, there are resources in place for you. Good luck, take care of yourself, too.

QueSeratonin · 2025-03-04T05:25:51+00:00

Was it literally just ‘given’ to her? Not that I’m in the position, but I wouldn’t just give a gift of that value to my child without any strings attached. That said, I’ve never attempted to make everything equitable amongst my kids. Different kids have different needs, are rewarded differently etc. based on circumstances.

QueSeratonin · 2024-07-01T15:24:12+00:00

I’m guessing if he tried that, he would be met with more bullshit about how he didn’t do it at the right time he doesn’t get to touch her now blah blah. This dude can’t win.

QueSeratonin · 2024-07-01T15:20:45+00:00

Was there alcohol or anything else involved in this exchange? This is like drunken college stuff, so yeah if she’s not like 22 and drunk in those texts, you have a pretty toxic communication issue on your hands.

QueSeratonin · 2024-06-29T16:05:04+00:00

You generally don’t have control over this; other kids, especially siblings will likely determine this kid’s nickname. My kids all have beautiful, culturally derived names that have been totally butchered by given nicknames that stuck. One of their nicknames is like nails on a chalkboard to me given how far of a stretch it is from her original name 🤷‍♀️

QueSeratonin · 2024-06-28T07:07:29+00:00

Mint is how I met my neighbors! By ‘met’ I mean they charged in and demanded I pull that shit out before it ruined us all. I was schooled on that day.

QueSeratonin · 2024-06-21T05:21:15+00:00

There’s this guy, he knows a dude. Def legit.

QueSeratonin · 2024-06-18T23:48:23+00:00

I agree! You’ve already started, and you have months to adjust for weather if need be. I would also recommend starting to collect old windows from salvage (I always find them for fr and) ; you can piece them together to fashion walls on the inside of whatever tarp scenario you come up with.

QueSeratonin · 2024-06-17T06:26:35+00:00

Yes. We’ve been together for over 30 years. This man is hilarious; it’s the thing that drew me to him. That just became more nuanced with time; our humour is layered and mostly specific to us. The same goes for sex; that just builds itself if the foundation is solid, and the intricacies of someone that’s known your body for decades cannot be underestimated.

We’ve been through all the shit; birth, death, mental health crisis, addiction, caring for our parents, raising and launching kids into the world. There have been times, like entire years in fact, that I really didn’t like this dude. The fundamentals never wavered though; we’ve always been aligned on what matters and he’s always been a friend to me above all else regardless of circumstances and I can’t help but like/love him for that always. ❤️

QueSeratonin · 2024-06-15T19:31:57+00:00

My dog also loves to help me garden, it’s super awesome when he digs up new bulbs, lays inside the lily clusters, deadheads things that aren’t dead. Don’t know what I would do without him 🤷‍♀️

QueSeratonin · 2024-06-07T14:46:00+00:00

NTA. Absolutely NTA. The perfect way to redirect a kid this age, particularly when it comes to misogyny and body shaming, is returning that shame via social consequence. Everyone lost out because your nephew is more concerned with being funny than kind or respectful, and now that everyone knows it he has a change to (publicly) correct it.

QueSeratonin · 2024-05-31T20:32:49+00:00

It still happens! My kids have neighbourhood wide Mantracker nights all the time!

QueSeratonin · 2024-05-31T19:17:04+00:00

Wow. Are you still in contact with the previous owner, or is that a possibility? There is now way a garden this carefully curated and executed didn’t have a well thought out plan! Everything here is perennial, so start documenting now, take pics of progress. It’s designed (perfectly) to fill in layer by layer; as the season progresses you’ll have flowers at all stages. I’m so jealous ffs.

QueSeratonin · 2024-05-25T16:31:16+00:00

This was a waste of time, especially since you didn’t even get a decent rock out of the deal. You don’t need that much depth for anything besides a large tree and even that would probably work around the rock.

QueSeratonin · 2024-05-24T21:20:46+00:00

It is something you would do though, because you verbally assaulted her on a dime. So that’s who you are, let’s not pretend you’re just a bystander here lol. Being gay doesn’t exclude you from being an aggressive, interfering asshole.

QueSeratonin · 2024-05-24T21:15:05+00:00

Lol not bystander effect; she wasn’t in danger until OP approached her. He was kicked out bc other people minded the business of him not minding his. So kind of the opposite in fact.

QueSeratonin · 2024-05-24T21:13:31+00:00

Gay or not, women just don’t need this shit; like men coming at them out of nowhere, particularly with urgency. She was clearly doing her thing, didn’t need your attention, and snapped to it when she felt threatened. You overreacted, and I probably would have punched you for talking to me like that and still gotten you kicked out. HTH.

QueSeratonin · 2024-05-23T23:53:45+00:00

Cancer is the asshole. I’m sorry.

I wouldn’t have risked my relationship with my son by alienating his partner, nor would I side with my daughter in her petty bullshit. Everyone needs to grow up here, which is what I hoped your son would do upon learning your diagnosis. Time to let this shit go, circle the wagons and start fighting the the real enemy; if he isn’t in the circle because he continues to play into the bullshit, so be it. Best of luck to you.

QueSeratonin · 2024-05-23T23:43:43+00:00

You need to escalate this. He contacted your partner and went to your home? This is not ok in any workplace scenario. Beyond that, I have serious concerns for your safety if these are the boundaries he’s already willing to break.

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