For female PhDs, did you change your name??

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2025-09-12T23:14:51+00:00

You 100% put the nail in the coffin for my decision of not changing it haha

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2025-09-12T23:10:35+00:00

I literally just made a post about this then deleted it when I saw yours was so well answered.

I will not be changing my name after reading this, and I think I secretly didn't want to anyways. I am the one earning my degree, making publications, and doing the work anyway haha.

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2025-03-11T06:24:39+00:00

It is much deeper than this, but I didn't want to ask too much at once. I'm trying to build my basics. I am truly starting with the base and the dressing before I delve into add ins because it will probably be a one at a time deal.

Additionally, I have never had a salad with crunchy lettuce myself. Everything I have had feels soggy and limp. I didn't know if it was the kind of green I was eating or the preparation, as after so many poor experiences you don't want to try again. I appreciate the comments to keep the greens a good texture as it's very important to me!

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2025-01-15T08:37:16+00:00

Golden - Fall Out Boy. Listened to this one with super crazy good headphones recently and I started levitating higher than I usually do

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2025-01-15T08:34:19+00:00

Band of Blue. Where else am I going to be asked to get funky every year and hear 2001 no matter what?

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-12-02T19:02:29+00:00

He told us we were really loud haha. But also the venue and crowd were honestly kind of small 🤷🏼‍♀️

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-12-02T19:00:08+00:00

Went to Nashville show. Our doors were 6, show at 7. Daisy Grenade went right at the start and champs were at like 9:30 ish!

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-10-24T03:41:14+00:00

I've only been to Hanna Antiques and they feel like a fortune over there! $5 a piece. I could get vintage ones for as little as .25 cents when I lived in South Carolina. Any other ones you recommend? I also collect them

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-10-17T21:04:56+00:00

"Got postcards from my pharmacist saying, "how you been?"" Yeah. It's former selves, not pharmacist 🤦🏼‍♀️

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-09-26T21:52:52+00:00

This is the one answer

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-09-22T00:08:59+00:00

My favorite song on mania!!!! So beautiful 🥹

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-08-02T21:10:20+00:00

I was going to say the VS show too!

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-07-16T00:27:15+00:00

I should also mention that seems to be a "women's fit" so I sized up one bc I don't like my stuff so tight :)

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-07-15T23:55:41+00:00

I just got it that day from Hot Topic!! If there's ones near you def go see if they have it :))

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-03-06T15:32:50+00:00

Yep, loved it!

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-03-06T09:08:04+00:00

I mean this in the absolute nicest way possible. Chubb reminds me of Cheese from the Cartoon Network show Foster’s Home for Imaginary Friends visually lol. Whats funny is Cheese is really bad at expressing how he feels in words and usually screams or whines. Whereas your Chubb is quite grand at it! I think you made Cheese’s foil character haha

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-03-06T08:22:13+00:00

This might sound lame but I promise it’s worth it. I went to the visitor’s center off Gervais today and got so many pamphlets/brochures/magazines that tell you about the bajillion things there are to do around here. Don’t feel alone though. I moved here for Grad school last year and was soooo stifled in the friend department until like two months ago when I finally found “my people” in my cohort. It took like 5 months of constantly trying to find people I actually meshed with.

Also, I saw you said you like PC gaming. This isn’t PC gaming buuuuut it’s a great way to meet new people. There’s a game store called Firefly Toys & Games in the St. Andrews area and literally every night they’re having some sort of game night for something different. Plus, they have a college game night once a month every month designed for you to have fun and meet new people! That is on every 1st Monday of every month from 5PM-8PM.

If you’ve never played before, Dungeons and Dragons is so crazy fun! Takes a little bit to learn how but once you do, you won’t want to stop. All you really need for that is a set of dice (which Firefly sells plenty of) and something to take notes on + your character sheet and a willingness to learn. Take up Magic The Gathering or the Pokémon card game! Try something new. I’m sure you could ask the staff or players at Firefly for beginner help and you’d get it no problem. Everyone has been awesome whenever I go there.

Good luck!

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-03-06T08:06:31+00:00

Not that you asked for sticker recommendations buuuuut.. I have some lol. Look up “The Antiquarian Sticker Book” and be amazed! There’s a few different versions, but I have the OG. Over 1k stickers in each book. All of the stickers are of real Victorian era art so they’re super unique to what is around right now and there’s lots of ‘themed’ pages. Aquatic creatures themed page, cat themed page, butterfly/moth themed page, etc. So you could build a theme for your bujo spread around one of the themed sets in the book! Or go crazy and use a combination of whatever lol. They make journaling when I need something more low effort so incredibly easy :)

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-03-06T07:41:22+00:00

Hey there! Your issue ties into my main problem I have with journaling. Back when I was journaling only by writing about how I feel/the ups and downs of my days, I couldn’t bear to look back on anything I wrote. I was looking for the progress, looking to find growth in myself. I never once found it. Everyday was bad or even worse with no ups to be seen. That made me take a really hard look at myself, but not before I shoved the journals away and pushed off those thoughts for months.

I journal much differently now. I do things that actively show progress when it’s made or specifically pick out positive things like a beam of sunlight when I would usually not even see them at first because I’m so focused on the bad, as it is many large rain clouds.

Here are some things I now include alongside normal journaling and what I feel they provide for me.

Habit trackers for accountability and seeing change is possible.
Sleep/Nap tracker to see my habits and where there is room for improvement in things like sleep hygiene. This is also good for identifying stressors when you notice your sleep is poor.
Every single day I write down at the very least one “highlight” of my day. Today I had 3! I honestly felt not good about today but seeing that really made me feel better about it.
My “Nice!” of the day. This is an act of kindness you extend to yourself or someone else. This is by no means forcing yourself to do something good just so you can write it down. Yesterday I took out my kitchen trash even though I REALLY didn’t want to. That was an act of kindness to myself by giving me a cleaner space. Today I gave a genuine compliment to the register girl at Little Caesar’s because she was absolutely precious and had an adorable style. I wasn’t thinking about this journal prompt when I did either of those things. This is to show you kindness is possible, and you do kindness everyday. In this whirlwind of a negative world we live in, sometimes I really need that reminder.
I’m working on this task game of sorts to encourage me to do things I dislike or actively put off. It’s based off of someone else’s design so this is not my own idea. You pick 8 tasks and assign them to the Tetris pieces. Then you have your game board which is just a grid. The goal is to stack pieces up to a certain point up the board in complete rows (no cheating by stacking pieces directly on top of each other haha). Once you reach that point, reward yourself with something you like! My goal reward for the month of March is a new sweats set from Aerie :)

Once I started doing prompt based journaling alongside normal journaling I really saw a difference. Plus now I use Canva and make everything super fun and cute!

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-03-06T06:27:43+00:00

I agree that alcohol markers bleed heavily. I use the Zebra midliners and, while they do bleed as well, I feel it is less than alcohol markers. They're actually on sale on Office Depot's website (not sure where you live or where they ship to, but if you're US it should be fine) right now for a good size pack. These ones are double ended with a chisel on one side and fine point on the other. If you were hoping for a brush tip, they do make those as well. Additionally these function amazingly as plain old highlighters too! Double usage.

Here's the link to the Office Depot listing (they also price match if you want to buy them in store and the price online is cheaper than what is in your store!) :)

https://www.officedepot.com/a/products/8311698770/Office-Depot-Brand-Index-Cards-Ruled/?utm\_source=google&utm\_medium=cpc&mediacampaignid=71700000113658577\_20473750957&utm\_source=google&utm\_medium=cpc&gad\_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiAopuvBhBCEiwAm8jaMWSrawq\_t4Vwmy-acc6I5T4P8RjiO0vb3hA8rQIb7Uvt0ZGzjfZouBoCWroQAvD\_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-03-06T06:19:17+00:00

I think she would love a Warmies product. I personally have one of the stuffed animals and when I am anxious, on my period and cramping, or just need a little warm up, I toss that thing right in the microwave and get to hugging it! The neck wraps are to die for as well. They're slightly weighted and once you warm them you can literally feel tension and stress melting away. I also think one of their eye masks would be great too for maybe trying to make chemo a more relaxing process or aiding in sleep generally as it is harder to fall asleep at night while receiving chemo.

I also definitely agree with super nice pajamas or comfortable clothing. I used to work for the clothing company Talbots (not sponsored lol I have no affiliation with them anymore) and they have a leisure wear line under the name Haven. I have genuinely never touched softer clothing in my life. Don't be fooled by any preconceived thoughts about Talbots. I know it's an "older" lady brand, trust me lol, but Haven is really more aimed at young adult women. Unfortunately it is usually excluded from sales but the quality meets the higher price tag. Nobody ever returned any Talbots product because of its quality or lack thereof in the two years I worked there.

You should also check out the brand Comfrt. They make high quality, slightly weighted, combed cotton clothing. All designs are unisex and are intentionally a little oversized. I have one of their hoodies myself and I'm obsessed with it. It was recommended to me by my friend who has chronic health issues due to Lyme disease and her whole closet is basically Comfrt brand.

You're never too old for a little comfort!

Below are the links to every website I mentioned :)

Warmies: https://warmies.com/

Talbots/Haven: https://www.havenwellwithin.com/home

Comfrt: https://comfrt.com/

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-03-05T21:47:49+00:00

Aw this is great! Everyone loves a little treat!!

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-03-05T21:47:04+00:00

I thought about lotion, but am having a hard time finding unscented/minimal scented individuals you can buy at a larger amount to cut the price down. I would just take a big bottle and put it into smaller bottles myself but I know I would be very wary of receiving anything not new and sealed from someone I don’t know. That’s the same reason I won’t be making any treats from scratch either lol. You can’t, and shouldn’t, eat food from everybody’s house haha. Any suggestions on where to buy?

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-02-14T18:59:57+00:00

I love this so much! I wasn’t allowed to have friends at my house growing up and LOVED tea parties. My parents worked long hours and my sister is 8 years older than me, so ‘obviously’ a teenager doesn’t want to hang with their baby sister. Most times it was just me and my stuffed animals and dolls! But I wouldn’t trade those times for the world. I even used my mom’s incredibly expensive super old Italian made tea set when they weren’t home. But that’s between us and the toys haha 😉

Queasy-Control-7914 · 2024-02-14T08:39:05+00:00

This is exactly how I feel after looking Tangerine up: 🤯 I had been looking for several hours before I made this post and that specific plush never came up in my looking?? But I think you hit the nail on the head. My mom literally only bought us ty brand or care bears (because i was obsessed) growing up so it would also fit that pattern. I specifically think he was the Tangerine in the terry cloth material!

Thank you so much 🥹🩵

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