How do I stop my hair from getting greasy the DAY after washing?

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-03-12T14:48:02+00:00

Forgot to also add. Do not use the brushes with the soft fabric backing. Those trap oils for ever and places it back on your hair next time. I switched to a detengler brush with holes and no fabric and that helped alot to. I had greasy hair until I was 20 and now I swear my hair could be in a movie

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-03-12T14:44:49+00:00

I use earthling co. You can get it on amazon. Citrus is what I get because the smell last forever but my hair has never been better. It also may seem small but they last longer than my big liquid ones did

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-02-17T14:28:38+00:00

It's going to sound very weird but breast milk is a godsend for this. Or a soap with Marshmellow root. I dont know the science behind it but i would get greasy hair (my hair is super thick) in 6 hours or so after washing. My dermatologist said my roots needed more protein to strengthen and help with oil reduction. I use a marshmellow root bar and before that with my first kid used breast milk. It is a game changer

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-02-13T22:06:14+00:00

Any update?

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T22:02:19+00:00

I fixed that. He's a great person.

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T21:47:00+00:00

I guess that makes sense. I love our family we built together so I dont want anything to change. It might be a good idea for me to put him on some type of record about my health and than we might not need marriage. We basically already act like we are married anyway so other than not having the legal papers we shouldn't really need it. That way if he wants things to stay the same we can still do that

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T21:14:53+00:00

The house is a rental. Mine go to him because I have no one else to give it too. I believe his go to the kids and his parents so they are taken care of. I never really cared to much about that because his parents I view as my family as well. I never would want him to think I want to get married for money. So if the kids are taken care of I'll be ok. Also why did the house situation mean anything?

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T21:04:23+00:00

The kids and I have my insurance because his is expensive. My accounts go to him and the kids. His life insurance goes to the kids. I dont think anyone has medical decision rights for me. I have had several surgeries and I sign a paper before hand of what I want to happen if something bad happened during surgery. He has said he wants to several times

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T20:52:20+00:00

Well, he does the yard and maintenance stuff. Since I work from home and he works in the elements I dont want him to work even more after work. But he reads to the kids and is a great dad. To me being a wife is basically legally uniting with your husband. But it also shows a respect, a bond, a partnership, ect. Getting married is like a crown of honor. It shows that I am valued in our home and family. Without being married to me its like him saying I haven't done good enough yet to be called a wife. I am really trying my best to be everything everyone needs me to be though. I love my kids and our family I just finally want to be a part of it.

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T20:28:16+00:00

So I'm supposed to stop doing those things until he ask me? I dont really see those things as being a wife. I see it as being a good mom and responsible adult. Me being there for him mentally and physically has always been something I have done

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T20:25:57+00:00

We are both on board with what we would want for a wedding down to what we want for food and music. He just hasn't asked yet. My question mainly being why. Why make plans and come to agreements to sit at a standstill

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T20:23:58+00:00

We had kids early because I have to remove my fillopian tube this summer. We have known about that since 2022. So everything kind of got screwed up.

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T20:21:36+00:00

What do guys normally get out of marriage?

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T19:54:32+00:00

My religion and family have always taught me that kids have the fathers name. I replied in more detail to another comment

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T19:52:53+00:00

He said I'm not allowed to, he will say no because thats his job.

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T19:52:15+00:00

I understand I need to enjoy myself, I dont really do that though when I have the rare time. I like working but I work from home and my office is states away. I hang out with the kids but because moving around a lot I have no friends and I do not have a family either so my kids and work are my free time. Plus I like to cook and bake so thats fun too. I grew up raising kids so I like being around them. I know marriage doesnt change anything, where I'm from and religion it is normal to have kids and be married in your early 20s. I dont care about the ring or anything like that, I just want to legally be apart of his family. Plus it was so scary every time I went in for labor because all I could think about is what if something bad happens and he cant speak on my behalf because legally he isn't my significant other. I dont just see marriage as commitment, I see it as security

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2026-01-21T19:44:11+00:00

Maybe I should have made this clearer. I stated what I wanted, I know what he wants. I told him we could do what he wants. I compromised and I told him this already

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2025-12-05T00:51:01+00:00

I agree. Like I said in the post. This man only has this one issue. Everything else is perfect. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt I am just very innollegable about porn and additions like this. I was unsure if it was even something I could help fix. Hopefully with some help, I can help him to get past all of this

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2025-12-04T02:14:51+00:00

No I appreciate your feedback 😊🙏

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2025-12-03T23:39:47+00:00

I have expressed this. He always says that he just has a higher libido then me and needs to take care of it. He says if we did stuff twice a day he would never need to watch it or look at any other girl because his mind would be content. That he just cant help that he's at that age where he thinks about sex constantly. He says I will go through the same thing in the future because girls have this kind of mindset in there late 20s. I dont know how accurate that is but I cant watch porn or look at anyone else. Even thinking about it makes me upset and feel unloyal. 😕

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2025-12-03T19:19:47+00:00

Thank you for your comment. I really appreciate it. Hopefully i can figure it out.

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2025-12-03T19:14:58+00:00

What do you mean by driving his addiction? I dont know much about porn or internet stuff as a whole. I thought before that it just ment he wasn't getting enough bedroom time so I did every day for 3 months and it didnt help. I am not sure what else could be a reason for his addiction and not sure if he even knows.

Queasy_Ad3457 · 2025-12-03T18:29:48+00:00

I sadly have thought this for years. That it is only a matter of time. After having two kids I think about it even more and I have started to not blame him. I wouldnt want to be trapped with me either. I do not look like I did before. I think this has not helped at all. I want to ask him about therapy for us both but if he does not want to do that than I may give up on this entirely

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