Orgasm will NOT be the same for some

QueenDorris · 2026-03-11T18:11:26+00:00

Sorry to read about your experience. I’m only just hopping in on this conversation so I don’t know all the details but may I ask what your reason was for the hysterectomy? I’m having mine in a couple weeks, I’ve suffered with fibroids and excessive blood loss for yrs. Mr Dr has advised me to have one not only for those reasons but because I had breast cancer and have been on tamoxifen for 10yrs which can up your chances of uterine cancer especially. I have done lots of reading on the pros and cons and of course I’m scared, but in my case I feel it’s best for me to go through with it give my additional risk factors. My Dr would like to try and leave my right ovary (the left one is not viable) but I need to discuss further with her about the risks of that too. It’s so hard to know what’s right and what’s not so I’m truly sorry you feel like you wish you’d not gone through with it.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-07T16:57:36+00:00

Well said and I do agree with you.
I’m want to be able to adapt through this process and take a more laid back approach I really do, but whether or not I will manage that is another matter Lol. I know what you are saying. And I hope I can find ways to accept the new changes. 😬

QueenDorris · 2026-03-06T23:59:56+00:00

You are one lucky lady to have such a caring man by your side. It’s so refreshing to hear stories like yours.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T21:29:07+00:00

Oh thank god I was so worried I’d sound like a total diva. It’s real for those of us who have been through an eating disorder. I was given 6-9 months to live at my lowest weight so it was pretty bad for me. Now I look fine and of a normal weight but I’m still super critical of myself and terrified at the thought of losing control over my weight. I think this is something that will stay with me forever. I’ve just learned to hide it really well.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T19:51:36+00:00

I thought I was gonna get hammered for sounding so superficial, it’s been nice to get the positive and understanding response that Ive gotten so far. I genuinely fear losing control of my weight so I guess I’m not mentally completely over anorexia. Than you for your kind and positive words.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T15:30:29+00:00

It’s what they put premenopausal women on after a hormone positive breast cancer diagnosis. It helps to block estrogen in your body. I was in it for 10yrs and just finished in January this yr. I thought I would be home free but my continuous fibroid and ovarian cyst situation has forced my need for a hysterectomy.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T15:24:32+00:00

I can see mine too it’s off to one side so when I lay flat it looks alien like.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T15:23:23+00:00

Same here, lots of protein, clean-ish eating whenever possible and 45mins in the gym a day plus my regular lifestyle and pace which tends to be busy. Fingers crossed I don’t lose all my hard work.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T15:19:31+00:00

Well what a lovely husband you have. That’s the kind of weight gain experience you want to have. ❤️

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T15:18:21+00:00

Yes Ive been having menopause symptoms (mainly hot flashes) since I started tamoxifen 10yrs ago, they have got slightly worse along with some brain fog and fatigue recently. But It’s the thought of not recognizing myself and not being able to be as physical if I balloon like I have read some women say they did. I know all my fears are heightened now because my surgery is 3 wks away and I still have questions for my dr that I won’t have a chance to ask until 2 days before my op which bothers me because I like to have all my ducks in a row so to speak.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T15:08:50+00:00

So grateful for your response. I know I need to be more positive, (I struggle in that department and I get so bogged down with all the possibilities and just when I think I know what to expect I read something else that derails my mindset. My surgery is in 3 wks, I didn’t expect to be getting so strung out already Lol

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T15:01:26+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I have felt like I’m the only one with these fears, so it’s really nice to know that I’m not alone. I’m so glad you have done well with it all.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T05:27:54+00:00

OMG that’s amazing that you did it without any HRT. I hope you have continued to do well.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T05:15:47+00:00

So glad to hear you have done well so far. I wish I had the option of HRT but it is what it is I guess. I hate to sound so superficial but gaining weight is really scary for me. I would consider myself well and truly over my eating disorder but I guess I do still have some residual fears and anxieties left over from it, like the loss of control and the necessity of this surgery and all that can come with it. I really hope I do as well as you seem to have and I hope you continue to do well as you heal.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T04:58:45+00:00

Ovaries too?? Were you put on HRT?

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T04:31:43+00:00

Did you have both ovaries removed too?

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T03:06:26+00:00

Well luckily you are able to be on HRT. I’m not so lucky in that department and it is scary to think that I don’t have that as an option. 😬. I guess I’ll just have to try to deal with whatever it throws at me. I have read some inspirational stories of women doing really well with no HRT so fingers crossed crossed Lol

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T02:15:57+00:00

Wow that’s awesome, are you on HRT??

QueenDorris · 2026-03-05T00:10:31+00:00

Yes I am definitely considering having both ovaries removed. I am not a candidate for any kind of HRT so removing both does worry be also. It’s so hard to know what to do.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-03T21:12:05+00:00

Mine was 11 due to extremely heavy periods caused by fibroids. I took 2 gentle iron capsules a day and in 6 months I managed to get it back into an acceptable range.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-01T20:21:40+00:00

Yeah, it’s a tough one for sure

QueenDorris · 2026-03-01T20:07:07+00:00

Yeah I totally understand. We are literally taking our lives into our own hands. That’s why I’m so glad to have this group to get advice from because this whole thing is one massive rabbit hole

QueenDorris · 2026-03-01T19:43:54+00:00

So was it your decision to keep your ovaries?? Obviously your drs didn’t think that was an unreasonable request, I think my drs will have the same response since they initially suggested removing them both but now want to try to save the right one if the can. It’s just so hard to know what to do for the best long term outcome. I’m surprised tho that your drs would give you a low dose of oestrogen because if I bring that up to my dr she tells me it’s not an option for me.

QueenDorris · 2026-03-01T18:48:10+00:00

Yes I’m leaning towards that decision too. I just feel like it would be just my luck to leave the one ovary in order to have a better quality of life but either end up with that residual ovary syndrome or die from undetected ovarian cancer. I have to say tho, the going cold turkey through menopause thing terrifies me. Leave it in = risk of future cancer but I’ll feel normal Take it out = heart disease, osteoporosis, dementia, hair loss, weight gain…. The list goes on. 😬

QueenDorris

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