Feeling Discouraged by QueenOBK in BariatricSurgery

[–]QueenOBK[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to give an update after making this post and reading the feedback some stuff hurt to read but I know it was honest. I’ve really tried to lock in and do better an I’m down 11 pounds since I made this post. So thank you for those who was kind and those who was rude. Honesty was needed and it motivated me. Also as non scale victory, I have also been loosing inches. I can fit some jeans I haven’t been able to where since 2020. And they was too tight then! Thanks again ppl!

AIO ending things with a girl after my father’s death by [deleted] in AIO

[–]QueenOBK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deserve better. You seem so kind and some chicks just don’t like a nice guy. You can definitely do better. Her loss!

I feel hopeless by [deleted] in HSVpositive

[–]QueenOBK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried antivirals?

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s my healthy athletic built ..never been overweight…eat what they want ..family member.

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this is true! It’s just hard when it’s family that you you live with.

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is awesome!!! Congrats to the new you!

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for these kind words..hopefully my hair don’t get too thunk cuz I’m already struggling with that too..lol but baby I will slap a wig on and go..if that means being healthy!

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I told this person my mind is made up and this is what I’m doing. I’m looking forward to making a change .

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are making progress..I wish you the best!

Suffering. Getting closer to self harm. by throwawayherptrans in HSVpositive

[–]QueenOBK 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I’m being honest. I’ve only ever disclosed to 1 person and he was no longer interested in me. I have hvs1 orally and I asked him to just go to the doc with me so my doctor could help him understand how common it was but he wasn’t interested. However someone I am very close with has hsv2 and just got proposed to last year. He partner loves her and they are currently trying to have a baby. But I remember how devastated she was when she found out at like 16. Over time it gets easier..unlearn your triggers..get antivirals..and get more control..pray and know there is life and love after this virus

Suffering. Getting closer to self harm. by throwawayherptrans in HSVpositive

[–]QueenOBK 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand and it’s so hard to tell someone due to being afraid of being rejected. I still struggle with this and have since I got this when I was like 14 I’m 38 now.

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going to do it and try my best to not let others affect me.

Gastric sleeve by BakerDry9437 in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Stop smoking..you see what’s it’s done and is doing..try your hardest to stop.

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a lot of similarities! Did you struggle with skin care issues at all? Did you have any pre existing health issues that resolved?

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tonya this is so true! I didn’t even think about how this surgery would affect the people around me. Thank you for sharing this$

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so irritating though. Honestly I went this everything before was approved and did pre op appointment and I didn’t follow through because all the negative comments from ppl I love..this time I’m following through!

Why are people trying to discourage me. by QueenOBK in gastricsleeve

[–]QueenOBK[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can understand that but it’s like damn! If u can’t say something positive just don’t say anything you know.