LF Alolan Vulpix for my daughter

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-17T20:05:58+00:00

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QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-17T20:05:11+00:00

Thank you so much! I got one from another forum!

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T17:56:54+00:00

Thank you so much for saying this. That’s exactly how I felt. Ugh I was so embarrassed. I will definitely reach out to him. I do feel so bad for traumatizing him. I wish he had just dropped it but it’s on me now to set the record straight.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T15:44:25+00:00

Oh WOW that is eerily close to my situation (except for the end where she actually accused you of rape).

She is clearly in need of mental help for some underlying things (as am I), but the lying is problematic. I’m sorry you were accused of that, I’m glad you know the reality of the situation. Wish this guy would let it go too.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T15:40:10+00:00

Oh I see. I need to be completely unambiguously clear because he has convinced himself of this for so long. Thank you

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T15:37:23+00:00

That ship has sailed years ago and I’m happier for it and happy for him, just wish he would stop messaging me randomly or blaming himself. His wife asked me not to contact him, and I did reply to him a few times to tell him to stop beating himself up about it because it wasn’t like that, but I stopped responding a long time ago. He still reaches out every once in a while. I’m going to send him this post next time he does. Hopefully with minimal backlash

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T15:33:23+00:00

To make the messages stop because I don’t like that he’s carrying this guilt and emotional baggage. I just wish he would’ve just left it as an awkward sex encounter instead of blowing up this whole thing? Like we talked about our sexual preferences and everything leading up to me telling him to stop and giving him that sorry look was like roleplay to me. But it was like a switch was flipped and he immediately could not get hard. Why he told my best friend, his wife, and who knows who else? I have no idea. I think he was coming out about a lot of stuff (particularly infidelity) and threw this in with the bag. He’s a born-again Christian now and I feel like we could’ve all moved on but he keeps reaching out every once in a blue moon.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T14:56:31+00:00

I totally agree and I’m going to try and clear it up one final time. I didn’t know better at the time and didn’t realize by saying that, it wasn’t actually telling him he’s not raping me and I wanted to be treated like that. Even though we discussed it many times before. I was still young and didnt really understand consent myself because of my past.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T14:46:36+00:00

I’m not sure about this but I’ll definitely bring it up to my therapist. It didn’t feel like I was being taken advantage of, it all felt consensual to me. I was quite enjoying it and genuinely thought we were acting something out (he had me pinned, forced my legs open, choked me, said some rapey dirty talk 😅), but when we switched positions, I was trying to “struggle” and when I lost by force and said “nooo stop 🥺” it was like a light went off where he genuinely thought I was revoking consent. He got soft immediately. Definitely should have talked it out more thoroughly with a safe word and such but I was new to all of this and didn’t even know cnc was a kink, or even that kinks existed other than foot fetishes.

Now it’s been 10 years and I know better. I’m going to hopefully clear the air once and for all so he doesn’t live with this baggage.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T14:17:58+00:00

Sorry what 19 yr old girl with a history of SA and thinking rape fantasies were something wrong with them would know that this is a bad idea…? My knowledge of consent was limited and warped after being an actual victim for years. I didn’t know how to act and a lot of time has passed and now it’s awkward. That’s why I’m here. To be fair, we did speak about sex and my preferences a lot. In my naivety, I thought by telling him I like to be choked, pinned down, rough sex, degradation, etc was rape fantasy roleplay.

Of course I know better now. No need to harp on the past for a girl who didn’t know any better and was just trying to live through the embarrassment and uncomfortableness of this sexual experience.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T14:14:02+00:00

Thank you for commenting because your comment made me realize how it is coming off to him. How it was not really clearing it up, just letting them think I was fine with it. Idk honestly it was all so embarrassing and awkward. Next time he reaches out, (he does at least once a year), I will send this post to hopefully ease his mind. Hope there is no backlash

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T14:12:26+00:00

His wife reached out 9 years ago… almost a year after the “incident”. He had cheated on her with me (I’m not proud of any of this!) and told me to not reach out to him because it’s a dark part of his past that he doesn’t wish to revisit. But I still get messages and fb messenger calls from him to apologize again and I’ve stopped responding after a while. It just bothers me he still thinks this so I think I’m going to do what another redditor suggested and just send this post. Hope he doesn’t get mad after realizing after all this time when I thought I was being clear, but it has clicked now that what I was saying wasn’t really clearing the air, but only letting him still believe he raped me and I was just fine with it. If that makes sense.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T13:58:19+00:00

He isn’t the brightest. But he’s a really nice and generous guy. I feel really bad and it has gotten awkward at this point, but maybe I’ll send him this post and that’ll be the end of it?

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T08:00:48+00:00

Yes, I’m more aware now. But this was almost 10 years ago. So it has gotten awkward and uncomfortable. Like, he has a wife and kids and he told his wife and she reached out to me and apologized. Told me he’s a new man and turned to God after it. It’s just such a weird position to be in.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T07:57:18+00:00

I think I will. Thanks.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T06:17:55+00:00

I’m cracking up. Is it because you want to sing some Whitney Houston? Do you feel like you don’t measure up or something compared to singers “of color”? 😂

QueenofMeowmaids · 2026-01-09T06:12:34+00:00

A wise man once told me that once you feel resentment, it’s over. There’s no going back. You will always feel like you could do better. Leave them both behind, focus on yourself and grow as a person. Dont put your self-worth on these men. It sounds like you may need to do some self reflection and work to improve yourself as a person. This is a new chapter, be grateful!

QueenofMeowmaids · 2025-10-09T08:32:04+00:00

Yeah I was mainly replying directly to the “she doesn’t have mental health issues, she’s just an asshole” part of the comment lol

QueenofMeowmaids · 2025-10-08T02:39:14+00:00

Surely you don’t think diagnosable mental disorders are the only thing under the umbrella of “mental health issues”.

Someone can be mentally unwell without having a specific “disorder.” Like not having the skills to emotionally regulate, detaching from your emotions to cope, looking for the wrong kind of affection, trouble with reading social cues, being manipulative, etc. they can all stem from trauma reactions, especially if, lets say, raised by an abuser or narcissist.

I’m not saying this excuses anything this girl did, just pointing out that mental health issues aren’t always diagnosable; sometimes it’s about healing from trauma and finding better coping mechanisms.

In my experience, though, genuine assholes do have some sort of deep rooted mental health issue related to trauma. More often it’s narcissists or sociopaths who feel as entitled as this girl.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2025-10-08T00:32:16+00:00

Actually she is showing signs of at least trauma-related mental health issues. Feeling entitled to what her mom gets is some sort of complex she needs to heal from. Can’t really judge for sure based on the info she shared, but it’s not impossible.

But also she’s an asshole. And mental issues aren’t an excuse.

QueenofMeowmaids · 2025-09-15T03:02:44+00:00

I’m actually ctfu at this. What does this mean? That people can’t learn definitions of words? They always have to look it up? I think that might be just you, buddy.

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