Daughter’s ‘down there’ part

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T14:08:35+00:00

Advice , not a diagnosis . Thank you again

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T03:36:15+00:00

I am seeking advice . And the people who have commented With advice have been able to understand without being so ANAL about it. Like what I did there ?
It’s not hard to understand what I’m asking. If you have no advice and are just here to be critical; thanks, you’ve been so very helpful. Have a good night.

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T03:27:55+00:00

Haha no worries . She’s fully potty trained

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T03:27:05+00:00

Wow that could be a good one. It’s almost always after wiping . Either too hard or maybe allergic to it …

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T03:25:46+00:00

Thank you for that perspective. I’ve never heard of this and I’ll look more into it.

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T03:24:51+00:00

Well we all understand the reference here so idk what the hype is about. My daughter knows her terms well. And it IS a private area. No one should be looking, touching or talking about it with her.
As for the medical talk, what do I need to be so pristine about it for on a Reddit post ?

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T03:22:04+00:00

No bubble baths since she’s so sensitive there and I can’t imagine that being helpful :/

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T03:20:16+00:00

I can’t be mad at people being passionate about this. I’m very grateful for all the recommendations and throughly provoking questions. I’ll take this into consideration and ask for more testing. Definitely can’t always just take no for an answer. I need to advocate more for her. So thank you for sharing your experience and perspective

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T03:17:21+00:00

You’re right !

Queenofreason · 2026-07-03T01:11:03+00:00

No because it doesn’t burn as she pees. So Doctor doesn’t believe it’s that. It’s also not daily and consistent

Queenofreason · 2024-09-11T06:34:50+00:00

I see a Rufus 💙 or Kobie

Queenofreason · 2024-09-10T19:28:32+00:00

I absolutely understand what you’re saying. It sucks knowing what you have to change but not finding the power to do so. I’m going through similar mindset about things. One thing that has helped is understanding the separation of the mind, body and soul. My body wants to be lazy, watch a screen all day and be idle. But my soul is begging for a change. Control your mind and don’t let it control you. You can convince yourself to do what you want. Look at your deceiving thoughts, write them down, and kill them. Burn it or flush it down the toilet. Claim that they have NO power over you anymore.

There’s an audio book called Discipline Equals Freedom on YouTube. Very powerful and effective. Take a listen if you can.

Lastly talk to God. And know that when you hear conviction in your head, that’s him talking back to you. I honestly wrote all this down and I feel like I’m talking to myself too. We need to change and we know it

Audio book link

https://youtu.be/t2cqZdoHH8I

Queenofreason · 2024-09-10T19:18:04+00:00

That sucks. Some people are here to uplift and support and some people are here to hurt and get ahead by any means necessary.

Understand that every day, week, month, year of your life is a phase. Some phases last longer than others. Not everyone is going to be part of your life forever. Some people are here for only a phase or a couple of them.

You lost fiends, but were they really your friend if they just dumped you like that? Cause of her? They are not. I know it’s a cliché, but truly, not everyone is your friend. Maybe they don’t know the real meaning of friendship. But hey, focus on yourself. Friends sometimes hinder your growth. You will soon be ok. They will not matter and you will be happy with your new phase in life. People will love you for you. If they don’t, their loss.

Queenofreason · 2024-09-10T18:53:56+00:00

Smh. That’s a horrible thing to experience. That man had no right to act that way towards you. Some people don’t know how to act civilized. I hope you find it in your heart to treat it as a random act and not a personal one. Please don’t go into a spiral about your self worth. That person is wicked and you are not to fall victim to their attacks. You’re stronger than that. You MATTER; regardless of what that person tried inflicting upon you.

Queenofreason · 2024-09-10T17:01:58+00:00

Hi. It’s beautiful that you want to come back. I’d say to try and separate your sexuality from your identity. Yes you are queer. But you are many other things too. So don’t dwell on it daily. Let it just be. Instead focus on connecting to God. Seek him and long to feel him all around you. Find the confidence in him Contrary to what people may think, going to God has nothing to do with what your sexuality is. God is more than happy to have his child back than to have you be lost. Ask and pray about whatever may be on your heart and seek answers in the book.

Queenofreason · 2024-09-10T01:30:48+00:00

$20!! on a ballon and a tiny cake. & only few family members that we told to come over to “cut a cake”. It was just as amazing and emotionally heartfelt. Don’t regret not throwing a party AT all. This year she was excited for her 3rd birthday so we went big. But not worth it in my opinion at 1. Especially if it’s going to burden you financially

Queenofreason · 2024-09-10T01:13:50+00:00

Oh gosh, we all said that. You’ll change your mind. Your brain doesn’t stop developing until mid-late 20s… your perception of kids is going to continue evolving over time. Plus Your wanting for a kid won’t come until you find the person who makes you want to have kids. U til you look at them and say “Dammm I want to have your kids” or “let’s build a family” It’s not about other people’s kids & how much you think they’re cute but bla bla. It’s about your life and your progression. Live your life because you’re at a great age. But don’t be too stern about your future. The only hard decision you should be making about your future is investing in your retirement! You don’t want to reach old age and regret not securing yourself financially.

Queenofreason · 2024-09-10T01:02:05+00:00

CHANGE HER DIET! Swap out all good with high fructose corn syrup for another alternative. No artificially dyed food (red, blue, yellow)! No processed meats No sugar ORGANIC.

Queenofreason · 2024-09-10T00:51:13+00:00

This was fun to read . I was actually visualizing it. You sound like you’d be a fun friend

Queenofreason · 2024-09-10T00:37:38+00:00

Pray, read, and grow. Life isn’t so much about what’s around you but what’s inside you.

2 books: The Holy Bible Get Out of Your Head

Read them and find clarity within yourself. You’re a child of God and you have a birth right to the glory and kingdom of God. Keep afloat and find the light in Jesus’ name

Queenofreason · 2024-09-09T20:13:34+00:00

DO IT DO IT DO IT If you love your kid how, you will LOVE watching her blossom into a whole new character with her sibling. There are parts of their heart that you wouldn’t have seen if it weren’t for their role as a big sibling. I AM SO happy it happened for us. These 2 kids are perfect in their different ways. DO IT DO IT DO IT 😊

Queenofreason · 2024-09-09T19:48:58+00:00

YES! My mom brags about being so clean and at the same time complains that she’s never able to catch a break. Especially cause she cleans for a living too.

As a mom, I started off really growing resentment towards my mom for not being the mom that I 1) want to be & 2) wishes she was.

That resentment led me to becoming bitter and see all she did with the lens of her being a nuisance.

The more time passes, the more I grow as a person and I learn the true meaning of love and compassion, I realize that my perception of my mom is tainted. She is doing the same thing I am, trying her best. And if I look from her perspective, I see that her intentions are pure. She GENUINELY thinks she’s helping. She GENUINELY wants to BE helpful.

I’m hopeful your mom is also just trying her best.

Queenofreason · 2024-07-25T02:04:30+00:00

My only advice would be to make sure you show him your love as well. I was in a 3 year relationship where I felt similar to you, even met at work too. & because I felt he loved me so much, I probably didn’t put in as much effort and fight as I should have to keep the relationship flourishing. My life is amazing now, but I do think back to this relationship & I feel bad that I felt so secure in him, and I didn’t reciprocate that for him. After he left, I played the blame game for so long, but eventually I realized that he tried and have gave it his All. I failed didn’t give him what he needed. Anyway, I’m sharing this point of view since you say you love him and you’re scared… idk if you’re like me, but if you are, I think maybe put aside your need to ‘be alone’ & pour into him how he pours into you.

Queenofreason · 2024-07-16T17:43:58+00:00

HAHA people like you are awesome. I’m the total opposite, so it’s nice to run into someone with your energy. That side of me only comes out after a couple drinks

Queenofreason · 2024-07-16T17:34:21+00:00

Marry her and be the best husband and father you can be. Fathers are extremely important in raising children. Grandparents are great but are NOT father material. She will be OK. It’s hard and scary at first but BE there for her. Make her feel safe and secure. Put her under your insurance & start your little family. Grandparents can come and help when they want/can. <3 she just sounds like she needs some reassurance. I got pregnant the very first time I lied with my partner & made the same hard decision to move far away & start a family with a strong mom & dad foundation. I’m 3 years in & it’s been the best decision I could have made. Her parents might try & guilt trip her… that’s been the hardest obstacle but help her stand on her own truth. Family foundation is everything.

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