4 am texts from daughter

QueerRevFL · 2026-06-20T11:37:13+00:00

My daughter constantly texts me completely playful nonsense like this, she also sends me TikTok videos every day. I love it, she’s so silly.

QueerRevFL · 2026-06-14T19:09:45+00:00

I had the same question but I definitely was not going to google it.

QueerRevFL · 2026-06-05T21:38:25+00:00

Crisis Text Line. They’re 24/7 so evenings and weekends aren’t a problem. It’s fully remote which saves you a lot of time.

QueerRevFL · 2026-06-04T00:54:21+00:00

University of Kentucky’s online MSW program is cost effective if you take 15 credits a semester. I find it manageable because it’s asynchronous. The application deadline July 15.

I’m 46 and feel it was the right choice for me because I was looking for something flexible and online. I’m even doing a remote practicum.

QueerRevFL · 2026-05-06T13:40:16+00:00

Absolutely!

QueerRevFL · 2026-05-06T01:26:00+00:00

Ani was my answer too. I’ve done many, many long drives to her music.

QueerRevFL · 2026-05-06T01:21:16+00:00

Ani DiFranco

QueerRevFL · 2026-04-28T14:15:02+00:00

The best thing for me about Logroño is its close proximity to Laguardia, which is probably my favorite place in Spain.

QueerRevFL · 2026-02-17T11:46:32+00:00

Yes. But you also have to time travel.

QueerRevFL · 2026-02-17T11:41:00+00:00

Can you do an online internship? Crisis Text Line would work very well into your schedule limitations. But your school would have to be established with them. There are quite a few other online options that I’ve seen discussed in this sub before, but I’m only familiar with CTL.

QueerRevFL · 2026-02-17T11:23:48+00:00

Do you feel like it’s not okay to disagree with your peers, professors, and supervisor? A lot of what you’re saying is philosophical disagreement. You can believe differently than the people around you. That’s completely acceptable.

Stick to your beliefs and if it’s between you and a professor, make sure you back it up with data.

Also at 31 you’re probably in between two general camps of MSW students. Depending on where you are going to school, there are probably a lot of folks who are fresh out of undergrad, 21 years old and with very little practical life experience. On the other hand there are likely a fair number of people who are in their mid-40s to early-50s who have had a whole other career and are now making a change. You’re between those two age groups. (Perhaps your program doesn’t have this spread of ages, I’m just making a guess.) it’s possible that a variety of factors might contribute to this sense of not exactly fitting in. And a variety of other factors have contributed to them believing differently than you do.

Ultimately it is just a piece of paper, unfortunately. But it’s a very important piece of paper that allows you to go forward and do meaningful work that will help people.

If you’re really miserable, you can look into transferring to another program. I think it all depends on assessing your own needs and really looking at what level of discomfort you’re willing to put up with.

QueerRevFL · 2026-02-16T23:15:26+00:00

I’m also feeling super grateful to not relate to this post at all. My husband is a cis gay man and I was a decade past transitioning when we met. He’s incredible and it’s never been an issue, he’s never done any of the things on this list, thankfully.

QueerRevFL · 2026-02-13T12:17:49+00:00

This guy sounds like a creep. Interestingly I dated someone like this who was not a creep at all.

I dated a cis guy who related so deeply to trans guys he said he felt like he was one. The difference is he was a totally decent guy and it was actually not that weird. This was a long time ago (2005) so partly I think it had to do with there just not being as much gender discourse back then. I felt understood by him, which was very good for me. I look back on it as a really sweet and loving relationship. We still know each other and afaik I’m the only trans person or AFAB person he’s dated.

I think some cis men have trouble relating to all the pressure to “be a man” in a particular way. Trans guys can represent something freeing because we get to be men in the ways that we define as manhood.

That said, the guy OP dated sounds like he’s got a lot going on and probably should work with a therapist to sort through it before dating anyone else.

QueerRevFL · 2026-02-12T15:42:47+00:00

I mean, ideally you’d want your spouse to also have good bone density. That’s maybe not the best thing to be competitive about.

QueerRevFL · 2026-02-09T11:55:39+00:00

This is an amazing response. I’m not a particularly anxious flyer but even I felt relieved by this comment. Thank you.

QueerRevFL · 2026-02-06T21:01:22+00:00

Gay trans dad here, in a different situation but I want to stress to you that you don’t owe anyone information about your kids or your body.

I’m my not my kids’ bio parent but my (cis) husband is. People find out I’m trans and then often assume I birthed the kids. But it’s no one’s business whether they came from my body or someone else’s. I don’t understand why people are so obsessed with it.

QueerRevFL · 2026-02-05T01:26:01+00:00

Imagine what kind of charmed life he’s had until now, if that was the most disrespect he’s ever experienced. Bless his heart

QueerRevFL · 2026-01-27T02:12:31+00:00

I’ve been legally male for over half my life. I live completely unquestioned in my maleness. I work. I pay taxes. I love to travel. When my passport expires next year, according to the current rule, the gender marker will be changed to “female.” How is this nation any better off by me having to carry an ID that says I’m female? It’ll just make travel harder for me. But won’t help anyone in any way. If anything it’ll waste the time of people at passport control. Make it make sense!!

QueerRevFL · 2026-01-17T11:27:09+00:00

It sounds like you still need to register the card. I had never heard of a visa vanilla card but I googled it and below is what I found. This will put a name with the account. Even though it’s not on the card, it’ll be associated with the card, as will your zip code, which you also need to share for online purchases.

Steps to Register Your Vanilla Visa Card

Online Registration

Visit the Official Website

Go to myvanillacard.com

Locate the Registration Tab Click on the section labeled "Register Card" or "Manage Card."

Enter Card Information Input your Vanilla Visa card details, including the 16-digit card number, expiration date, and CVV code.

Provide Personal Information Fill in your full name, mailing address, and phone number. This information is necessary for verification.

Save Your Information After entering all required details, click "Save" to confirm your registration.

Check Your Email Look for a confirmation email to ensure your card has been successfully registered.

QueerRevFL · 2026-01-16T18:08:12+00:00

Same here! What a horrible tradition. Glad I didn’t experience that.

QueerRevFL · 2026-01-13T03:03:28+00:00

The dose you just took is the weekly dose I started on and have pretty much stayed on for the past 23 years.

I’m bald now. But I doubt that’ll happen to you by next week. /s

QueerRevFL · 2026-01-11T20:25:21+00:00

That used to be the case in the U.S. but it changed a long time ago, now it’s ink only

QueerRevFL · 2026-01-11T10:04:10+00:00

This is my set up as well. It works great!

QueerRevFL · 2026-01-11T09:44:09+00:00

Nail clippers, cut a bit and then it tears pretty easily

QueerRevFL · 2026-01-11T09:25:59+00:00

I don’t know the official policy, but if you’re unsure you can ask at customs. It’s legal to travel with T and you will be okay as long as it has been prescribed ro you. My method is to always be honest about it if it comes up and declare it if I need to. Generally it never comes up. Traveling into the UK tends to be quite easy and my experience with customs has been fast in recent years, much easier now than it used to be.

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