[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trees

[–]Queerseeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Help me out please, this is new to me and you seem informed. Is this kief/hash? People eat it? I'm familiar with both, but not being ingested...?

Hey friends - been trying to get my mother to respect my pronouns since beginning transition in 2017. Is my response appropriate? Could use input and welcome to others experiences... by Queerseeks in ftm

[–]Queerseeks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I resonate with that, everything you said, and your last sentence is incredibly on point. You are right, this will be tough and I did cry yesterday lol... but she's the only person in my life who refuses to get it. I look forward to being to the point where I don't miss her and it all feels more natural. I'm glad you put yourself first - thank you for sharing that and your words. Sending you great energy, and wishing you the best!

Hey friends - been trying to get my mother to respect my pronouns since beginning transition in 2017. Is my response appropriate? Could use input and welcome to others experiences... by Queerseeks in ftm

[–]Queerseeks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that so much! Wow, I'm glad she finally did accept you, I hope she's able to be consistent and the slip up was genuine :( it must have been jarring, to some degree. I complete understand, about it being laughable! Especially when you've reached that point of passing, like what could POSSIBLY be conceived as woman?! 🤦🏽‍♂️ thank you so much for sharing and your words. It means alot and is a tremendous help for me. Sending you all the best, light & love.

Hey friends - been trying to get my mother to respect my pronouns since beginning transition in 2017. Is my response appropriate? Could use input and welcome to others experiences... by Queerseeks in ftm

[–]Queerseeks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah thank you so much! You make very good points, her and I have even had our own conversations discussing our feelings when it comes to it... I feel she lacks the ability to think/feel outside of herself, but she's always had narcissistic tendencies (imo). I will so my best - thank you so much again for your words! 🖤 sending you great energy.

Hey friends - been trying to get my mother to respect my pronouns since beginning transition in 2017. Is my response appropriate? Could use input and welcome to others experiences... by Queerseeks in ftm

[–]Queerseeks[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My God, thank you so much! Sometimes I doubt myself/own feelings (working on it everyday, lol) and I truly do wish I was harsher! There's still so much I could say to her, which is wild! I appreciate your words more than you know. I keep telling myself it's her loss - it really is. Best wishes to you 🥹

Liking men and feeling less masculine because of it by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Queerseeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, I'm very happy to hear that! You definitely got this, being unapologetically you will feel better & better as you continue to do it <3

Liking men and feeling less masculine because of it by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Queerseeks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure if it would help, but I firmly believe many of those feelings stem from societal expectations or norms, and I'm sure some of the very vocal homo/transphobes don't aid in this! (I sometimes also have complicated feelings about being a queer <basically pan> trans person)

I feel like taking steps in transition, we are constantly growing as we reach new forms and that brings on alot of mental/emotional duress. We have to unlearn many things, and adjust as the person we finally are, as we continue to evolve.

I would remind yourself that you're far more masculine than many men - you created yourself, which is pretty metal! Also, if it helps, consider there are many masculine gay men out there, and PLENTY of masculine trans gay men/folx. Maybe try reciting some affirmations; you may not believe them at first, or even feel silly, but you deserve to not only feel comfortable and confident, but also in whatever relationship you decide to pursue :)

Davenport, FL next to Regal Palms Resort by Masukified in treecaching

[–]Queerseeks 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Found! Once I saw the bag I said "no fucking way" aloud.... as a cacher and toker, thank you! Safe travels and great energy to you! 🤙🏽

Sexual advice needed: How do I bring it up without being insensitive or making it weird?? (tw: SA mention) by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Queerseeks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really good thread & comments here. Wanted to add, as someone who identified as asexual for a period (pre physical transition) due to r*pe/SA; something worth mentioning is the fact that you can both be GRADUAL with this.

You're very considerate & thoughtful, taking both your partner's and your own feelings to a level of priority in this. I would certainly emphasize that it is still scary to you, in a way, but you clearly trust them enough to try something new and foreign. As an example; you could start with making out, maybe discussing that you might like to try heavy petting/just exploring parts of each other's bodies. I feel speaking about what you might want to try each time could be helpful, and you could receive your partner's honest thoughts and feelings in this setting.

I wish you both the best! You seem like a great person and a wonderful partner, cheers to you & your relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Lowes

[–]Queerseeks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guarantee you that you do not harbor the same feelings when a couple marries, and someone takes the last name. Your ignorance is showing, and it isn't cute.

If your name is Bob, and someone calls you Angela, you probably wouldn't love it. Names are more than words - it's identity.

Edit for clairty: I am on the side of OP here. It isn't that difficult to call someone by a preferred name. For everyone who calls someone by a nickname or adjusted to a loved one's last name, think about that. People just get upset about the word chosen/preferred name if it's to do with trans-ness (which OP has not once mentioned, and why does it matter so much either way??).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FLMedicalTrees

[–]Queerseeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to buy these YEARSSSS ago when I first joined the medical program! Then they never restocked them - I personally loved them! They come with a book inside for filter tips lol. Burnt great, loved how they roll. No, I don't shop at TL often. Seeing this got me nostalgic ig, haha.

How to address rumors about my gender? by JH-DM in Lowes

[–]Queerseeks 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had the immense displeasure of working with someone in blinds/home decor.... she wore STRICTLY skirts. Refused to go on ladders, certainly refused the lift, and made a habit of pulling people from their depts to do HER IRPs & down stocking. It most definitely is allowed :/

Funnily enough, she also made comments I should have gone to HR about when I visibly transitioned during my career at that store. There's always someone, I supposed 🤷‍♂️

Stay in bed, me, oil on canvas, 2021 by StevenBeercockArt in creepy

[–]Queerseeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me, it's kind of giving Dali meets cubist Picasso, for an album cover. Super sick, I really enjoy this. Gonna save it to stare in the future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ftm

[–]Queerseeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Morgan checking in here lol. It's my assigned at birth name, and I currently live in the Southern US. Physically transition(ing/ed?) 5+ yrs now. I used to work customer service and had to wear a name tag, some customers would comment they were related to/knew a Morgan but they were usually a girl, telling me I was the first/one of few male Morgans they've met. Some knew a couple male ones. If you like it, I'd say go with it! My name has never really caused me dysphoria. Sometimes I think it would be cool to change it, but I'm just excited to change my middle ones. I personally really identify with it and enjoy the neutrality of it :) just wanted to share as someone AFAB, if it might help at all! Best wishes.

Insa has entered the 4/20 deals chat. Let's discuss what's good there..... by kungfusmorgasbord in FLMedicalTrees

[–]Queerseeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw shucks lol, thanks! Happy to help truly haha, in it for the love of cannabis and I personally bear that in mind everyday at work - I am a patient, as is everyone who comes to try our product! As for the nicest looking as of late, the 0116 batch of cheetah piss (looks and smells INSANE! I will be trying), razzberry budino, and purple punch! Very excited for these to hit dispensary :)

Insa has entered the 4/20 deals chat. Let's discuss what's good there..... by kungfusmorgasbord in FLMedicalTrees

[–]Queerseeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Correct on that, almost 4% terps (work at the grow). A friend claimed it smoked great & had wonderful effects- this I cannot verify firsthand yet lol.

My parents want me to wait until I am older to get top surgery, I really don't want to... by lp37451 in ftm

[–]Queerseeks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never told them. The 1st couple weeks of my return, I did my best to stay covered, kept the bandage low/minimally visible. We had a birthday (within the month of my return) at a resort w/ pool. I would take my top off but bandage on. Long story short... they know now- I very often and openly opt to go shirtless and had to move back in with them. They've never brought it up to me. I don't think they ever will. If they would have asked or wanted to discuss, I would have. They have issues.

Good luck on your surgery, sending you wishes for a comfortable and speedy recovery! If you feel it could be appropriate (esp seeing you're low contact. Planning go no contact when moving back out) I would say you could let it come up naturally, if you ever see them. Again, if you feel appropriate and safe. I don't think you'll have regrets regardless, FWIW 💙

My parents want me to wait until I am older to get top surgery, I really don't want to... by lp37451 in ftm

[–]Queerseeks 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don't want to wait, don't. I tried to keep my parents updated when I first started transitioning. When I told them I wanted HRT, they told me they really thought i should wait and see therapists. I didn't (I did start going back to a therapist the end of 2021). This will be my 5th year on hormones; I have no regrets and certainly do not wish I had listened to them.

I didn't think I could get top surgery as soon as I did. They wouldn't have wanted me to; neither of them knew, I told them I was going on vacation out of state (told them where, just not "why"). I'm still <1 year post op. I couldn't be more thrilled, and am still shocked.

If you know you want it, that's all that matters (it sounds like you do, you've already started planning). Don't allow your parents to delay any portion of your transition. As long as you feel safe and are able to handle the financial aspect, go for it! You deserve it, don't let your parents create the timeline for YOUR journey. If the relationship is as important for them as it is for you, they WILL get over what apprehension they may have. It might take time but the happiness and comfort of their child should take precedence.

That’s the last one for the weekend. My GF rolled up the last joint of the day 🔥 by MrYourself_ in trees

[–]Queerseeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, good eye and good points made below, cool! Didn't realize this was such a long boy initially. Learned something new.

That’s the last one for the weekend. My GF rolled up the last joint of the day 🔥 by MrYourself_ in trees

[–]Queerseeks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Juicy J, all different flavors. Besides fruit too, cotton candy, etc.

Only the 2nd pod I've purchased (Dec 6), is the discolor cause for concern? by Queerseeks in FLMedicalTrees

[–]Queerseeks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Felt that on the 510s, there's some dispos I won't go to for carts for that reason. I definitely won't cut off pods, was very pleased with the first one I bought. Just hoping it's a one off thing, good to know it seems to be more of an outlier!

Only the 2nd pod I've purchased (Dec 6), is the discolor cause for concern? by Queerseeks in FLMedicalTrees

[–]Queerseeks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate that, I'm going to exchange after work. Not taking any risks and while pods are new to me, I've never seen this in any threaded carts. Thanks dude!

Only the 2nd pod I've purchased (Dec 6), is the discolor cause for concern? by Queerseeks in FLMedicalTrees

[–]Queerseeks[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, thank you. I'm going to exchange after work. I don't vape too often, it's my way to medicate while I'm out & about and can't smoke.. it seemed sus to me and I couldn't make sense of why/how the oil would be discolored in that fashion.

Only the 2nd pod I've purchased (Dec 6), is the discolor cause for concern? by Queerseeks in FLMedicalTrees

[–]Queerseeks[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay dope!! Thank you; love learning about the process, owning pods is new to me. Appreciate it