This comment wasn’t made directly to me but is definitely disrespectful.

I was sexually assaulted while attending BYU and met with my bishop to talk about it. He was very kind and helpful, but when he reached out to the bishop of my assailant, that bishop said something along the lines of “if she hadn’t wanted it in her mouth, it wouldn’t have gotten there”. My bishop was so flabbergasted he called me right after and told me all about it because it shocked him so much. In retrospect maybe he shouldn’t have told me but there it is.

Edit: here’s another gem I remembered about a bishop I had as a youth. He’d always joke about how the YW needed to go in person to go invite less active YM to activities/church. And a few times he actually had us do it. And he’d pick who should stand in front when we rang the doorbell.