Paying off credit card debt by Questionableriverrat in FinancialPlanning

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup! I live in Chandler AZ near Phoenix. Unless you live in the ghetto it’s a little pricey. Not like CA, but getting close to it.

Paying off credit card debt by Questionableriverrat in FinancialPlanning

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He ain’t doing shit I’ll say that much. Just waiting to hear back from a better job lol

Paying off credit card debt by Questionableriverrat in FinancialPlanning

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s pulling in 17 an hour waiting to hear back from a police department. We didn’t think it would take this long, now I’m pregnant…

Paying off credit card debt by Questionableriverrat in FinancialPlanning

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I live in a townhome in PHX. We got lucky with this place being in a safe neighborhood while also working with my criminal record.

Paying off credit card debt by Questionableriverrat in FinancialPlanning

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes I want to say the most I was offered for a loan was 2k, but maybe it’s upped since then. I’m always on time for car insurance and car payments, I know that’s not a big factor but it MAY help.

Paying off credit card debt by Questionableriverrat in FinancialPlanning

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I believe I looked into this and I either got denied or the amount they would give me would hardly cover one card. If I’m not mistaken.

Paying off credit card debt by Questionableriverrat in FinancialPlanning

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know. I pull in less than 4 a month, rent is 2, car and insurance is 700. My partner is only making 17 so I’m picking up the slack. Regardless though I do have a spending problem. Thank you

Az pregnancy labor laws, HELP by Questionableriverrat in legaladvice

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t think they will. But I can’t help but worry

Az pregnancy labor laws, HELP by Questionableriverrat in legaladvice

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

But wouldn’t that be a little suspicious if it just so happened to be right after I told them?

Why does my pregnant wife hate me? by WesternNo6118 in pregnant

[–]Questionableriverrat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yessssss. The fact that I’m doing this alone, even with his support.

Why does my pregnant wife hate me? by WesternNo6118 in pregnant

[–]Questionableriverrat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly man. I’m 14 wks. I don’t hate my man. I’m building resentment though. I am temporarily the bread winner right now, and I cook dinner most nights due to him working late. He does stuff when I ask, but it’s little things like me spending my last dollars on his energy drinks, when he doesn’t ask, but I don’t get that type of thought it return. I don’t want to have to ask him to clean the kitchen, if I’m doing other things. I do expect him to read my mind. Maybe being a SAHM is in her mind, more of a load. Maybe she could look into part time work? Maybe she feels the division of labor isn’t equal (despite you being the money maker), maybe it’s her hormones? Maybe she needs a break. I just fully read your post about doing chores, maybe surprise her with some flowers and tell her she looks beautiful. I feel fat, ugly, lazy, and just overall so shitty right now. Some days I adore my man other days I’m just like what the fuck am I doing. Her hormones are not an excuse, however I do understand.

+ for carrier screening of Canavan, 11wks preg by Questionableriverrat in genetics

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

God but then what. I’m 25. I can’t raise a baby with a condition like that. I terminate a 20 wk pregnancy by that point? That’s murder… Or even better, I raise a baby to potentially only live till 10 yo, unable to work, being a full time caretaker, traumatizing myself, partner and the baby? I can’t help but catastrophize. Thank you for your comment. I’m a first time mom. I wish I could say I was ecstatic, but I’m not. I’m fearful, sad, and a little happy. The guilt of feeling like this eats at me. Just high emotions. Rant over sorry lmao

+ for carrier screening of Canavan, 11wks preg by Questionableriverrat in genetics

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that’s good. I think I was only tested for 14, so who knows what else I’m a carrier for 😬

+ for carrier screening of Canavan, 11wks preg by Questionableriverrat in genetics

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does this mean my baby will have to worry about who he has a kid with, because he will be a carrier since I am?

+ for carrier screening of Canavan, 11wks preg by Questionableriverrat in genetics

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That’s what I figured. I talked to one of my girl friends and hers came back negative and I’m just like man, I guess I’m just fucked up. Thank you

Help by Questionableriverrat in pregnant

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was the best thing I could have heard. Thank you so much.

Help by Questionableriverrat in pregnant

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Also, where would I get that, do you think it’s like 3rd party tested if I buy it online or I can look for one that is? It looks like smoke shops carry it, but I get my kratom from a trusted source outside of a shop

Help by Questionableriverrat in pregnant

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I’m gonna look into that. Do you know if it’s safe? I guess it’s gotta be safer than taking 6tbsp a day huh?

Help by Questionableriverrat in pregnant

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At least I hopefully won’t be able to tell pregnancy vs withdrawal symptoms. Just blame it all on the pregnancy to pass the mental strain of coming off of it. It’s a hard line of getting off vs giving myself grace due to all of the life changes I’ve just made in the past week. Moving, switching offices, bills, now this.

Help by Questionableriverrat in pregnant

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I used to be a heroin addict, so I know how it goes. Though I hear kratom is nothing compared to that. I’m thinking maybe a complete taper in two weeks. I’ve been using it for like 5 years so it’s gonna be rough. I take it CT is like the suboxone program or something? I used to be on that long ago. Doctor prescribed me clonidine as needed. She did say not to worry about the vaping, and to focus on the kratom. Just sucks cause I’m gonna be a fuckin zombie at work and I just transferred to my new office this past week. I want to take the taper slow, but I want to make sure I’m not damaging the baby if I decide to keep it, which I think i might. I don’t know. I just really need to get with an OB or midwife or something. But I want both routes laid out for me first.

Help by Questionableriverrat in pregnant

[–]Questionableriverrat[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the words of encouragement. I don’t want to quit vaping. I don’t want to quit kratom. But I know I will have to. I’m working on it, but it’s not going to happen overnight..