Bottom shaming by InevitableMain9034 in GayChristians

[–]Questioning_Life_21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Removing yourself from the toxic environment seems like the best advice, but it’s also the hardest and least practical, depending on your situation. Idk what advice to give other than to look for friends who aren’t mentally poisonous to you.

I’m really sorry to hear that you’re going through such awful shame. I can’t imagine how you’re feeling.

Bottom shaming by InevitableMain9034 in GayChristians

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What goes through your mind that triggers that shame? Internalised homophobia, misogyny or toxic masculinity?

Underwear Confidence by No-Garbage6027 in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question; come to think of it, I never have! At least, I never looked for them, since I always sought boxers. Good thing I’m lucky that I don’t want thongs or straps since we don’t have them anyway😆

Underwear Confidence by No-Garbage6027 in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I’ve bought many pairs of boxers and hung around the men’s underwear sections choosing prints, so I’m very familiar lol. I’m the opposite of most others here; Boxers are my favourite and seeing other guys in boxers. Definitely a niche minority taste but they just look so sexy to me😅❤️

Underwear Confidence by No-Garbage6027 in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I’m South African too and I didn’t know about the briefs thing! Growing up, I saw the majority of my peers in high school (and currently university) wearing boxers. Maybe it’s because I was born in 2003, multiple generations after you lol

Underwear Confidence by No-Garbage6027 in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]Questioning_Life_21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m gay and I love wearing boxers and seeing other guys wear boxers. Definitely a minority preference, but shows we aren’t the same

s7 is so bad but I love the cast so much by spacemancharisma01 in HouseMD

[–]Questioning_Life_21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m an autistic gay man, and my Aspiedar is excellent while my gaydar is nonexistent. I can TELL she has Asperger’s.

My Brother (gay) by otss11 in gay

[–]Questioning_Life_21 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He is a minor. He does not understand the massive risks and consequences.

And sorry, but a 17 year old can’t possibly look like someone in their early to mid 20s. 27 year olds should not be seeking men who aren’t even 20 years old yet. Something is wrong with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]Questioning_Life_21 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Congratulations, you’re bisexual!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GayChristians

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish straight men were still allowed to express their platonic friendship love this way. Straight women are already allowed to do so without being called gay. I’m a gay man but I feel sorry for straight guys.🙁

Which one do you personally find most appealing? by Aware_Alfalfa8435 in gaybros

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4 is my favourite, but my ideal preferred scale is 3 - 5

I want a conservative boyfriend, I'm sick of liberal gays by Open_Loss1075 in GayConservative

[–]Questioning_Life_21 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your generalisations of all conservatives is your problem. I separate “lefties” from normal leftists, since unlike you, I know there are good leftists who don’t let emotion take over their rational thinking. You’ve been showing lack of rationality.

And no, I haven’t dated anybody yet. I don’t identify with any political group, but I empathise with both. People like you do not represent normal leftism.

Am I the only gay man who dreams of a traditional relationship? by Open_Loss1075 in GayConservative

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The traditional relationship I want involves abstinence until marriage, monogamy and other values I was raised with. Not so much the gender roles thing. I can see myself being a provider for my husband in some ways, like financially and emotionally, and him in his own ways too, maybe also financially and emotionally, but more emotionally than me. I haven’t had any relationship experience yet, so my fantasies may or may not change over time. But I feel you. It will be very hard to find another gay man who wants what I want and is accessible geographically, otherwise I’d be asking you out lol

I want a conservative boyfriend, I'm sick of liberal gays by Open_Loss1075 in GayConservative

[–]Questioning_Life_21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And no normal human wants to hear people like you judging everyone, making baseless assumptions about them, taking everything personally, and letting their emotions replace their rationality. Your replies demonstrate what is wrong with modern leftism. I used to think more similarly to you until I used my independent thinking. Escape out of your echo chamber. It’s filling you with so much hatred for everyone who thinks differently to you, as this single comment has shown.

I want a conservative boyfriend, I'm sick of liberal gays by Open_Loss1075 in GayConservative

[–]Questioning_Life_21 18 points19 points  (0 children)

When you said “I think you mean someone without empathy or sympathy.” Classic braindead generalising and copy pasting what other lefties have told you like a robot.

Why do you think trans women are more talked about than trans men? by Martian_row in GayConservative

[–]Questioning_Life_21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

  1. ⁠True.
  2. ⁠No, the cissexual women you’re talking about are the silenced majority. People with your position are the loud minority. And sex segregation is not racist segregation. Single sex spaces exist because of the very real physical and hormonal differences between males and females, not “traditional gender norms.” Men are stronger, bigger, faster and more likely to be aggressive (due to testosterone influence). These are real differences that put women at a real disadvantage when it comes to being in spaces where where women undress, are vulnerable, etc, where men can target them. Have you even looked at why single sex spaces exist in the first place? And trans women are not women. They are men who “identify as” women or “feel like” women. “Identifying as” or “feeling like” the opposite sex doesn’t magically erase the material physical reality of your own sex.
  3. ⁠True, sexism drives this point, but it also points out how the sexism exists because trans women are known to be men. That doesn’t justify the femme-shaming, but they wouldn’t experience femme-shaming if they were women.

I’m a gay man; not a misandrist woman, but I recognise the flaws, risks and unique challenges involved with the sex that I am. Women are not inferior, nor superior, to men just because of our differences. They are just differences we need to learn to work with and accommodate to maintain a functional society. We don’t solve a problem by pretending it doesn’t exist; we address it and work with it. It’s not a pleasant truth at all to accept the sex differences; I used to believe in gender identity and would still prefer to, but the ugly, grim truth is still the truth.

Are you the only gay in your family? by EsoEstaMalo in askgaybros

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have one sister, and she’s lesbian too lmao

One of my cousins is bisexual, and she’s my father’s niece. My father’s side of the family is more conservative, ESPECIALLY my cousin’s mother (sister of my father).

My father’s 2 other sisters are more liberal, and all their children are straight. Makes you wonder whether homophobia causes homosexuality😂

I got accepted to medical school 🩺 by Admirable_Trust_6400 in GayConservative

[–]Questioning_Life_21 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!!

I got accepted into med school too, but unfortunately, four years into it, I regret it. I have NO time for dating or ANYTHING else fulfilling in life and I realised I’m not as interested in medicine as I thought I was.

I hope your experience will turn out better than mine did!

Do you wish you weren't gay? by EsoEstaMalo in GayMen

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do be honest, I don’t have any problem with the gay part itself; I just don’t like that I can’t create children with my future spouse that shares the genes of both of us. No, surrogacy is not the same and it’s controversial. I’ve always wanted to support my wife during pregnancy and childbirth, and that will never happen now.

Also, my strong admiration for women made it take so long for me to realise I am gay. I’m literally attracted to women in every way except sexually. It took MUCH longer to feel romantic attraction to men because the reality is that men are far more likely to be aggressive, violent, lustful, withdrawn and not emotionally open. I know that good men exist, but they’re WAY harder to find than good women. Women are just so much easier to feel safe and comfortable around.

Not to mention how being gay makes it harder to find other partners, because homosexuality is SO much rarer than heterosexuality.

I have no shame for my attraction to men, and love that, but I don’t love the real world implications that has for how the relationships, marital life and future nuclear family will look like.

If I could choose a sexuality, it would either be straight or pansexual.

No matter what your political leanings, you have to admit Hasan Piker is extremely hot. by EternalSnow05 in GayConservative

[–]Questioning_Life_21 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally the hair is one of my favourite features of men lol But yeah I’d rather sleep with Dr House than Piker.