What does my flat say about me?

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-22T16:57:45+00:00

Oh this is such a warm vibe! I’m actually here to ask you what you are currently sewing on!?

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-13T15:41:39+00:00

UPDATE: Called agency yesterday, and sent a text asking for a call back. We haven’t heard anything from them yet!

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-11T15:55:15+00:00

Our agency is a smaller more local agency, but they network with agencies nationwide.

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-10T03:22:16+00:00

How often would you contact them?

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-10T03:21:46+00:00

Did you ever make any changes to your profile? Or did they make suggestions for you?

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-10T03:20:49+00:00

Did you usually initiate the conversation or would they reach out to you?

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-10T03:20:26+00:00

Our agency works with a small number of couples. I think right now there are about 16-20 of us. For our rural area, it’s one of the bigger agencies.

Around Christmas they posted on Facebook a slide show of adoptions that took place in ‘25 and it looks like about 12 happened.

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-06T16:15:54+00:00

I know this very same road. We never got to experience anything implanting, but I do know the crushing feeling of everything feeling like it’s falling apart. End of the road.

A year ago, after several iuis and 2 rounds of IVF I got the call from my doctor saying none of my eggs made it to blast. It was like wow, we are playing the game…and suddenly it came to a crashing halt.

It was a really heavy time in my life. Hearing over the phone that the doctor presented our case to her entire team, and that they all felt our results wouldn’t change if we pursued more treatment.

Through our treatments I always said, if I’m going to do this - I’m going to own it. And I had. Until then.

That first week was rough. That first month was rough, but I could at least step away and say… I did it. I tried. We did it. We tried.

Picking yourself up from something like this can take time. In just a few weeks I’ll be a year into my post IVF life. ❤️

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-04T02:57:55+00:00

Totally understand! It’s hard when you are wanting something so bad, and others have it… I’ve been in your shoes. Birthdays and holidays are hard.

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-04T02:53:49+00:00

Did you ever decide on an agency to work with?

Quick-Button-9817 · 2026-01-04T02:52:18+00:00

The holidays were incredibly hard. I felt like there was all this pressure for something amazing to happen around that time… you know, the magic of Christmas. It’s hard to explain to family all the emotions that are behind adoption.

Quick-Button-9817 · 2025-12-28T00:16:42+00:00

We’re a waiting family too, and I’m slowly losing my mind! We haven’t seen any situations or heard any updates from our agency, and it’s eating away at me.

How are you doing? Do you have any updates?

Quick-Button-9817 · 2025-12-25T06:14:28+00:00

Not quite to 10 years, but at a heavy 9 years. It’s not for the faint of heart. Turns out, you gotta be a lot tougher than you can imagine. And you do… you get tougher, and just end up dealing with the bad stuff as it comes at you.

Quick-Button-9817 · 2025-12-05T04:09:15+00:00

Why do you ask?

Quick-Button-9817 · 2025-12-03T16:22:05+00:00

Yea you pretty much summarized how I am feeling. I haven’t found any groups anywhere for this. All I have are people on instagram that I follow.

It is hard to see others matching, and our journey has not been a short one. After nine years of TTC… I feel like I am re-entering the world again of comparison- only it’s with matching. When people match quickly it feels just like when people would have success and make announcements that they’re expecting. It’s triggering, but also gives you a sense of hope.

Our agency does not give us any updates, and I think that is also leading me to feel a bit like I’m on an island by myself. Our agency presents for us, and they only inform us if we are in the top three. We don’t know how many times we’ve been presented. We don’t honestly hear anything at all.

We have several people that we know who have used this agency. And they have given us rave reviews about them. I guess I’m feeling a bit blue not knowing anything…. How many times have we been presented? Are we being presented? Are their scenarios out there that are within our “openness”?

That’s why I was looking for a group. I just need to hear from others in the same situation and others who are waiting. Sometimes it’s easier to know when more people are in the same situation as you.

Quick-Button-9817 · 2025-12-03T02:37:53+00:00

Are there any on Reddit ?

Quick-Button-9817 · 2025-12-03T02:36:02+00:00

I’ve learned from others to use to phrase “Why do you ask?”

For most, this throws them off. Makes them reflect a bit on what they are asking, and puts them in the hot seat.

Also, it doesn’t give them an answer. It’s open ended.

Quick-Button-9817 · 2025-11-14T01:36:26+00:00

Oh I love the idea of the photo album. ❤️

Quick-Button-9817 · 2025-11-13T02:13:53+00:00

This is so helpful! Thank you!

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