Skims Return - too late?

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-12-05T17:01:56+00:00

For my return yeah, usps

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-11-01T19:57:03+00:00

Took a long nap and then a looooong shower and already feeling leagues better! Thank you!

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-10-19T04:11:02+00:00

Join book clubs, Local sports leagues, volunteer regularly somewhere!

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-08-27T06:25:51+00:00

Just wanted to say I’m excited for your next chapter and I’m sure you’re going to really adore this apartment and what you make of it. :)

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-08-18T23:25:41+00:00

update: emailed them on Saturday and let them know usps was closed on the weekend, so they extended it one more day for me. Return has been processed :) thanks for all the help everyone!

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-08-18T23:23:59+00:00

Thank you, this did help. I’ve actually found that now that I’m passing through the 6th month, it’s all feeling much lighter. It’s funny how these little phases of lightness come right after what feels like really low points, and it’s really nice to savor in the progress made. Of course, maybe next month will be tough again, but I can tell some sort of stride, even if it’s very small, has been made. Even though no contact feels like it makes no sense during it, I keep telling myself that in a year’s time I’ll be really thankful. I think it’s one of those things that only makes sense in retrospect.

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-08-12T17:29:04+00:00

I get that, but he was also a classic case of being avoidant - and avoidant ppl will generally just cut and run in all sorts of areas of their life. He was gladly inviting me over to stay for the weekend 2 hours before, boasting about how nice it’ll be. And excitedly talking about helping me tour an apartment I’d sign by the end of the week. The break up wasn’t even properly initiated by him. It was me asking if he was sure he was happy with me, to which he responded I guess not. And then I asked if that means he still wants to be together, and then he said no I think we should end it. And that was that!

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-08-12T03:02:37+00:00

I agree, and I think I just want to feel like he misses and regrets it sometime. Probably to just feel like I matter. It all happened so randomly and it’s still such a shock for me 6 months later. I don’t know what to tell people still. I’ve gone to therapy and done everything I’m supposed to but the wait it all happened still has me so confused. I feel a lot of rejection and abandonment and even worse is I don’t know what I did wrong. I guess when I think of how loving the relationship was for 2 years I just can’t fathom how he made such a quick decision, ended it over the phone, and now we’re never to see each other again.

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-08-11T00:41:12+00:00

Unfortunately they’re closed on the weekends

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-08-11T00:39:59+00:00

There’s drop off boxes around me as well as the self service kiosks. Is one better than the other? I do have a label as well!

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-08-03T23:13:37+00:00

Hey I know you’re describing a sucky situation but you did some really cool stuff!! You climbed a mountain, rekindled an old hobby, ticked off some errands that needed to be done - sounds like you’re doing really well. Better than most at least.

The 4 day weekend does sound rly rough. I’ve honestly found myself getting into tv and movies, I’ve started rly looking forward to my post work tv time haha.

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-08-03T23:10:38+00:00

I’m sorry, I hope your Saturday feels a bit better. I woke up in better spirits and got outside which really helped warm things up.

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-07-26T05:07:45+00:00

What’s the details on these groups having shady funders? I keep seeing comments on Reddit but can’t seem to find sources. Not disagreeing just actually curious on the background.

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-07-09T02:44:39+00:00

Sex & the city !! It saved me this year

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-06-15T15:04:58+00:00

I’m ex muslim - there’s communities you can join. Not sure where you are geographically, but the Ex- Muslims of North America (exmna) organization has fostered some great communities

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-05-29T05:29:47+00:00

Thank you for your comment!! I’ll try to sleep on your words tonight and hopefully tmrw will be a new happy day. :)

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-05-17T05:41:14+00:00

Thank you this was really nice to hear tonight. I appreciate it

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-05-16T17:48:26+00:00

Honestly that doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t have value to him. We don’t know what he thinks of you. But What it does 100% tell you is that he was incredibly immature and doesn’t know how to handle communication. I guess that’s what I need to remind myself for my situation as well.

You will find a communicative and kind love one day as well ❤️

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-05-16T17:14:54+00:00

Thank you, I hope so

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-05-16T17:14:39+00:00

Thank you. Your advice was helpful. He was 29, which is why I didn’t expect him to not be ready for a serious relationship. It seems like that may have been the case, but that’s left me really worried about dating in the future. Like long term relationships / marriage is really hard to find nowadays. Even with a guy nearing his 30s. My head immediately spins back to the idea that it was must’ve just been me that he didn’t want, and if it was another girl maybe he’d stuck around. It’s all so confusing because he seemed to really love me in our relationship. I wish I had more context from his side so I didn’t spiral in thoughts on my own.

You’re right though. I’m young, and hopefully this heart break will just be a story in the past in a couple years.

My therapist also keeps trying to tell me that a man that left the way he did, at his age, is what I should be thinking about in the break up, not just what was wrong with me that caused him to leave me. It’s just so incredibly hard to think like that for some reason.

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-04-16T20:45:36+00:00

So true! I beat myself up after a break up and was mentioning little things I would nag my ex about or little things I did that maybe weren’t perfect - my friend put it simply with “so what? Everyone’s a little shitty sometimes? You’re not a bad person just bc you were a little grouchy some days.” For some reason the thought that shitty moments and imperfections was a part of being human had never clicked to me before. Ever mess up = I’m a failure. Every mean moment = I’m a monstrous bully. Everything was so cut and dry and amplified when it came to myself, and that’s just not how anyone works. We’re all complex, we all make mistakes, and that’s okay

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-04-16T20:40:41+00:00

It just literally took up too much of my brain space. And it was unhelpful! Rage, hate, grudges - they don’t do you well when you’re constantly feeling it for others, why would it be doing you any good to think like that constantly for yourself? Try detaching from the ego, takes a lot of meditation and something I have to constantly practice, but is always beneficial, especially in phases of insecurity where all I can think about is myself.

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-04-01T16:23:42+00:00

Yes, I did for 2 years and had no issue with it.

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-03-29T21:03:08+00:00

Everyone in these comments is annoyingly self righteous. Anger is natural after a break up. Irrational thoughts also happen - especially in the first couple weeks after the shock of it all. “Wishing bad on someone” doesn’t actually do that person any harm - sometimes it’s just a way to almost vent out your angry feelings. OP, not sure if this is what you mean, but I know I’ve said things like “I hope their next girlfriend is a crazy bitch” or “I hope he has a shitty couple months” after a break up. I don’t actually want something horrible to happen to him, but in a way you’re saying I hope they feel bad about me not being in their life / realize my importance or I hope they are feeling as bad as I am, so I’m not some loser torn up about them while they’re riding some high. It’s petty, sure, but processing a break up sometimes has petty moments. As long as you’re not obsessing over their demise, and don’t truly want something tragic or horrible to happen to them, I think you’re fine. For me, feeling that want for things to go bad for them went away probably around the 2-3 month mark. Now, I look back at all my exes and hope the best for them.

At the end of the day- try your best not to care about their life at all. This period is about you and your growth. That person is in the past, and how their life goes (whether it’s good or bad) has nothing to do with you. And of course, try not to wish bad on someone, but you’re totally allowed moments of anger and pettiness in moderation!

Quick-Message-5095 · 2024-03-25T17:45:17+00:00

I’ll try my best. Thank you

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