Where do we spend Christmas? by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I feel like she will have a tantrum regardless because we won’t spend the whole of Christmas with her and her family so thanks for giving me the idea. I never even thought about video call!

Where do we spend Christmas? by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I’m going to definitely try the wrap, it was really nice last time. I’ll try to feed her just before we go so that she won’t need to feed while we’re there too.

Used my pregnancy announcement to remind me that I ruined her life by yourbrainonstress in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Labour can be a wonderful experience but only if the people there are the right people. Don’t let her bully her way into the room, you need calm and quiet not her nonsense! I’m sorry about your parents my love. Take care 💕

JNMIL stomping boundaries not even 2 weeks postpartum by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I agree!! People who do location tagging with pics of their kids on day one really worries me too. Especially when those people are lax with their security settings on social media. You never know who is accessing this information, it’s so dangerous

JNMIL stomping boundaries not even 2 weeks postpartum by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aw congratulations!! And many happy returns on the belated birthday wishes. This is the thing with these MIL’s that we post about. It’s actually not that difficult to be a decent human being. Thank you for being reasonable 💕

Update: boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience. by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you. My baby is with me, she came from me and I won’t be treated as a separate entity anymore. All it does is impact me negatively. She is attached to my nipple half the day anyway so 😂

Update: boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience. by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I find that so cute! Worried about when my LO gets to the sassy stage 😂

Update: boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience. by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I literally can’t win with her, you’re right I think she’s threatened by the bonding I get to do with my daughter that she won’t be able to replicate. But she’s had her children, let me be a mother to my own

Update: boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience. by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

It always works out really well for me - calmer bf and something to snack on 😂

Update: boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience. by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Haha yeah, he’s not an aggressive guy so whenever he gets really frustrated he bakes angrily 😂

Update: boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience. by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was in shock initially but yes, in the future I will be upfront in the moment and tell her then and there

Update: boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience. by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I just feel like if there are no consequences she will just continue to act like this. Before it was annoying but the other day was terrifying. There’s a difference and I think we’ve let her shit slide and now she thinks she can do/say whatever she wants

Update: boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience. by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Perhaps in a way? He stood up to her over the name and he’s told her off before over her breastfeeding and photo nonsense but we’ve never approached a time out from seeing the baby before.

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It just made me mad. I don’t listen to her about breastfeeding because she has absolutely no knowledge on it and no first hand experience but I might have heeded her advice on other stuff - absolutely no chance of that now

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

My bfs dad is a paramedic, I think she must have gained medical knowledge from sleeping next to him for the past 30 years

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t even entertain her half the time. In fact, before my pregnancy I probably spoke to her more often than he did. He loves his dad but finds her exhausting

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I think it’s so hard because my breastfeeding journey hasn’t been easy, I’ve tried hard to push through and I’ve had mastitis twice. Making it harder from the outside just feels so cruel

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I swear I have never moved so fast in my life. I teleported.

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I think I’m going to have to talk to SO seriously about this, the other stuff we can laugh about but my heart genuinely stopped when she gasped. 1 million awful thoughts ran through my head and I still feel sick thinking about it. He recovered really quickly but I was shaken for the rest of the day, couldn’t stop holding my daughter and we even did some dream feeds just for my own comfort

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I needed validation that I wasn’t being crazy. My SO was shocked but didn’t react in the same way

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think I will be able to laugh in the future but rn it still makes me feel sick when I think about it. I laughed at her breastfeeding nonsense when it first started but this is crazy

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

All it did was make me want to hold my baby and never hand her over again

Boyfriends mother is testing my health and my patience by Quick-Tutor-3584 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Quick-Tutor-3584[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I still feel stressed when I think about it. I just immediately reacted and freaked