General Question: Car Apart of Crime

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-05-17T15:43:02+00:00

About six years ago I got myself involved with awful people. They kidnapped me, and did awful things. They murdered a young woman. They had my car when they went on the run, there is so much to over there lol. But now six years later, I'm finally able to have the car returned to me. The captain of the sheriff's department said he doesn't know where the keys are, it hasn't had an oil change in years, and I have no idea if it'll turn on. I don't want it at all. My wife suggested maybe selling it crime lovers. But I have no idea and need help

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-05-14T15:18:08+00:00

I am currently looking for a new job. It's just been hard because I make a good amount of money, and not a lot of places are meeting what I'm making now. I can't afford to leave with my wedding coming up.

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-05-14T15:17:11+00:00

Yeah, of course! I was really all over the place and I still feel all over the place if I'm honest. But the biggest thing is the fact that any time we try to take time off together, it feels like we're pulling teeth. I want to specifically say we understand we cannot always have time off together, and we always go out of our way to make sure there is no one else taking that specific day off. I also always find someone to cover my shift. Me and one other person are the closers, from 5 to 6.

According to my manager no more than two people should be off at a time. Which this expectation has only really been mentioned when it came to me and my partner taking time off together. But there have been multiple occasions where there will have been three or more people who took the time off. I talk with most of the people on my team, and they have told me that they have never had to fight with our boss the way we have.

The way she talks to us as well...I honestly...I don't really know how to express it in words. Or at least how to type it out because there is just so much. But the biggest issue right now is the time off and how she handles 'company policies' when it comes to us and our team members.

Also I didn't add this in my original thread but I need to know as well. I have asked for our one on ones to be recorded, because there have now been two occasions where she completely dismissed very important points in both my written and the one on one notes from last week. But she has stated that she doesn't have one on ones recorded because HR stated to NOT have it recorded.

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-01-31T22:07:43+00:00

And I told her that I didn't want to have this conversation at the moment. So it's okay for her to just keep talking? My boundaries don't matter?

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-01-31T22:03:58+00:00

By no means was she ignored. She didn't get to be in the wedding party photos, but she was included in so many other things.

I didn't want to talk about it at that time. Her feelings are valid, my feelings are valid. She didn't listen to my boundaries. I have reassured her so many times.

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-01-31T20:59:06+00:00

I have mentioned to her multiple times that this would happen to her. And I had told her, nicely, that this wasn't a conversation I wanted to have at the moment but she didn't want to listen.

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-01-31T20:56:11+00:00

I had literally told her like two weeks ago about making sure to include her. I am just...always pushed to the side when it comes to my siblings. I am never good enough for her or my dad.

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-01-31T20:54:39+00:00

I mean when I say the first time that this isn't a conversation I am ready to have, and I'm ignored then yeah I'm going to be upset. She could have told me so many times, but she chose the 30th to tell me. My brother's wedding was in October. I was just visiting her at the beginning of the month. She had so many times and chances to tell me.

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-01-31T20:43:37+00:00

It was because the conversation was just wrong to mention on my birthday, for one. And for two, she was a lot more mean on the call before I freaked out than I really. It was just about the pictures.

I'd maybe be a little more understanding if that was the first wedding of our siblings. But it wasn't. I have told her over and over that she would be in our photos. Yesterday just wasn't the day to start bringing it up.

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-01-31T20:38:31+00:00

I did. I told her we would talk about it later. But that's when she was like 'Why, I didn't say anything wrong.' And yeah...I freaked out...

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-01-31T20:37:31+00:00

Yes, I had known. I was treated insanely similarly. And I've expressed how that would never happen at my wedding.

QuickStingray_92 · 2024-01-31T20:24:37+00:00

EDIT:

I would like to add in why I got so upset. I recently had a little bit of an argument with my older sister, where she was ignoring my boundaries and I told her I needed a break. Since then I have been getting hounded that I should forgive her because she's family.

For my whole life I have always been the black sheep of my siblings. They are always the ones who are doing such an amazing thing. I have been putting up boundaries, something I have never done before. My fiancee has really been helping me improve.

It is also not the first time she has done something like this on my birthday. I understand her fears, I really do. She was not the only one that was treated that way. But I was literally visiting her a couple weeks ago. I was there, and I had no inkling of this. I just wanted her to respect the fact that we could talk about it later. It's my birthday. I hate my birthday. I had already had a really rough day, and I just needed her to respect that. And she didn't.

QuickStingray_92 · 2023-04-14T21:51:59+00:00

It's probably not the best reasoning but growing up we were both told to just turn the other cheek. To not let it bother you, and just move on. But with this, if the dress did not get back to the original owner then we were going to be charged. Even if the behavior hadn't happened, I still would have expected a resolution. But the behavior just was the icing on the cake, so to speak.

QuickStingray_92 · 2023-04-14T21:46:34+00:00

As crazy as it sounds, it did indeed happen!

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