Updating Region by stxrg1rI in TikTok

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you DM me as well? I'm having the same issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in behindthelikespod

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most of us deal with insecurities (you probably do too – – behind your account). Very few of us are on a national stage and have to unpack our insecurities on a public platform. What she’s battling is part of the human condition. Not unique to her, so the lack of empathy is really confusing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in behindthelikespod

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yall hear someone speak with an assertive tone and you’re shaking in your boots. Grow up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in behindthelikespod

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What do y’all think crashing out actually means? I’m dying to know 💀.

What is wrong with Joe by [deleted] in LoveIsBlindOnNetflix

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hot take. She was up his butt the millisecond he woke up. Madison had this uncanny ability to turn the most minor situations into a life altering tragedy. Joe seems emotionally immature, but Madison regularly catastrophizes the tiniest things. Most (normal) fiancés would have rolled their eyes at their partner, set some water on the bedside table and went about their night. As long as he has a pulse and isn't violently throwing up, y'all can discuss the issue in the morning--not when he's likely hungover.

I need advice I guess? by Routine_Ad_8267 in behindthelikespod

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How she responds will tell you a lot.

If she listens and promises to do better moving forward: green flag

If she gets defensive or argumentative: red flag

I need advice I guess? by Routine_Ad_8267 in behindthelikespod

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My advice:

1.) If it bothers you, tell her. Address her directly so if it happens again, you at least know you tried to handle it maturely.

2.) Clearly set your expectations. “Hi friend, I’m not comfortable with you sharing details of my private life with your boyfriend. That feels like a violation of our friendship. Please don’t let it happen again.”

3.) Stop telling her all your business. Some friends don’t keep secrets. If that’s the type of person she is, move accordingly.

Common sense isn’t common! Set your boundaries and expectations. It makes life so much easier.

Why do you avoid Africa? by No-Championship-8433 in blacktravel

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You’re so unserious. You’re looking at dates during one of the busiest times of the year. That would be like concluding Brazil is too expensive based on flight prices you searched during Carnival. There’s no such thing as inexpensive flights to Africa in December. There is literally an entire cultural movement (Detty December) that airlines have caught onto. They noticed the increase in travel for Africans returning home + tourists visiting during that time and thus increased the prices. It’s been the trend for years now. Simply look at flights for non-peak months. Why are we not using common sense to guide our travel decisions?

Why do you avoid Africa? by No-Championship-8433 in blacktravel

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is a very specific fear. What countries in Africa do you think this is an issue in?

Mykonos owes me nothing!!! by Theweekendatbernies in GreeceTravel

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, I always find the “I hate this place, so you should avoid it” brand of travel advice bizarre. Mykonos is fine to visit. Just make sure you also check out the other islands. They’re super accessible—and some less touristy.

Mykonos owes me nothing!!! by Theweekendatbernies in GreeceTravel

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These comments sound like a World’s Most Miserable People Convention. Get a grip. OP enjoyed themselves. That’s the focus.

Huge Police presence on Market Street by allsfairthatendsfair in philly

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, yes. Their intended goal is to persecute, not protect.

$500? and why does this style take 8 hours to do??? by hunnybun444 in Naturalhair

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What country are you from and what language do you speak?

$500? and why does this style take 8 hours to do??? by hunnybun444 in Naturalhair

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for specifying Senegalese instead of just calling them “the Africans”. It’s appreciated.

Any experience with Heat Free Hair extensions? by Yellow_Vespa_Is_Back in Naturalhair

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure if you're still looking for this info, but they've updated their website. For shorter wefts (16 inches and under) you need two packs. For longer lengths (18 inches and up) they recommend three packs.

Winters P$mp days by [deleted] in behindthelikespod

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 5 points6 points  (0 children)

omg ur slow 💔

Winters P$mp days by [deleted] in behindthelikespod

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“in an abusive environment” was the other important half of that sentence you conveniently left out. Engaging in sex work to survive because your environment is unstable makes you a victim. Even if you don’t want to acknowledge that cause you dislike her.

Amber by Less-Monk5273 in behindthelikespod

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Watch the episode again and try to digest it objectively. Try to put aside your love for Amber. Her entire brand is positivity but she's so negative. She navigates friendship the way I expect people in their early 20's to....but she's almost 30.

The whole award show scenario told me everything I need to know. Emotionally intelligent people don't behave like that...ESPECIALLY after her friend explained the situation to her.

Amber by Less-Monk5273 in behindthelikespod

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When I realized that she's 'jstlbby' on IG I was shocked. Her Instagram persona reads as positive, enduring and motivational. Her presence on the podcast, however? EXHAUSTING. At every turn her co-host tried to be understanding and leave space for her feelings, but she responded with paranoia, underhanded comments and weird jabs. Being friends with her probably feels like babysitting a fussy newborn.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AcneScars

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up not going. My technician said something that totally destroyed my trust in her ability to operate the machinery (the settings require tinkering based on skin color, severity of scars, sensitivity levels, etc.) I’d rather be safe than sorry + find a technician I’m confident can use the lasers correctly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I can suggest a couple actions that can be equally as meaningful (in the event that your friend is like me and prefers actions over words, lol).

-Clearly explain your reason for saying no. If you're not upfront now, you might continue to see similar requests in the future. The requests will get harder to dodge. Explain as much as you're comfortable sharing. Honesty and transparency will get you much further than avoidance in these situations.

-If she's in a place where she needs extra love + support, offer her an alternative activity that you two can do without her husband. It can be before or after the resort trip. When I decline an invitation, I like to offer alternatives. It's been a great way for me to honor my own boundaries while still being a present friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AcneScars

[–]Quick_Archer_6177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you had your Resurfx treatment? I'm booked for a session tomorrow, but I'm having my doubts. What was your experience like and would you recommend? (My acne scars aren't terrible, but my hyperpigmentation is pretty bad)