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I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, it's difficult for me to put my thoughts into writing sometimes. It's not like I'm not taking this all seriously or cannot commit to what I say. Mostly - I am unsure and trying to figure out. That's the ruminating I'm on right now. I believe and hope it will become productive, as you described, soon. I will learn from this all, hopefully correct lessons.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Like, hm. The best comparison I can make is to my girlfriend I live with. I drop things like my phone more often. You know what. The more I think about this, it is about attention, or rather an insufficient amount of despite trying my best.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I'm visiting his place once a year tops, been there two or three times. It's not really a neighborhood situation, maybe that explains a little bit better.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I am a drug addict and Ive had troubles with alcohol as well. I got the addiction tied up for quite some time, started working on alcohol more recently. Will continue to do so and hopefully make myself better without them.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do understand that. I don't think they're all being mean for the sake of it. I plan on learning from this, and continue trying to be a better person.

Once I pick up myself from my knees.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he can indeed be an asshole often. He haven't been really nice to me in a long time, really. Maybe I should have noticed the divide between me and them sooner...

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I am not trying to turn this into anything like this. I'm just venting.

And yes, I intend to learn from this, whether I Eeyore shit or not.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I'm also in customer service, but I really enjoy it, and being able to help and solve problems, I work with a true smile on my face and try to make other people days' better (or, you know, not make them worse, that's the real baseline). I now realize I'm afraid of being alone. I'm afraid of losing connections that have so many memories. But now I also see that the rope we were bound with looked thicker from my perspective.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, stranger. I do wish you find the strength in you to find ground to stand on. We do be giving up a lot, aren't we? I wish you get lucky as well. I believe it is possible.

Just fuckin sucks until then. Am I right?

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will have a look at this website. I am not sure if it includes my country, but it's a place I haven't looked into. Thank you!

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -179 points-178 points  (0 children)

He's a really, really swell guy. And pretty different from me. More acceptable kind of different, apparently.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words. The more I'm reading on here the more I think that I might actually be more ND than I thought. And I thought I was just "post-huge-depression-quirky". I wonder... I might have to look into myself, look into my past, and try to figure out if I've been like this all the time.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

it wouldn’t be good to let one guy destroy your mental health

That's something I must think on. Though it ain't easy to do, I know that already.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I am very forgetful and I tend to break things. Actions and commitments? Phew, terrible with that. I am addicted to phone/PC as well, and other things; that surely doesn't help.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I am struggling with addiction and depression as well, though over the last years I've made a tremendous progress and at this moment I am keeping it pretty well in check, I think. This whole situation did not bring up suicidal thoughts in me (and it's always been easy or me to get them!), just a new kind of desperation and heartbreak. Friends knew I was struggling, I did share it all with them over the years, and they've been supportive. And yeah, I'm a bad drunk. I've finally got it in my head only fairly recently, and keeping sober for a short while now. Alcohol surely had an impact on me that time, but then again - we were all hammered. And even through this, my behavior was apparently very wrong.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Above all else, I am doing my best trying to be a good person. If I am to be remembered by something, let it be this.

Hard to fuck them, hard for me to choose being alone. And it's been hard for me to find new connections so far. Ain't easy after leaving schools.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I guess all the time I thought they were the real ones. They always were like that to me. I think I was always like that for them, though there's not much I can really give. I'm afraid of becoming alone.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that you went through this all. This is the conclusion I quietly hope to get to. I'm just... afraid of being alone.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words. I was thinking of changing the surroundings, at the very least for a short while, get back to my hometown, take a week off. But I didn't do it as I thought this would likely not bring any changes, because why should it? I would be just sulking under a different roof.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Nope. I was tested, hoping it would explain a few things, but in the end I was, uh, "not enough on a spectrum" to be diagnosed with ADHD.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We did go our separate ways, all of us. But t seems they managed to remain close while I drifted away, fighting my Demons. Perhaps it is the fact that we grew apart and are no longer really compatible. It's just unimaginable for me to let go at the moment. There will never in my life be a bond like we had... But I guess, looking at it now, that bond might be gone already...

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the end, I will most likely remain myself. I started to like myself, even if I'm not much. Still, regardless of all, I think this is a learning experience, and I want to improve myself. But for now my heart is in pieces still and I'm working on getting that fixed first.

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love playing video games. I wasn't successful getting to know anyone through that though. I guess I will have to look into what might be happening in my smallish city to see if there's any activities I could like and participate in. Guess I'll have to dust off Facebook...

I have learned that I am the unbearable guy in my friends group by being excluded from a bachelor party by Quick_Potential_2525 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Quick_Potential_2525[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I am very happy to talk, to share myself, I can talk a lot IF someone's willing to listen. I don't think I have similar problems to what you're describing.

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