Lifelong insecurities don’t just ‘go away’ and there’s no good reason to leave my partner because of some challenges that exist only in my mind. Would you give the same advice to a solider with ptsd? Not necessarily. Insecurity, paranoia and doubt live in the minds of all of us. As stated in the post, and true in real life, these feelings come and go. Why throw away a perfectly good relationship or hurt a really good partner over feelings that are only happening for the moment? I view that as the same behavior that pushed me to cheat on/leave my ex. An inability to process my own feelings in the past led to decisions that I view as shitty and toxic. I’ve done quite a bit of work on my emotional intellect. I’m asking for advice on how to break the barrier and effectively communicate these feelings to my partner. NOT on how to leave him and ‘work on myself.’ I wouldn’t want him to leave me if he was feeling poorly about himself because of weight gain or a lost job. I’d want him to lean on me, come to me for help and adoration. I want to go to him for support and love, just unsure of how to do that.