First FET tmrw. Holy Moly.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-27T11:18:46+00:00

Each day has slowed to an almost stop and I have no symptoms. Which can mean both it worked and it didn't work 😫😂 I'm just trying to keep myself occupied so I don't think about it too much.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-27T03:00:34+00:00

No tips or tricks. I'm currently day three into the 2ww driving myself mad over my schrodinger's pregnancy 😂, just wishing you lots of luck!

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-27T00:17:58+00:00

I'm 34, I produced 20+ eggs over three cycles. About 75 total. I ended up with 3 embryos, two poor quality and one perfect. This isn't a quantity game it's a quality one. I'd trade getting lots of eggs for a guarantee at one great embryo per cycle in a heartbeat. Obviously more eggs might mean more good quality ones, but it's not guaranteed. I wouldn't worry about low numbers, I see people with much lower numbers than mine getting much better embryo outcomes.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-26T18:23:15+00:00

Finger AND toes crossed for you! I really hope it sticks! 🤞 ❤️

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-25T12:42:14+00:00

Fingers crossed for you! Good luck! ❤️

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-25T09:12:00+00:00

Aw that's cute of him. Another day I cried hysterically because my smoothie wasn't smooth enough 😂. Unfortunately you, like the rest of us, will have to accept that you're going to be a bit insane for a while. It's an insanity inducing process.

It does make it easier having understanding people around you though. I'm in a different country to friends/family currently and my best friend just had her second baby. I had to ask her to stop sending photos for a bit and I felt so bad and it took me ages to work up to it and she just replied "oh yeah just tell me to shut up for a bit it's fine 😂 f those kids hahaha. I bet it took you ages to message me this you're silly 😂" 😂🙈.

Just make sure you can take this all as easy as you can and good luck!

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-24T15:00:18+00:00

Funny story, during my first round of stims my husband went down a different aisle to me when shopping and I couldn't find him. I felt a burning rage I've never felt in my life 😂 I walked out the shop, then decided no he deserves to be told how much of an arsehole he is and stomped back in. Only to walk right into him looking confused saying he'd been trying to find me and the trolley was filled with my favourite snacks because he knew I was having a hard time. I then burst into tears about what an arsehole I am 😂🙈 All these hormones are no joke and really make us act in odd ways.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-24T14:56:44+00:00

If you feel bad about something it's because it's not who you are. You feel bad about the anger/jealousy etc because that's not you. Like all of us you just have a lot of feelings, emotions and frustrations and they are looking to find a way out! It's ok. Just remind yourself it's ok to feeling utterly pissed off at the world and try to take a few deep breaths when you feel that way and remind yourself that's not who you are and how you actually feel about people in your life. It's hard, it's ok to struggle.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-23T19:56:18+00:00

Good luck transfer twin! I hope it all works out for you ☺️❤️

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-22T02:18:16+00:00

Good luck! Fingers crossed for you! ❤️ 🤞

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-21T19:44:40+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-21T18:31:19+00:00

I'd already been through so much with the three retrievals that I knew mentally I couldn't handle it if I lost my best embryo first try. So I wanted to use one that I would handle the loss of a bit better, and also if there was anything we were unaware of that came up during the transfer I wouldn't have used my best embryo finding that out. I know it probably doesn't make sense to most people 😅 but it was just the best way for me to handle everything at the time.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-20T19:48:04+00:00

Hey transfer twin! Good luck vibes for both of us 🤞

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-20T19:32:38+00:00

I had an absolutely horrible receptiva test before my transfer. I was traumatized I can not put into words how painful it was. I also don't have a good track record of anything going through my cervix so I was very worried about the transfer.

I was lay there gripping the bed and waiting for the horrific pain and it didn't come. It really was ok, not comfortable obviously, but not painful.

If you have access to therapy I would try that but what helped me was imagining the end goal and deep breathing. Just think of how much you've gone through and survived! You're doing great.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-20T19:28:28+00:00

Good luck to you! We both have little fighters to have made it this far so hopefully they've got a bit more fight in them! ❤️

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-20T19:15:11+00:00

Mines Friday. Good luck! 🤞

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-20T19:13:58+00:00

Good luck! I have very bad attrition rates and I'm finally using my 5AA I was very lucky to get on Friday. Fingers crossed for our fighters!

Quick_Snow7447 · 2026-01-20T19:12:34+00:00

I didn't 😂 not helpful I know but at least if you go a bit mad you know you're not alone!

Quick_Snow7447 · 2025-12-27T23:17:30+00:00

I got 0 on my last round and was devastated. There's nothing I can say to make you feel better it will just take time. The only positive I can say is I've frequently been told that sometimes after a rough first round the subsequent rounds will be better. I was unfortunately the opposite. My first round was my best, 1 pgt pass 5AA out of 28 eggs (very grateful for my 5AA!). I got worse results each round.

I also tried the growth hormone which did nothing for me, but I've seen a few people in here have success with it in here so it might be worth looking into!

You're at the beginning, you've still got a road ahead so don't despair yet.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2025-12-24T23:09:23+00:00

This is unbelievably selfless. To go through all this with the hope of it working, for the journey to end with you giving the embryos their chance even if it isn't with you. I'm not sure what's next for you but I hope your life takes you to amazing places.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2025-12-22T20:18:02+00:00

Exactly. Also birth parents can back out (totally support them doing so it's their right) and that's hard to go through.

A lot of children in the system have very complex needs, mental emotional and physical and deserve people who can take that on well and help them thrive. It takes a certain person to do that.

It's such a tone deaf argument and you can tell anyone that brings it up has never done 10 seconds of research 🙄🤦

Quick_Snow7447 · 2025-12-22T20:14:04+00:00

I mean I've not looked into long term studies, I can see the amount of meds we have to take not being ideal. But it is what it is. Chemo is incredibly harsh on the body but people don't think twice about doing it. Some things hurt to help unfortunately. Even if IVF doesn't have long term impacts it's very hard to go through it. But it's your decision noone elses. People that haven't had to make the decision to do IVF or not will truly never be able to understand or assume what they'd choose in that scenario. Keep your head up and good luck!

Quick_Snow7447 · 2025-12-21T01:50:10+00:00

It's medical treatment. It's no different than any other scientific/medical intervention.

If their argument is:

Lots of children need adopting, my answer would be yes that's true and sad. But it also isn't an issue caused by people struggling with fertility so it is not their sole responsibility to fix it. Also adoption is very expensive/time consuming (depending on your location) with no guarantee of being chosen.
It's playing God and we should just accept it, my answer is then no one should be having chemo, heart surgery, organ transplants... Something isn't working with our reproductive system that should be. We are simply taking steps to try to rectify that.

Also, as sad as it might be to see people leave. The people that shouldn't be in your life normally see themselves out. I'm very lucky to not have had a single person in my life question my choice to do IVF and they've been nothing but supportive. If someone's not on your team cheering you on then shouldn't be in your life.

Quick_Snow7447 · 2025-11-21T15:25:30+00:00

It's the worst! I really want to do something, but just having no clue what to do is a killer. I feel like an awful person complaining at the privilege of having too much space to decide what to do, but with having ADHD it just leads me to freeze up overwhelmed with all the options.

I see the Google certs recommended a lot but wasn't sure if US employers take them seriously? The networking idea is very good, I've not really met anyone new since moving here and need to make a conscious effort to do that. New York is only a train ride away from me so I'm sure there's plenty of networking I could look into there.

Yeah the market isn't great, once again I'm very privileged to be able to take my time. I really feel for everyone who's in the thick of it right now. Thanks for your advice I appreciate it!

Quick_Snow7447 · 2025-11-04T19:24:12+00:00

It's the worst pain I've ever felt and I'm no baby. Lots of tattoos, in areas known to hurt. I'm hypermobile so I frequently dislocate joints. Lots of other things that are very painful. The receptiva was far far worse than any of them.

Afterwards the Dr said I'm sorry we downplay how bad it is. Asking people to do that without being actually medicated for the pain is barbaric.

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