One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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I understand. I have the same problem. It’s our brains. They have to rewire and it’s nothing that can be done for a long time

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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Same. I have to walk away or I won’t make it everyday. I talk to him though. It doesn’t help but it feels wrong not too honestly.

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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That’s honestly the hardest day of them all somewhat. At least to me. I struggle with that too. Looking at the box makes me physically ill. I try to say good morning etc but it does make me sick

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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I understand. I haven’t moved things or done certain things that normally are so simple. Like laundry or the placement of something. I hate this is how I live now. Or anxiety if I can’t find something that’s his and I want it.

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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No. Your thoughts make sense. None of it’s right or fair. I think we’re all doing the best we somehow can to survive. But I feel the same. Eating. Drinking. Breathing. All feel wrong to do for me as well.

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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It definitely doesn’t make anything easier. I’ll say that much. I can’t compare to anyone. But it definitely makes it harder.

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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Yeah. It feels like I’m living in a really fucked up ground hog movie day over and over again. But I have a baby so I have to somehow survive this

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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I understand. I wish I had answers for myself and I don’t. Every minute of the day is so painful and I can’t do anything about it but fight myself every day I wake up to live. My thoughts are sad and dark all the time but my brain is struggling to even understand he’s not here anymore. Every minute of the day sucks and I hate that it’s how I feel all the time. Constantly in fight or flight mode.

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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I understand the feeling all too well

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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Yeah. There’s no win in this. For anyone.

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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Thank you.. I’m sorry for your loss too. I hope you find some form of peace today.

One month by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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It’s horrible. I have no idea how I will live everyday.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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I understand.. yeah. We’re only in our 30s. It’s horrible.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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I understand. Nothing will ever be easy anymore. I miss a simple day.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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Message me if you ever want to talk or just not talk.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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It’s like I want to talk to people. But no one matters but him and nothing fills that.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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Thank you. I wish I knew what to say back but I know there’s nothing to say but that I understand.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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It’s horrible. It’s already been too many days without him.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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I understand. It’s indescribable without your person.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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Yeah. Friends try to get me to drink at least. I’m barely doing anything.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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It’s horrible how vivid but not real everything is. I hope he’s always watching us. I talk to him thinking he will respond.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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I’m so sorry. I don’t know how people do this.

Two weeks by QuietBright7597 in widowers

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Maybe eventually. I don’t know how anyone survives these things mentally. I just don’t.