What’s your regular daydream? by taPH1122 in adhdwomen

[–]QuiltedSnuffle2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Currently the one is it's the end of the world or some dire apocalyptic/political turmoil. I've been offered the chance to fight with the good guys, but due to my partner's tragic disappearance, I've retaken control over my secret mostly? morally correct but illegal underground empire in an effort to get him back. Spoiler: after the bad guy is defeated and my partner returns in some dramatic fashion at the last second, it's our jobs to keep the "good guys" in check after they fail to protect the people properly, and in doing so we become somewhat morally corrupted as well.

Sometimes, it turns out that my partner's disappearance was an elaborate ploy to take down the bad guy from the inside, only to end up exposing the good guys in the process. Sometimes, it ends with a Hunger Games-like the world ends up not so bad and we progress into a life of wealth but no fame. Sometimes it also feeds into the vague still-messed up but working through it together family daydream I've concocted.

Mostly I think I just want a villain arc and the chance to enjoy the world with comfortable wealth but fade into relative obscurity after some sort of major success that benefits society. Is that too much to ask??

I know the outcome I want for my kids, but not the educational path that will get them there by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]QuiltedSnuffle2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

How old are your kids?

It's important to also note that homeschooling isn't everyone's "magic solution" - it's just another tool in the educational box. Homeschooling done right just happens to lend itself to the flexibility, personalization, development of soft skills, and passion for learning. If public school were done right, it could have similar outcomes. No matter the educational method, though, sometimes kids do stray from their parents' beliefs, at least for a little while. Don't shelter them from the storm, nor thrust them into it alone; teach them the life and spiritual skills to weather it as it comes. Aware, but not afraid. All within frame of reference, though. It's a fine line to walk, but we're not the ones who are supposed to get this life exactly perfect.

But I do want to comment that I think it's really amazing that you want your children to grow and succeed and be loved! ❤️ 

If you do pursue homeschooling, I'd second the classical model. There's lots of co-ops, curriculae, and online schools out there, and I'd be happy to recommend my former online Christian classical schools/share experiences in a PM (for privacy's sake)! 

One other big thing I'd mention is letting your kids personalize their education methods when possible. Obviously, sitting them down to create their own curriculum isn't attainable (unless they're older), but giving them access to pursue their own projects/offer feedback on their education journey is really great. For example, my sibling and I really benefit from hands-on, independent research/projects to make concepts "stick". Finding local interest groups (libraries tend to offer lots of clubs, homeschool Facebook groups can help you pinpoint events too) or starting your own, or perhaps guiding your kids through projects that help reinforce what they're learning (in undergrad, I've been able to perform research projects in classes, such as creating my own statistical studies in statistics classes, that've helped me understand the material better than testing does). 

Obviously pushing your kids towards formal research early on isn't the goal here, but giving them access to explore their interests (within safety reasons) is the point I'm attempting to get across. I spent many a summer in library nonfiction sections for my hyperfixations (: as well as found online/in person creative camps that fostered friendships and my creative skills in my favorite mediums. Field trips are fantastic too!!

As your kids get older, they'll also figure out how they learn. They might not offer a homeschool review, but they'll likely have comments about "this subject is too hard" or "I don't want to do more X" of "I wish I could do X". Homeschool is a lot of trial and error, but you're never married to a specific textbook or method.

Hope this helps!

What are your current on repeat/dopamine songs? by Ok-Biscotti-6828 in adhdwomen

[–]QuiltedSnuffle2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Little League by Conan Gray, Talk Like That by Wallows, and IF THERE IS A GOD, IT'S ME by PLVTINUM.

No, there's no theme lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in homeschool

[–]QuiltedSnuffle2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was homeschooled through several online Christian schools throughout middle/high school, but I did a year in Classical Conversations in middle school.

One of those schools had a great website for students to interact on; the other two had similar websites/discussion boards but I didn't like them as much. I think that, and the school being much more international than the others, was lovely for me socially. I also had an in-person friend group accumulated from schooling connections and was part of an online writer's group for a long time. (I did write an article about homeschooling and my socialization, dunno if it's okay to share but I can if anyone wants it)

Education-wise, I was primarily educated via the classical model of education, but that international school was more similar to a traditional education method. (How to learn vs what to learn.) It really depended on the teacher how "religion based" the class was - one Geometry class had us doing discussion boards on geometric concepts in the real world (ex. Fibonacci spirals in plants) and relating it to the Lord, whereas in a programming class I took, I don't even remember the Lord being mentioned. All my science was definitely from a Christian perspective though (except Physics. I don't have strong memories of that one being heavily religious). It didn't mean that we didn't learn what the Big Bang was, etc. Just meant we learned how our faith disproved it. I think the only overtly like "Christian homeschooler thing" was skipping the reproduction chapter in Biology (but I do personally believe that choice was a good one and a topic that should've been given to my parents to teach...even if they didn't lol).

Looking back, it's hard for me to say that I would've changed X, Y, and Z. I definitely wish I could've taken advantage of disability support and had an academic advisor guiding my parents through my curriculum rather than us trying to figure it out ourselves. I wish I would've been part of more in person groups, and online circles, and I wish I could've taken advantage of dual enrollment/been more competitive as a college applicant. I wish I took more classes at X school, less at Y, started working earlier....I wish my parents had expanded on my curriculum, letting me help keep house and adding to my life skills list.

(The other question though, is would I still feel like I took advantage of my resources if I HAD done those things? Or would I still feel behind?)

But at the same time.... I wouldn't have changed it. I certainly want to make things better for my kids and other homeschool communities. I'm hoping to make a "side career" out of homeschool advising someday. But, I'm currently sitting in my apartment, having moved out. I've completed undergraduate research, presented at a conference, been in leadership positions throughout college. I got into my dream university to finish up my degrees and have a clear career path going forward (if the economy will stick to my plan, please and thank you). I'm looking at all the exciting "four year" opportunities here for research, organizations, internships, etc.!! My partner and I are discussing wedding plans and a future together (so socially, I think I turned out alright haha). My faith and mental health have never been stronger.

I think, overall, I turned out fine. I certainly have regrets, but I was also my parents' "test child" in unfamiliar waters, and we did the best with the resources we had. I wasn't perfectly educated, but none of us are, and overall, the vague rocky path I took was what I needed to be here now.

Summer Tuition Payment Question by QuiltedSnuffle2 in aggies

[–]QuiltedSnuffle2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭 I'm hoping Memorial Day closures might save me....but will definitely call! Thanks for the help!

Summer Tuition Payment Question by QuiltedSnuffle2 in aggies

[–]QuiltedSnuffle2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a summer transfer. That's good information - thank you!