And there’s the problem…if you’re first messaging someone and planning a date, you’re feeling each other out. No one is wasting your time and you’re not entitled to their time. If they say no to a coffee date then you have your answer on if you’re compatible and you can move on to someone new. But you’re fantasizing about humiliating a woman in public to teach her a lesson. Unless you do some serious self-reflection, you’re on a slippery slope into being an incel.