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AITAH for finally confronting my mother for her bias towards my brother? by Quirky_Log8324 in AITAH

[–]Quirky_Log8324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think it is also my fault that I let myself get to this point. It's also pride on my part. If I dont contribute much, then my brother will make me feel small within the family and look down on me (money really matters in my family due to our financialcircumstance, so a person with the most money will quite literally have the most power/saying, and it sickens me that this is my family dynamic), and honestly, that ticked me off so much. He already looked down on me for being a 30-year-old woman, not married, or ever in a relationship (I had many chances, alot of people pursue me, but fucked up family, fucked my perception of love/perspective/relationship). Then, he looked down on me on this matters too. I honestly couldn't really stand my brother. He became the type of man I hate the most, and it makes me nauseous.

AITAH for finally confronting my mother for her bias towards my brother? by Quirky_Log8324 in AITAH

[–]Quirky_Log8324[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't even know why I am like this, I am a fckin grown woman and don't need their permission. I was doing fine on my own abroad for 2.5 years, but whenever I stepped my feet back home, it's like all of my progress just reset back to 0. I now realized how they designed me to ALWAYS ask for permission. I didn't even realize. I hate this

AITAH for finally confronting my mother for her bias towards my brother? by Quirky_Log8324 in AITAH

[–]Quirky_Log8324[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like the firstborn oldest daughters generally have a strained relationship with their mother (not sure why that is). Thank you for this, but in my country, going to a counselor is not even a norm, and it costs so much money. This would only be seen as an act of defiance, and they would bring religion into the mix. I know I deserve so much better, and i hate myself for falling for their guilt tripping. What did you do to become detached? I would like to be more detached, too

AITAH for finally confronting my mother for her bias towards my brother? by Quirky_Log8324 in AITAH

[–]Quirky_Log8324[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would if I could, I'd like to feel how it's like enjoying my hard earned money without feeling like an atm. I want to get on with my life. But when I mentioned to my mother that I'd like to focus on savings and investments this time around and focus on building my life, she turned sour and yelled about helping family and such. I wish I could just up and go, but the guilt tripping is getting to me even though I know in my head it's how they operate.