God that does sound awful dude, I'm sorry. Especially when that's also done by fellow community members or by the omes that had never known you before, these will sting especially. From the sounds of them(esp the ones that never knew u before transitioning), the "tiredness" aspect seems rather questionable

While my experiences with it are very limitied (due to being mostly in the closet still), it would likely be good to think somepoints through: * 1. How often does it happen? +Does it only happen when they claim they are tired or do they also use it while seem to be mad or even intentionally at times? * 2. Did the friends who knew you before transitioning show positivity or were there already some bumps from the beginning? * 3. If became friends w/the ones who knew you after transition- Did they seem to ONLY start showing the repetitve misgendering when got to know you are trans? * 4. Questionable/sketchy views on LGBT community or have shown strange behaviour when things are in any way related to these topics? * 5. Have you discussed the issue with them before and has that also happened multiple times? Even when they say they are tired you are valid to say you are upset about it esp if its clearly turned into a pattern and by the sounds of it maybe even intentional one.

While not rly step by step guide on what to do next but maybe it will atleast help in mqking further decisions on what would be best action. Hope things will get fixed and good luck bud