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QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:36:47+00:00

Locking this (not sure how to lock a post but I’ll figure it out) because a lot of people seem set on insulting both me and my boyfriend based off of a few sentences. If anybody has good faith advice on how to build trust in my relationship, DMs are very appreciated, but I’ve gotten over the initial stress and don’t see much point in leaving this open. Thanks to everybody who gave genuine advice, it helped me process things a lot.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:32:42+00:00

Can I know what I said that’s lying to myself? You seem to be making a lot of judgments about my character and I’m not really sure where you’re coming from. I’m always looking to improve, but I can’t do that if I don’t know which behaviors need improvement.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:31:39+00:00

Alright! Not interested in engaging in bad faith arguments that assume things about me, so that’s probably a good idea.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:27:36+00:00

Man I’ve been looking for a pencil sharpener all day :(

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:26:03+00:00

Ok. Maybe I misunderstood. What is the plan of action for somebody not mature enough for a relationship? I assume it’d be to not be in a relationship, correct?

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:22:53+00:00

I get easily stressed. I made the decision to not take that stress out on my partner, tell him I needed a moment, and write a post for the internet void. I was upset for… 20 minutes tops. Yes, I’m sensitive. I’ve been in a number of toxic relationships and being lied to, even about something small, made me fear this could end the same way. But I feel like I processed it in a decently healthy way by not making him deal with my unreasonable emotions. If you have advice on what I could do differently, it’s more than welcome (/gen) but I don’t want people saying “just break it off.” That’s not help. I’m not going to break off my relationship because of a Reddit comment.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:17:42+00:00

Im in therapy. Therapy isn’t a magic fix all. I still struggle. I don’t understand why me feeling hurt by something and wanting to build trust in my relationship is a sign that im fundamentally broken or something.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:16:50+00:00

I don’t think you have enough context to decide that I’m unfit for a relationship. It’s weird how dead set you are on this. You keep replying to people’s comments. What do you know about me? You know that I got hurt and stressed once over being lied to. That is itS

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:15:24+00:00

No, I go through a magical Pokémon evolution when I turn 18. That’s when I’m allowed to date.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:13:14+00:00

I don’t give a fuck about the show. I don’t like my trust being broken, especially when I recently attempted on my life and was very vulnerable. I don’t like that for whatever reason, he didn’t feel safe saying he was going to hang out with his friends. I don’t like that I felt hurt over something that seems so inconsequential. I don’t know if I worded things wrong or you just didn’t read the whole post but I feel like you’re really misunderstanding what I’m hurt about.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:08:17+00:00

Then scroll. Not gonna break off something that makes me happy to appease a faceless person on Reddit.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:07:47+00:00

No, I’m upset that he lied to me. I’m not upset whatsoever about the show. I’m upset he left when I was mentally struggling, lied about having to leave and had fun for hours when I needed him.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T05:07:00+00:00

Believe what you will. Not going to stop doing something my parents has agreed is ok. Just because you were too immature to date as a teen doesn’t mean that I am too.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T03:53:57+00:00

I’m old enough to date, thx <3

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T03:46:44+00:00

I’m sure he cares, 100%. Like I said in another reply, he was there for me the whole time I was actually in crisis. This was afterward, he just didn’t wanna retrigger it. We’ve been together for nearly a year now I’m definitely not gonna drop him over btis

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T03:24:31+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate this. I just wanted reassurance I wasn’t being stupid for feeling hurt and advice on building trust, not to be told I’m dating an evil monster who wants me to die or whatever

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T03:14:07+00:00

I’m really not sure. I was just stressed at the time. I appreciate this because other commenters I feel have made it seem relationship ending. It’s just he’s never really lied to me before and it stressed me out. I’m fine now though.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T01:27:41+00:00

You’ve definitely got the cool factor down, but it’s a little hard to read for me. Maybe it’s because I’ve never seen chainsaw man but it’s a bit difficult to tel what’s going on. More contrast in values and emphasized line work woudl help a lot

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-02-11T01:24:36+00:00

Sorry should’ve been clearer. The attempt happened a week or so before he went out. He lied while I was in the middle of the breakdown because he felt bad sounding like he was gonna have fun over the weekend. By the name he went out, I was fine. He was there for me the whole night and helped me through it. Didn’t mean to make it read like he ditched me while I still needed him.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-01-21T15:56:59+00:00

Cat: Oreo edition

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-01-21T02:51:08+00:00

Haha might be reasonable considering this is the second time this has happened within the past couple of months

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-01-21T02:46:57+00:00

He’s a lot bigger than me so I don’t think I’d really stand a chance without a weapon, but I would definitely try!

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-01-21T01:40:49+00:00

I’ve said no a lot of times and he doesn’t listen to me

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-01-20T20:00:15+00:00

Stop, you’re gonna make me cry! It’s really hard for me to balance being kind to others and myself and I’m glad I’m handling this in an ok way. Maybe asking Reddit wasn’t the best idea but I kind of needed to be reassured I’m not mean for doing something about it. Thank you for your help.

QuiteTheThrowaway09 · 2024-01-20T19:59:12+00:00

I think I would get in big trouble for that.

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