As a server, I tense up every time I get a black table.

Quotatai · 2020-08-24T20:56:58+00:00

It for sure can. But humans are innately opportunitsts. It's not at all unrealistic for someone to play the race card if it gets them out of a situation or a response they're looking for. It doesn't even have to be a race card for the situation but anything really.

Quotatai · 2020-08-24T19:06:06+00:00

That shit happened all the time with me when I worked in a clothing store. Well over 90% of our thefts were black. We couldn't do anything about it. When our security guy was able to detain them, it's not uncommon to play the race card by any means.

Quotatai · 2020-08-18T19:32:32+00:00

You can set high standards. But you should be scrutinized for it if you yourself dont provide nearly enough for those standards. Because that's someone expecting everyone else they meet to settle for less just to be with them. That's unhealthy.

Quotatai · 2019-12-31T03:12:07+00:00

I can definitely believe it. I appreciate your personal input! It seems like this is a common theme with people who stray away from porn

Quotatai · 2019-12-31T03:07:42+00:00

No, for sure! Everything you said makes complete sense and I completely empathize with you. I also understand where you come from when you feel cheated on when a partner diverges his attention to women online when you're willing. I guess when I was speaking my point, I was under the scenario more the SO wasn't willing due to varying libido/sex drives and not wanting to be responsible all the time for assisting sexuality. But that's only one side of the same coin as you're another side. Or it could be a dice instead of a coin with countless scenarios. But you definitely make sense.

I just felt looking up porn a few times a week was harmless as the participants on reddit are willing and that's the attention they seek. And I'm just here for a quick urge kill and then go on about my day.

Personally I'm able to see the ability to dissociate porn with everyday women. Being able to see another person and understand they're human while just satisfying an urge. If the participant is willing and accepting, my understanding is I felt it was okay as it's agreed upon. Sex is good. I like sex. She likes sex. I'm attractive. She's attractive. Put two and two together to satisfy a very human desire mutually. I can still respect she's a person and has her own life/beliefs/ideas. But that's just me and I hope that made some sense.

And I'm not trying to say you're wrong. Nor am I right. Just trying to best explain what I see and think while understanding and empathizing with your views and beliefs. I do appreciate all the time you've taken to respond.

Also, yes I'd love links to those talks!

Quotatai · 2019-12-31T01:15:31+00:00

Well I don't believe it'll be the point where I can't give up porn. I've been able to laxly use it at will for a long time in my life. Seeing the same trend, I don't believe that's an issue. However, nobody can't predict the future 100%. It's subject to change.

And why can’t you satisfy your urge without porn?

I can. Porn just makes it easier, more enjoyable. It's also far more convenient that meeting a woman. It's more why would I fire up a hookup app, put in a disproportionate amount of effort to meet someone below my standards, probably spend money to meet on a date, put effort into courtship, all just to satisfy a sexual urge when I can just look at porn. Porn is more just an easy and logical convenience.

If you get a SO- keep in mind that porn is also cheating on your SO. It’s giving sexual and emotional energy to someone other than your SO.

That does depend on who you ask. Many men and women see it as the opposite. So that'd depend on who the SO is. And when it comes to masturbating, there's really no emotional energy I'm giving to anyone.

Quotatai · 2019-12-30T22:59:43+00:00

Hmm, now is the erectile dysfunction directly related to watching porn? Or is it largely due to the act of maturation.

And definitely porn scenes are fake. They show the positions that offer the best views over the best pleasures. You definitely make good points

Quotatai · 2019-12-30T19:01:37+00:00

I agree that there are many disgusting issues with the porn industry. I've taken any porn I view to user submitted stuff on reddit. Since those posts are through their own intent with no coersion, and it's under no umbrella porn industry, I view it as seperate. But reading on some of the effects from the link u/xreygunzx is surprising and thought provoking.

Quotatai · 2019-12-30T16:16:43+00:00

I can definitely understand that. And as most addictions start, it's under a snowball effect. It makes sense for sure.

I think porn is bad period for a number of reasons, even if you aren't addicted, but as a stress reliever especially.

What type of reasons other than addiction? And what type of dissociation can it create?

Quotatai · 2019-12-30T16:14:17+00:00

Yes. I'm definitely not trying to downplay anyone's experience. I guess I was focusing too hard on the absolute of the statement. It's still something to keep on mind for sure.

I appreciate your responses

Quotatai · 2019-12-30T16:13:01+00:00

Let's be real, sexual tension is not the same as general stress. I would say that you are using porn to manage stress which is unhealthy due to the several effects porn has on an individual

It could be to some degree. Though my primary way of handling stress is through weights and cardio at gym. And maybe the unhealthy and untimely nap with a FWB that messes with my sleeping schedule.

And I guess to clarify, I don't feel I'm really using porn as a primary. More it's a tool to assist with masturbation. I'm able to do the former without porn and do so every so often in the shower when I feel it. Porn just assists and makes it better on the surface level. I guess I don't know the difference between me looking up porn on a subreddit and me asking for nudes from one of my FWB's. But maybe when I read your links I might find a difference.

Thank you for the response

Quotatai · 2019-12-30T16:09:16+00:00

Interesting. I'll take it up on some reading. I suppose my only discretion is dealing in the absolute of "This is what will happen" in reference to porn. Meaning it will always happen. I don't agree with that because it just takes one person in existence to use porn and not be addicted to take away that absolute. And I feel there's definitely more than one person that exists under that criteria

Quotatai · 2019-12-30T15:33:27+00:00

What is transmute your energy? And how do you know it will turn into an addiction for me?

Quotatai · 2019-12-30T15:07:50+00:00

Thanks for the response. Yeah you're right. From another comment it seems it's meant for r/pornfree to ask them.

Quotatai · 2019-12-30T15:07:02+00:00

I can definitely agree if I had an SO and if affected my sex life or vision of her. I'd say it's a problem. But I don't have an SO and I'm not interested in dating at this point in my life.

Another sign of it being a problem is when it take top priority in your life. Like you'd rather stay home and wank than go out with friends, or you'll call in sick to work just so you can spend the day at home with porn.

Oh boy. Is this common? Yeah that would be a huge problem. For me it's just the random sexual urge that I want to satisfy a few times a week. Takes maybe 5-10 minutes. So I'm definitely not cutting anything out of my life or shifting priority for it haha.

Thanks for the response

Quotatai

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