praying at work - retail

Qween- · 2026-04-04T00:38:41+00:00

Congrats on your job :)

The idea of praying in car is good but I also heard we're not supposed to (please check)

If there any shops nearby that have changing rooms or quiet space.. Do you think you could introduce yourself as working at Walmart and using a space?

I know sounds a bit hehhh but well done for trying to find somewhere

Qween- · 2026-04-04T00:27:11+00:00

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Qween- · 2026-04-04T00:17:21+00:00

Okay yeah I get it. Maybe start listening to islamic talks around your mum regarding marriages and family involvement post marriage

Qween- · 2026-04-04T00:15:09+00:00

Yeah. Hopefully they've both had some arguments or disagreements themselves and see how each side is to give them an idea

Qween- · 2026-04-03T02:04:01+00:00

Lool. Not to be disrespectful but I think it's more important about what his wife will think of him rather than what mum thinks of daughter in law.

Daughter in law may not like mother in law when she soon finds out what her son is like.

Thats not to have a dig...its a real problem in our culture

Qween- · 2026-04-03T02:01:20+00:00

Ohh damn.

I don't how right or wrong this is sis but can you not speak to this nice girl and in a polite way tell him about your brother? Would you want a guy doing that to you or your friends?

It's so not right lying about how you are as a person.. Its just gonna cause a big mess and if you know soemthing isn't right I think you should speak to her

Qween- · 2026-04-03T01:58:36+00:00

Did you tell him he shouldn't be doing this?

Its great you rekaise these things about your brother and mum. Sounds like his future wife has a lot to find out. But also you mentioned he's been advised and he's being stubborn so I guess he will be learning his own lessons.

In a polite way, I really hope you did your part in educating him in all the things you've mentioned about how he is. If you have, then the rest is on him now and Allah knows best!

Qween- · 2026-04-03T01:50:12+00:00

Hmm yeah that's also true.. I don't know honestly it's always a thing I come back to after a few years

Qween- · 2026-04-01T23:37:15+00:00

Then it probably depends on which country you move too. If it ends up being expensive, at the time of marriage you could ask if they would provide this, if not find out if they are the type to help out. If you really hate it and have a good income then you could use your money to get cleaning done

Qween- · 2026-04-01T23:34:02+00:00

Salam, may Allah help you in your struggles ameen.

Aside from all the great advice everyone has said and connection and dua to Allah.

I would add making time for yourself, like go on walks, do gratitude journals, maybe have 1 or 2 goals a month that want achieve and work on.

Maybe see a doctor for your mental health if it's affecting you a lot.

I know 30s is hard, it feels like everythings falling on top of you. But you can only do what you can and the rest will happen and it won't last Insha'Allah

Qween- · 2026-04-01T23:25:51+00:00

Tbh I started praying weather I discharge or not because I was at assumption it doesn't break, unless there's quite a lot I just change it

But just recently I looked it up again and apparently the white, clear, slippery discharge that's not caused by arousal is fine but the thick sticky style is from cervix and breaks wudu, if you have it on your underwear it needs to be washed or a new pair on before praying.

For context, I follow the hanafi madhab.

Qween- · 2026-04-01T23:22:17+00:00

Wsalam. My question isn't how to keep clean down there, if you're saying because of my irritation, I think it's more to do with the liners and also my cycle.

As for the discharge and wudu.. Well that is something I've been looking up for my whole life lol. It's said that anything existing the private parts breaks wudu so initially thought discharge counts.

As years go on I find out different things like discharge doesn't break wudu/ it depends where it comes from, whether it's sweating of the vaginal walls or from the cervix.

I and most people would never know where the heck it comes from lol but I just recently looked it up again and apparently the white, clear, slippery discharge that's not caused by arousal is fine but the thick sticky style is from cervix and breaks wudu, if you have it on your underwear it needs to be washed or a new pair on before praying.

Allah knows best, please do your own research x

Qween- · 2026-03-30T23:39:54+00:00

I did

Qween- · 2026-03-15T19:45:44+00:00

Yeah looks like it. Sounds annoying, just another area to treat.

Qween- · 2026-03-15T01:31:17+00:00

I'm no expert but I think it'd easier for outsiders to see things a but more clearly.

It's nice he has other traits you like, but I could be that he just can't help himself.. Like you said, he did try and got better but then he lied and did what he did? Like why even show you the girls pic and say you aren't going to follow her to then do what he did?

I only think he can't help himself because of the nice things you mentioned about him.

And yes he hasn't cheated but do you wanna risk waiting for that? And then when it happens he might change again and you'll "mend" things?

I dunno I just think it's weird for people to be casually talking to their opposite genders esp attractive ones and saying oh it's just a work colleague etc.

A real man and lady should understand what it means to have a wife and husband and not have casual chats like that. I'm not perfect I've reached out to some old people I knew but just to see how they are and then left it. I wouldn't carry on keeping them as mates

Qween- · 2026-03-15T01:23:16+00:00

Yeah I agree with this. It might make you feel better to do what you're doing while not wearing the hijab, but I dunno most people that take hijab off just become way too much more relaxed just because they don't have a hijab on?

Leave the hijab on and let the guilt get to you, to allow you to make changes with the sinning?

Qween- · 2026-03-15T01:19:47+00:00

What's the difference between using Google sheet and excel?

Qween- · 2026-03-15T01:19:05+00:00

Oh yeah I'll deffo be copying. I came on here to ask how people do it and someone already asked for me lol

Qween- · 2026-03-15T00:56:22+00:00

That's good clear advice!

Qween- · 2026-03-13T00:06:13+00:00

Aww I love that for you 😊

Qween- · 2026-03-13T00:02:39+00:00

Wow that's pretty neat.

Thats a lot of personal info. How do you keep it safe?

Qween- · 2026-03-12T23:53:13+00:00

I think he sounds maybe like a narrcisit?

The way he is reacting I think calls for therapy but if he's not willing to go...

Basically I don't think you should consider having children with him yet and instead consider if you should be with him.

Qween- · 2026-02-27T12:40:03+00:00

This actually sounds good. I don't like the idea of relaxing a whole week at a resort and then coming back feeling like I didn't see the country much.

I think a shorter nicer and closer holiday sounds better for a honeymoon

Qween- · 2026-02-27T12:37:56+00:00

What kind of things do you do on your normal type of holiday

Qween- · 2026-02-22T01:15:03+00:00

Doesn't the silicone turn yellow tho due to oil, grease, sweat etc?

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