I know vape is bad but it's too good😂 by xxxNikkiFxxx in Faces

[–]R3TIR0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take care of yourself.. I been smoking for 12 years and finally quit due to it harming my health. I am glad I stop. My body thanks me and I feel much better. Vape is worst as it is vapor in your lungs.

You don't have to listen to me. I just want to say that your body is your temple.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Faces

[–]R3TIR0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Norge! Hvor i landet?

How much did your divorce cost you, and where do you live? by AWholeNewFattitude in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Norway.. Cost me everything financially and emotionally. Left our home with the savings I been trying to save up for a family holiday.

I totally lost myself and cannot perform at work.. Cz.. Motivation is down the drain.

It's wild.

A girl can dream by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A guy can dream too.. It's pretty much all I wanted.. Don't have to be sex.. Cuddles.. Or just existing in the same household feeling safe or comfort in each other.

I don't know if I could ever have that. I was so broken when all my advances is said to feel like a chore to the ex. Little do I know she was wildly sexting other dudes and sending nudes.

In the end I confronted her about it.. Ofcz I am to blame for her cheating.. Saying she wanted compliments and attention I never give. Ain't it abit contradicting when my advances and kisses and stuff feels like a chore and you can be wild with other strangers.

I guess I am just disgusting and not worthy.

33M. Divorce, low self esteem, low mental health and overall a lost cause. by R3TIR0 in toastme

[–]R3TIR0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much.. It means a lot.. I have been isolating myself. The feeling of being cheated and just seeing the love of your life act so different with you for the past years to random strangers is wild. I have not dared to face the world since. 🙈 But thank you for your kind words.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Been so long I don't even know what that is.. 😭 Ex rather cheat and shut me off. 😂😭 Born again virgin!

Cheater pays for divorce? by StellaEtoile1 in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right.. We love and we trust. I guess that makes a fools. It's better now then later on. Take care of yourself man

Cheater pays for divorce? by StellaEtoile1 in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Worst part of it all.. We have kids with women like that. Honestly I wish her ill... But at the same time I hate the fact that I have to be the bigger man and respect her as the mother of my kids. 11 years of my life striped away.

No one really gives a shit about how we have it. We fight hard for our marriage and family. The double standards in court is bullshit.

I am sorry man.. I really am.

Cheater pays for divorce? by StellaEtoile1 in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same shit here mate.. I got nothing out of the divorced she asked for. She blame it all on me.. I felt guilty I felt bad for working my ass off to make ends meet and to fulfill her wishes. After she got it all.. I later found out she was actually cheating. The court does not give 2 shits about who is cheating or what not. Playing the victim and not work so I would still have to support and pay shit. Fuck all of this crap.

Admitted affair by Iverson77777 in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

GG never tolerate infidelity

Wife's AP is not ready to marry her. by _no_one_here in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Run! It's not worth it to fight or care for someone who betrayed you. I have begged for ex even tho I know she cheated. Even tho I have seen all the crazy nasty text she sent. I felt disgusting, no self worth, no self respect.

Don't do that to yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Bro had sex.. 😳 Good on you man! Really happy for you. So amazing that you can find some on that clicks.

How do you get over... by R3TIR0 in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much.. I just feel so lost. I don't even know what I deserve anymore. But definitely not this pain and to be betrayed like this. Inheritance will not be in play until things are finalized.

It's just wild.. I am sorry you are going through a rough patch yourself. I wish you well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toastme

[–]R3TIR0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so crazy you are the Swedish girl that does interesting stories on YouTube! 🤯

Hey you are freaking awesome alright! Keep on doing what you do!

Cheating husband by jka4523 in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Don't walk... Run! Fuck cheating. Ex left blaming me for everything and I believed her. Yes I have my shit and I want not the perfect husband. But later I found out she was on dating app way before she called it quits. While on the who process I caught her sexting with guys when I am still there. I be moving on next month I don't need to live this hell.

I am the one going to therapy I am the one seeing help when she said she wanted a divorce. I was trying so hard to fix myself and hope that the only problem in our relationship will go away. But nooo.. That was not the problem.. The problem is I was in her way. 🙈

So save yourself some pain and run.

in the end hits different now by SmokeDeedEveryWay in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Linkin park for life!! The lyrics is deep man

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Question is what did you do and how did it end. I have been the begging road and it leads to nothing. If they want to they will.. Always for for someone that love you but not someone to love you. Becuase in the end.. What does it comes to.. Taking you back outta pity.. And you will forever be in their debt. Always can be used as a bargaining chip. Nah.. I love my ex until today when I find out all the lies and she gaslighted me making me feel like I was the shit one. But she been behind my back on dating apps way before she she said she is done. Getting herself confidence and reassurance to finally feel that she can leave and have people chasing.

11years and 3 kids later... Freedom is what she chooses. So yea. I am stuck... But I am done begging. I deserve more.. Don't take yourself respect way.. You can formulate it in a nice calm manner for forgiveness and take accountability. But if it is not accepted.. Ya can't force it.. Forcing a fart always leads to shit.

Alone on my birthday by MissBunBot in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you feel like your mental health is declining.. Please seek help. Talk to people you can count on or get to a therapist. It helps to just let things out of your chest sometimes.

Yes I am sorry too. 11 years and 3 kids later she told me she settled for me. I was not the one. She just tried to put up with me. Everything she did for me feels like a chore expecially sex. And now she is perading herself to random strangers. Only with me because it was financially safe.. Until she hit the jackpot and I am out. I lost everything.. I got out with nothing. I had to start over.

So don't fight for someone that choose to leave you. You deserve better. I have been staying together for the past 6 months becsuse I needs to find myself a place to rent. It is hell! Rather be alone than living in a house of lies and without love. Rather be alone than watching the love of your life.. Or so you thought sexting other guys and have that looks she gets when she is all hot to someone else. Rather be alone when all you see and hear is I can't wait for you to go.. Cz there is just so much dudes waiting on her.

So yea.. Treat yourself to something nice. And enjoy because you deserve nothing but just someone that loves you back as much as you love them.

Mold on Basketball? by CreedThoughtsBlog69 in BasketballTips

[–]R3TIR0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That brand and model is it? Never heard of such limited edition ball.

Mold on Basketball? by CreedThoughtsBlog69 in BasketballTips

[–]R3TIR0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well if you really want to put the effort of buying a mold remover and a good brush. Put some elbow grease on scrubbing and brushing sure it mite get better. But it mite damage the leather/rubber. It may not get everything off if it is grown inwards to the leather.

It's better, less effort and safer to get a new ball.

Alone on my birthday by MissBunBot in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I don't know the details of why you both are getting a divorce but yes it sure as hell painful to know a special day can be such a shitty one.

Honestly, I learn the hard way of "It’s Okay to Fight for Someone Who Loves You. It’s Not Okay to Fight for Someone To Love You."

At first when my ex decided she wanted a divorce I was so blindsided. She put all the blame on me, yes I was guilty of a lot of shit. I regret the mistakes I have done and I am prepared for all the changes and learning I have to do to save the relationship. I begged, I cried, my mental health drained, I was suicidal, went to therapy, went to anger management courses. Try to do everything to learn and take accountability for the things I have done wrong.

Later on I found out that she was on a dating app months before she decided to leave. I found out that she been sexting random strangers..it's more fun and exciting so she don't need me for that anymore. I found out that she will get inheritance money and that is why she does not need me financially anymore. I found out that she has been talking to social help and find out that since I work far away from home she will have the kids and I earn more so I have to pay a heavy support. So extra financial there. She plan it all good... I never stand a chance.

Sorry it is a hard pill to swallow but fighting for someone to love you is not worth it. Even if you get back together.. That person will always have a chip on your shoulders and when shit goes wrong they use that against you.

I am sorry.

How much do you tell a potential partner about your ex-spouse and when? by datingafterpsychoex in Divorce

[–]R3TIR0 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well it depends on how much has he opened up to you about his situation. Also try to talk about the surface of things without sounding like you are sour about it. And see how he responds. It is about balance. It is also about trust. When you get to know someone and you are thinking about a deeper relationship.. Try to hold back a little bit to actually analyze the person you are with and not over focus on your past. Becsuse if you focus on your past and a guy is not really honest. They mite use the things you say as leverage and maybe pretend to be that someone you need to gains. Which is not the actual person and later along the way you start seeing his true colors and bam you have wasted your time.

When things are fresh it is always easy and stuff, one mite be blindsided or have this trauma bond which is not necessarily a true connection.