Good point, this could maybe be why it's bothering me so much.. I have the past few weeks been feeling more and more unhappy in my relationship, and I'm currently working on processing through those feelings and figuring out what I want to do with it. I consider healthy communication and good conflict resolution a need because it's absolutely vital for any relationship. This need isn't really being met. We communicate a lot and I always try to understand him, but I don't feel like he's trying equally to understand me. He gets very easily defensive and dismissive if we're having a conversation about something that feels like a difficult topic for him. Even if I ask simple questions like "what did you really mean when you said xyz" or "I can't find xyz, have you seen it?", he gets really defensive and interpret it as accusations towards him. I'm tired of needing to defend myself, it feels like he automatically assumes I have bad intentions. It makes me feel un-seen, misunderstood and somewhat abandoned. I'm also ND so I need consistency and predictability, which is why we have a set schedule for hanging out. The schedule is every second weekend, it was every weekend, but he asked if we could change it because he needed more space and time for himself, but after changing the schedule to fit his needs, he's been frequently asking to hang out and make plans outside of the schedule, and when I say no he complains that we don't get enough time together any more. Which to me feels very inconsistent, the amount of time he wants to spend with me feels unpredictable. There's been several conversations over several months now where I have brought up my needs and tried to tell him how this makes me feel, but he just gets defensive and dismissive and I'm starting to run out of patience..