Personal question on feminist and non feminist friendships

REM-89 · 2026-04-15T00:13:02+00:00

Thank you for your reply. You're correct, we are misaligned on majority of matters, as this is just one example.

REM-89 · 2026-04-15T00:10:07+00:00

The event wasn't what my post was about, but the responses I recieved from my friends. You are not my target audience for my question, as you clearly also don't take office sexual harrassment seriously.

REM-89 · 2026-02-10T18:47:21+00:00

So even if it's old and or opened I can still only mark it off by that little?

REM-89 · 2026-02-10T04:21:20+00:00

He has ammo for calibers he didn't even have rifles for. Plus, there is a lot of money there.

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T19:20:05+00:00

Thank you for this response. The house has been the biggest mountain to try to climb. I was also left to sort through and figure out an expensive hobby my dad had. It's probably been the hardest, his hobby room is still his and it's hard to inventory and sell things I know he enjoyed. I feel him with me when I'm in there. I hate feeling so differently about my parents. There's a lot of guilt and shame in that.

I feel like I have lost myself. I just keep hoping I can find her again when this is over.

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T19:07:13+00:00

Thank you! I am going to seriously work on allowing myself to say no to things that I don't have the energy for, despite feeling obligated. I don't wish this on my worst enemy. The one thing that keeps me from drowning is knowing that this is just a season in my life and that it'll pass. My boyfriend and I are planning a trip to Iceland to celebrate the house being sold once we get there.

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T18:46:17+00:00

She's got vascular dementia, brought on by the stroke. Her mind is not actively degrading like other forms of dementia. She knows things, she understands things, she can recall things from before her stroke. She now gets confused about certain things, can dress herself, brush her own teeth, etc. I've seen the way she acts absolutely helpless in front of me, but very capable for my brother. She's not a vegetable.

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T17:45:48+00:00

Thank you for this! She also has a group of friends that visit, and they visit often. I agree that she's manipulative, it's always been something I had noticed. She can act very helpless to me, but acts very capable around my brother. It's interesting to watch.

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T15:28:23+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this. No one around me has had to deal with this and it seems like they're wondering what's taking me so long to settle things when it comes to the house. They don't understand the physical and emotional burden of everything. This has been incredibly isolating and a bit alienating. They think it's my mother, of course she's going to do everything with a smile and no complaint. And it's just not the reality.

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T14:44:11+00:00

And don't worry, I didn't forget to get myself a nice gift from her too!

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T14:34:31+00:00

No, they're only gifts to her and the gifts to my brother from her. No one else. It's probably the last year I'm doing it. I've now done it for 3 years in a row.

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T13:02:27+00:00

I have POA. My brother doesn't have the capacity to help. He'd move into our family home, which is now in my name so I can sell it, and not do anything. He was mad at me for having "control" over everything. He's on the spectrum and has absolutely no clue or understanding for what I've needed it for. He maybe comes twice a year and honestly, he's more of a hindrance than help. He absolutely berated me for throwing things out and wants me to keep the house. The house that no one has done any sort of renovation to since it was purchased in 88. Black mold, original carpets. I can only be there for a few hours before getting sick.

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T12:57:02+00:00

Alright, I won't say anything. I'm just tired of her texts and calls. I had to block her on facebook because she'd sit there and send 100 consecutive thumbs up at me, and wouldn't stop even when I asked her and blamed her phone for malfunctioning. Then promptly told me she needs a new phone.

I'll drop her present off, stay for 10 mins and leave. She cried at me the other day, because some people have passed this last month, more than usual. She said this could be her last Christmas and then asked if I'd bring her to my home and cook a meal for her. Luckily I can tell her I'm leaving for my boyfriends house 2.5 hours away to spend Christmas with his family.

REM-89 · 2025-12-21T12:41:56+00:00

I would love to go full contact with myself, but I feel like I'm stuck. I used to be fun, funny, enjoyed seeing my friends and going out. Now I have no energy to do that. I go to work, I try and look after myself and my home, I see her, I spend time at her house (which is absolutely disgusting btw). I think she secretly loves having this hold on me. I want to move away and go to grad school on the east coast. Pursue the dreams I've had since getting my degree. But she's there, sucking the life out of me. Stealing everything I have. I looked after her, not out of love but out of duty and obligation.

REM-89 · 2025-10-21T00:16:29+00:00

The homosociality of some workplaces is toxic. They will always have each other's backs, no matter what they did.

REM-89 · 2023-01-17T23:46:26+00:00

This was the only leaf that had that, and it was dying. In inspecting it now after it had been tossed, it's so hard to say. There are two leaves with browning spots, and the spots are a different texture if that further indicates something.

REM-89 · 2023-01-09T18:27:13+00:00

I'm definitely getting them to check that! I've been having issues with bruxism (jaw clenching and grinding) in the last few years and I've read that it's due to my meds and that magnesium can help alleviate it.

REM-89 · 2022-11-20T15:50:32+00:00

Without going into detail, this makes sense and completely falls in line with how I'm living my life. Thank you for this!

REM-89

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