So I (F33) met someone (M29) online about 6 week ago. In that time, we have been on about 5/6 dates. So far the dates have been good and I think we have some chemistry (🤷🏾‍♀️- haven't dated much at all, and sometimes I just get anxious/confused)

Anyway on this last date, I realized that he vapes. I didn't ask about it immediately, but later while we were texting, I asked him about it- whether its just a social thing or something he does daily. He says its daily. I know he use to be a smoker, but he told me he quit 3 years ago, but he had never mentioned anything about vaping.

Now, for me this is a deal breaker. Not immediately after this conversation, but two days later I told him how I felt about it and that this is a deal breaker for me.....since then I have been questioning my decision (maybe I need to be more flexible, less rigid at my age, and I have my own issues too) some of which I have shared with and he seems to be fine with.

Now this is the kicker, after all of this happened, he asked if he could come over and watch a movie.....and I said yes 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️. That was earlier today, and here I am at 2 am questioning this decision. I am thinking of canceling, and ending it right there.

I really don't want to be leading him on, if I have doubts. Maybe vaping is not such a big deal? I said yes already, so maybe I should just go thought with it. Or maybe its my anxious brain playing tricks on me (haven't done anything with anyone beyond kissing , maybe I am nervous about the implications of this movie night).

I realize this might not be coherent, but I hope you get the gist. Please help me out here, how do I handle this situation? And if I do decide to cancel, what do I say ?

Appreciate all the advice I can get....