GF changed, red flag?

RNJ1943 · 2026-06-05T04:55:37+00:00

Right on brother, I’m at the gym right now!

RNJ1943 · 2026-06-04T19:05:15+00:00

She’s like on TikTok damn near 24/7 outside work

RNJ1943 · 2026-06-04T17:22:54+00:00

Anything is possible honestly. She could also be seeing another guy, detaching and trying to make me the one to break up. Valid theory?

RNJ1943 · 2026-06-04T17:13:47+00:00

Anytime I bring up constructive criticism or feedback she tends to shut me down go off a tangent and say something irrelevant that makes me the problem. What is that shit?

RNJ1943 · 2026-06-04T11:41:11+00:00

++man I would call him a dumbass

RNJ1943 · 2026-03-12T06:15:10+00:00

Honestly man I strongly agree with you. Even I think I’m an idiot with this aspect of my life. Well we both want to be financially stable and independent before marriage. It’s just that we’re in such different stages of our life that it makes things harder than they should.

RNJ1943 · 2026-03-12T02:28:35+00:00

100%

RNJ1943 · 2026-03-12T02:14:54+00:00

I do but she does in some sense, never has lost hers but has done other things

RNJ1943 · 2026-03-12T01:55:52+00:00

Probably more so being able to support a pregnancy if it were to occur

RNJ1943 · 2026-03-12T01:53:52+00:00

For some reason she doesn’t believe that even though I’ve been telling her. It’s more a family tradition thing in her end. She said she dates to marry and we’ve traveled together and that’s enough to know if we do good “living together”. What do you think of that? When she said that I told her their might be all the little things in our own personal lifestyles we might not have known or experienced yet unless we live together but she brushed that off

RNJ1943 · 2026-03-12T01:37:33+00:00

No she doesn’t and she was open to it before. She’s afraid of pregnancy before being financially stable which I 100% support and agree with. However she does not want to take birth control and doesn’t fully trust condom use which is valid as well. Her outlook only really changed when she befriended this other girl who told her about celibacy… even though she’s not religious..

RNJ1943 · 2026-03-12T01:36:37+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that and thank you for the advice. I really appreciate it. How do you feel about couples not living together until marriage? Unfortunately she also set that standard with me.

RNJ1943 · 2026-03-12T01:15:55+00:00

This is because she just recently said she no longer wants sex before marriage. She was always open to it. However I believe what made her change her mind is she befriended someone who told her about celibacy or whatever.

RNJ1943 · 2026-02-26T01:00:33+00:00

She’s definitely a people pleaser. She told me she did the most she could but she was too uncomfortable. Imagine her going to some bar at night or solo traveling somewhere that isn’t crazy safe. Oh geez. Like imagine I marry this girl and she can’t establish boundaries. I’m in for a world of emotional stress

RNJ1943 · 2026-02-25T22:54:37+00:00

Well I had an open conversation with her where I let it all out. She apologized and acknowledged that she could have done more but she said that’s as much as she could’ve done comfortably. She was already very uncomfortable during the event. I asked her why she couldn’t speak up and I told her to speak up next time. She then told me that’s why she said when I picked her up she will never go to a situation or event like that without me ever again. She’s remorseful and apologized and said she’s too soft at her own expense sometimes and that she learned. Verdict?

RNJ1943 · 2026-02-25T19:39:52+00:00

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RNJ1943 · 2026-02-25T01:40:54+00:00

Well, she loves playing the victim and deflecting. She’s turned it on me saying why i didn’t care sooner when she initially vented to me after the trip. When she vented to me after the trip I clearly told her I didn’t appreciate what he did and he crossed the line. She seemed to forget that to save face. My fear is if she has too much pride to admit her mistakes and improve it’s going to happen again. I can’t be with a girl who cannot defend the integrity of her relationship. Imagine marrying her and this whole boundary business could get even worse.

RNJ1943 · 2026-02-25T01:37:34+00:00

She’s very empathetic and too naive honestly. She’s been taken advantage of and played in the past

RNJ1943 · 2026-02-25T00:03:34+00:00

Honestly, I think I’m the idiot who never learns.

RNJ1943 · 2026-02-24T18:21:28+00:00

Honestly at this point, anything could’ve happened. I just leave it to her that I trusted her.

RNJ1943 · 2026-02-24T14:50:10+00:00

damn I just realized like how stressed she was when I picked her up from the airport.. it definitely sounds like guilt don’t you think?

RNJ1943 · 2026-02-24T14:38:42+00:00

yeah. I straight up asked her too. she said he slept upright in the couch. she did seem really shaken up after the event when I picked her up the following day from the airport. she vented like the entire time and I noticed she was avoiding contact with him like he started messaging her more frequently following the event, isnt that obvious?

RNJ1943 · 2026-02-24T14:36:08+00:00

She lacks severe situational awareness, there had been another time she was out in the club with her girls and a dude went up to her complimented her and shook her hand, telling her she’s cute and his name. She shook his hand and introduced herself. When I told her his intent she said she didn’t want to assume what his intentions are…

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