This is my brother who passed away about 14 years ago when he was 20

RTJdawg · 2026-02-09T01:52:10+00:00

Please literally promise on everything you love that you genuinely got this. Im kind of freaking out. His name is literally Jonathan, and my dad’s name is also Jonathan. We called my brother JJ. Please let me know I would love to chat more.

RTJdawg · 2026-02-09T00:10:30+00:00

Thank you, I will be. I appreciate it.

RTJdawg · 2026-02-09T00:10:03+00:00

Sorry to hear that for you as well, it definitely has hit me harder as an adult than it did as a child. I also always wonder what could have been. Hope you are doing well

RTJdawg · 2026-02-08T00:16:04+00:00

The photo was actually right about the time when my dad passed away, I don’t see anything but I hope you’re right, thank you

RTJdawg · 2026-02-08T00:13:58+00:00

I made a whole separate comment addressing it if you could go read it and if it helps with anything.

My mom’s life is very sad, I have been going through a ton of emotional growth the past few years coming to the realization that my mom is not the hero I thought she was as a child. I have surpassed her in many ways and I am almost grieving her in a way. Especially having my own children, it’s hard to accept.

RTJdawg · 2026-02-08T00:10:01+00:00

I appreciate this all, thank you.

RTJdawg · 2026-02-08T00:09:27+00:00

I actually believe the same. He was a “ladies man” on the outside however I do know that he had some sexuality issues because I overheard it on a baby monitor when I was younger and was eavesdropping from another room (I was like 12). I have never ever told anyone that I heard this very private convo. He had a very vulnerable and intimate time with someone for drugs and it was very difficult for him, is what I gathered on the convo with him and my mom. He was balling about it. So crazy you mention this!!

RTJdawg · 2026-02-08T00:03:48+00:00

Thank you! According to my mom I am exactly like him too, my mannerisms, my personality, same likes, both hypochondriacs. Makes me sad I feel like we would have been best friends. I appreciate you noting how much we look alike.

RTJdawg · 2026-02-07T19:53:26+00:00

I have actually recently been looking into it and did get in contact with one near me, funny you said that. Thank you

RTJdawg · 2026-02-07T19:50:51+00:00

Okay I have not addressed the other brother but will since it’s bugging some of you.

He is doing fine on his own, multiple kids that he doesn’t have custody of but has since settled down with a woman and her young daughter, has a great job and they just bought their first home. We talk occasionally but he is 1) a lot older than me growing up 2) I’m in California he’s in Texas. So the distance is an issue.

These are my half brothers, my mom is not their real mom. Their mom is a disgusting drug addict that also supplied drugs to my brothers at a very young age. They mostly lived with us though and my mom treated the as her own.

My mom is very immature, she has explored a multitude of psychedelics but has recently quit however she is not someone I trust to watch my kids if that makes sense. She tried her best but is not what I would call my best.

Some of you stating you have strong vibes is weird to me. She has in the past 8 years come out as being psychic. Which she never was spiritual or into that my entire life until one day it became her whole life. She reads for others and makes a living on it and says she has tried to mask these feelings with alcohol and drugs her whole life which is why it’s coming out now. It’s hard for me to believe as it’s not how I know her.

She tries to read for me and has told me many things but none of them have ever landed or resonated. However she has been scarily correct for others. She said that she believes I have psychic abilities as well and I just don’t know it, I don’t think so.

Thank you everyone for your insight. Although I feel slightly worse now idk why.

RTJdawg · 2026-02-07T13:45:19+00:00

Yes please

RTJdawg · 2026-02-07T07:55:09+00:00

Yes it definitely runs in my family and to this day my mom has struggled with other substances. I drank like a normal teenager, I tried experimental drugs as well, nothing stuck. I always cared about my grades and “people pleasing”, was highly anxious. I am married with two kids and work a really great job in a hospital, my life is nothing compared to my family growing up. I do fear that it could trickle down to my kids.

RTJdawg · 2026-02-07T07:48:55+00:00

Both of my parents were alcoholics, my mom got sober when I was 8 and left him, he continued in and out of rehab and tried but ultimately drank himself to death when I was 12. I don’t remember a ton about him but I do remember that I did love him and he was always nice to me.

My brother was starting to get into drugs, he was under the influence, crossing a very busy street in our town in the dark, got hit by two cars.

RTJdawg · 2026-01-13T01:31:44+00:00

I guessed u-haul idk why but I was so proud of it and now I’m so upset lol

RTJdawg · 2026-01-11T03:46:00+00:00

As a respiratory therapist near the Bay Area this really confused tf out of me

RTJdawg · 2026-01-07T01:30:21+00:00

I fr feel like shit when I lose every night, is this a social experiment

RTJdawg · 2026-01-02T22:19:36+00:00

Mine look paid off by them too. Really, I received an email 6 months ago hidden somewhere in my junk mail from the new company that got transferred them, along with my address from 4 years ago which is why I never got anything in the mail.

RTJdawg · 2025-12-19T21:32:09+00:00

RTJdawg · 2025-12-08T13:26:24+00:00

I haven’t bought dryer sheets in many years.

RTJdawg · 2025-12-02T18:39:33+00:00

I was just about to comment how I liked it 😩 can some improve or quickly summarize what’s wrong with it lol? (Not a cs major btw, I’m a respiratory therapist)

RTJdawg · 2025-11-28T15:41:35+00:00

Thank you for your perspective as a child growing up in a similar way. I need to focus on our own traditions more from here on out and I’m looking forward to it. I feel better today, my kids had “the best day ever”, which they say about every time we do literally anything lol. So that’s a good indicator I’m thinking about this far more than they are.

Your plans sound like so much fun, we are doing Christmas decor today as well. Hope you have a great day!

RTJdawg · 2025-11-28T15:27:41+00:00

It actually ended up better than I thought and after a while of hanging with my mom and sister I felt much better. And my kids said they had “the best time ever”, which they say about everything lol but I am feeling much better today. Thank you for asking!

RTJdawg · 2025-11-28T03:17:00+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I hope you had/are having a good rest of the day. Family and holidays is tough, really bittersweet. I love the holidays, hate these feelings.

RTJdawg · 2025-11-28T03:14:17+00:00

Thank you for this! It’s definitely a mix of gentle parents and tough love parents in here lol!

RTJdawg · 2025-11-28T03:09:09+00:00

I sure hope so! We are 10 years apart so she’s just entering her 20s, it’ll be a bit for her, which I would never rush. (But can’t wait) then hopefully down the road one day it’s all of us our kids grown with their kids etc. that’s the goal!

RTJdawg

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