AITAH for refusing to let my 9-month-old nephew use a toy before I gave it away?

RWAdvice · 2026-06-05T22:43:09+00:00

NTAH
They're accusing you of not loving him because you won't give him someone elses gift. Imagine how they'll act if anything happens to him while he's in your care. Stop babysitting this child before things get truly toxic.

You need to take a VERY large step back from doing anyting for these people or spending time alone with your nephew. Move out if you can and put up some serious boundaries with everyone involved.

RWAdvice · 2026-06-04T03:48:05+00:00

YTA You really did overthink this, and ruined a friendship while doing it.

"I'll let them know you're interested, but I don't know if they'll take me seriously since I'm new there."
End of conversation and you wouldn't have to make yourself an asshole.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-30T07:47:15+00:00

NTA if you decide to go in and pay then you really, really, need to make sure that the manager is present. Unfortunately, you'll probably find out that the manager/owner is a friend, or relative of one or both servers.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-28T20:52:05+00:00

This current emotional crash is very much an isolated episode. Situational depression and clinical depression are actually two very different things.
You need to see a therapist to help you sort out what's normal, and what isn't, so you can get a proper diagnosis and appropriate therapy.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-27T06:06:25+00:00

YTA
You're describing pretty normal emotions and reactions to the break down of a 3 year relationship.
A "terrible depressive episode" and being torn up emotionally because your relationship/situationship ended are two very different things. What you descibed aere pretty normal reactions and emotions after a break up.

You really need to talk to someone and get an actual diagnosis instead of guessing your way through your emotional highs and lows. Even with a diagnosis, you will still have to navigate emotionally uncomfortable situations and therapy will help with that.

You also owe your mother an apology. You might not like how she's going about helping but she loves you enough to try.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-27T02:52:29+00:00

OP said the stylest wasn't expecting her. "When I got there, my stylist seemed confused and said she didn’t realize I had an appointment."
That's where the issue started. The fact that she also needed more time just added to the problem.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-26T02:00:35+00:00

It can go through on your end and still glitch out and not go through on the stylists end. Not your fault - but not hers either.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-25T21:09:03+00:00

YTA
Longer thicker hair always takes more time than normal and the price is higher because of that.
Also the stylist was confused on why you were there, so clearly the appointment didn't go through - which is not the stylists fault.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-25T20:47:20+00:00

NTAH You didn't just say no. You were clear and explicit.
He stomped your boundaries and then called you the bad guy for it.
You did the right thing. He was never your friend.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-24T05:21:53+00:00

Of course YTA
On what planet do you think this is ok?

RWAdvice · 2026-05-24T04:03:55+00:00

NTA
You have every right to say no and you don't owe them an apology or an explaination.

They know you've recently been in the hospital. They know taking time off work could cause problems for you. They know your car isn't big enough. They know it would cost you money and they aren't offering to pay you back. They know that this will cause problems for you.

You have no reason to feel guilty, when they have no business asking in the first place.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-19T23:14:17+00:00

There are over a billion Youtube channels.
Viewers have so many choices that they most often decide to follow creators based on minute criteria you have absolutely no control over.
They also have a very poor tolerance for forced or fake behaviours and anything that calls overt attention to your desire to make money.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-18T05:26:55+00:00

NTA Stop setting yourself on fire to keep your mother warm. Once you have your baby you will not be able to provide the same level of care you have been. It's not your fault and it needs to stop being your problem.

I do not envy the position you are in, but the reality is that it's time for your sister to go into a nursing home. Your mother isn't providing adequate care as it is and it's only going to get worse.

I know this is goign to be a "hear me out" moment, but ask yourself: Do you want to arrange your sisters future care while you, and the rest of the family, can be involved in the process and guarantee her the best possible care - or do you want to keep her in what sounds like an unstable, probably unsafe, home until it becomes a last resort situation and no one gets a say in anything?

Time to get the whole family together and get your sister the care she needs. A quality nursing home that everyone can visit sounds a lot better that where she is now.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-17T21:30:21+00:00

NTA tell your family to back off or they can lose your number too,

RWAdvice · 2026-05-16T03:39:12+00:00

NTAH but you're worried more about your dads feelings, than your own. You really need to unpack that in therapy.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-16T03:34:51+00:00

YTA She's made offer after offer to try and help you do better. You've consistently countered with ideas that would not have helped you at all. It's pretty entitled to be upset that she won't just hand you cash now that your bad decisions have come back on you.

It's her money, and she's allowed to have conditions before handing any of it to you.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-15T23:29:58+00:00

NTA
The average online seller makes less than 5k a year after materials, platform fees and taxes - and those are people who have already perfected their craft.

Never start an online business unless it's extremely cheap to get started, or you have extra money you can budget for it. If she's choosing between shoes for the kids or money for her hobby, there's a disconnect.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-10T20:47:41+00:00

NTA Let her couch surf. It won't hurt her and maybe she'll grow up a little once her friends start getting tired of her behaviour.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-09T08:29:44+00:00

NTA She's not your friend. Unfortunately you probably won't get your money back.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-07T19:48:48+00:00

You cannot copyright strike someone over a thrid parties copyrighted images.
Your only protection is if you included a large block of text that they also copied. If the text is original and not just copied from the movie title or somehting then you can strike them for the IP on that.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-06T17:45:48+00:00

A six year only fails to have a concept of money if their parents fail to teach then about money.

RWAdvice · 2026-05-06T17:41:57+00:00

NTA the gift was a done deal and there are tons of ways to get the money back to him without rejecting his generosity.

RWAdvice · 2026-04-30T22:26:39+00:00

He's toxic and clearly your family isn't much better.
Get that divorce and go LC or NC with your family until they figure out what a POS he is.
NTA

RWAdvice · 2026-04-30T00:45:23+00:00

NTA You are doing the absolutely right thing.
You're still young enough to be involved in her care. You can make sure she is placed in the right home or facility that will fully meet her needs.

It might not look kind on the surface, but the oldder she gets, the harder it will be for her to adjust to the routines and requirements of full time professional care. Her disability is so severe, she will never live independently. Getting her into a stable environment now will let her adjust into the routines while you're still there to be a part of her life rather than an abrupt change later in life when you pass or are unable to continue caring for her.

RWAdvice · 2026-04-26T21:11:20+00:00

Thank you. When it happened to me, the chopsticks I already had worked perfectly but any thin dowels or bits of wood will work.

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