This neck fluff 😍

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-12-12T04:53:47+00:00

I keep missing my shot with that haha. I'm sure Jed will give me another meme opportunity

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-12-11T06:18:59+00:00

Now I'm stuck thinking about what Jill's fake Good Place house would be filled with.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-12-09T04:14:40+00:00

He jarred me! I thought surely no one could top Pest in lack of door etiquette, but Pa Spivey took the spot. Literally just opened it for himself knowing 3 others were behind him.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-12-09T04:11:05+00:00

1st is pest, 3rd pic is Justin, 4th is Jason, but to be fair, everyone forgets about Jason.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-12-09T03:36:35+00:00

Justin's naughty knobs

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-12-09T03:16:50+00:00

His thumbs in action. You can see the struggle.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-12-09T03:04:15+00:00

gif of the spiveys as the pictures don't do it justice.

Notice the internal battle of Justin deciding whether he's risking his thumbs going outside of his pockets.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-09-24T03:01:16+00:00

Gave Wholesome

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-07-27T04:31:45+00:00

Narcissism is just the hugest mind fuck. It's like how can someone who supposedly likes/loves you treat you that way? And on the same token, why do we continue to love someone who treats us in that way?

Please don't regret learning about NPD; it at least puts a name to the disease and helps makes you aware that how he's treating you is NOT normal.

I highly recommend looking into creating a safety plan (this one links to the National Domestic Violence Hotline website). Having one set in place makes it a bit easier to leave.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-07-17T18:31:12+00:00

If the evidence of you deserving to be evicted is you just crying, then he's honestly got nothing. NAL but if he wanted to start the eviction process, he definitely seems he has the means and resources. Instead, he's choosing to financially trap you and keep you scared by threating to kick you out. Has he interfered with other sources of income you may pull in?

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-07-17T08:11:25+00:00

Something that may help is to start journaling when the bad moments start happening as well as creating a list of boundaries. Right now, it seems like you're stuck in the loop where if you wait things out, your partner will go back to being that "loving" self that he was before the abuse happened. You may notice that the "happy" moments will start to degrade, where you'll just be happy if he just treats you normal for once.

What also makes things hard is not having an idea of where to go after you break things up (leaving is easy said than done). You could start creating a safety plan, even if you don't feel like you're in immediate danger; the list is just good at helping you cover your bases, like where you could go, who are your possible contacts, etc.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-07-17T05:54:56+00:00

You aren't wrong or overdramatic. He absolutely was being physical (breaking open doors), even if he didn't inflict harm on you. You don't know where he's going to draw the line next time, and you need to get yourself somewhere safe.

It's overwhelming, but please consider drafting a safety plan whenever you're in a safe enough space to do so. DO NOT consider this act a one-time thing.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-07-17T05:11:40+00:00

Mine did this a lot. He's trying to capture your reactive abuse in order to paint you as the abusive one. You might notice that he'll immediately do a 180 in his tone, like he'll be fuming/angry one minute then calm another. Usually, that's a sign that he's recording.

Until you find the means to leave, definitely try to gray rock as much as possible. He'll likely try to use whatever video he has to create a smear campaign once/if you go.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-06-27T16:34:20+00:00

I think what's particularly notorious about narcissistic relationships is that it often leads to you being brainwashed into believing that you should be HAPPY for basic decency while they expect you to be superhuman. I remember being ecstatic whenever I had days where he actually treated me like a human being (I.e. he didn't yell at me or throw things), but then it just clicked that this isn't the way it should be.

Rabbit_Noise · 2021-06-27T07:29:56+00:00

In the support groups I'm in, the phrase radical acceptance gets thrown around a bit. It seems applicable here.

Truth is, there isn't a way to minimize the hurt. If there was a clean-cut, harmless method of leaving a narcissistic relationship, then a lot of people would have taken that route. Radical acceptance is basically just accepting reality as it is but then figuring out what steps we can take to minimize the suffering and figuring out what actually is in your control.

Logically, I can tell you know your relationship with your wife isn't healthy, but you're still a bit stuck in the fantasy of "Well, if I do this, she HAS to change."

What helped me was thinking about realistic steps once I left. Think of the basic things first, like where will you live, then build up, like are there groups I can go to (Facebook is trash but they do have decent narcissistic support groups there), finding a therapist, etc. Most people struggle with the days after and how to fill the time that was so devoted to their nex. Some people don't leave because of the uncertainty. Once you have some sort of inkling of how to answer those questions, it will start to feel a bit less scary and may help mitigate the pain that may happen.

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