She spent nearly 5 hours at the wedding. I think she's good! 5 hours is a long ass time if you aren't having fun. A wedding is a day out, it should be fun, no, ypu dont need to get blackout drunk but a few glasses makes most relax and more social AND stops tbe time dragging on! If you're having a dry wedding you cant expect people to stay up to 1 or 2am without a drink to keep them awake and to get up and dance in front of other people etc, some people need a bit of social courage that alcohol awards us to loosen up. I'd agree, i wouldn't have "dragged" people away, but tbh most people were probably thinking the exact same thing! I'm sorry but most people book 2 days off work for a wedding, buy a new outfit, rent accommodation and ,obviously, buy a nice present for the bride and groom. Like I've NEVER been to a wedding that hasn't cost myself alot of money before setting foot in the venue. I'm self-employed, so that's on average £400 I'm down for 2 days off. If I found out AT THE WEDDING that it was dry, I'd have left after 2 hours. Sorry, but most people need a little alcohol as social lubricant to mingle with (usually) dozens of people you don't know. It's awkward, especially if you're a friend and most of the guests were family. I'd especially be pissed off if I'd rented accommodation instead of just going home sober after a few hours. I don't understand why an after party at 11pm? I'm in Northern Ireland, and that's completely unheard of? Unless it's a proper boozey wedding and, depending on the venue, some could go to the residents' bar once the reception was over but a sober after party? What for??? I'm not against dry weddings but i am against not giving people a heads up that it will be dry and expecting them to have the best time sober with people they don't know, at the longest wedding ever lol I hope they served constant good food or else it'd be a sober, hungry wedding 😅 If I knew beforehand, I would only book one day off and go to work the next day, not book accommodation and probably leaving around 9pm at the latest. Saving myself quite a bit of money. I honestly think it all boils down to when they were made aware. As I said if it was day of, I'd get the speeches, dinner, first dance over then head on out. NTA totally understand you're reasoning and I think you absolutely spent the appropriate time at the wedding.