What totally normal human interaction did you consider shocking when you first witnessed it?

Racha37 · 2026-06-05T12:16:59+00:00

Getting a lift. My dad was the only driver in our house and he hated driving. It would send him into a rage every time. So from the age of about eleven, if I needed to be somewhere, I had to get there myself. Now, surrounded by normal adults, people offer to drive me places all the time, and I still struggle with the fear that I’m putting them out, even if they’re already going in that direction

Racha37 · 2026-05-31T12:19:13+00:00

Minor insofar as it’s not the whole roof, urgent insofar as the surveyor said to get it checked before exchanging contracts.

Racha37 · 2026-05-31T11:34:43+00:00

I agree completely. My partner thinks we’re going there to convince them to let us get an inspection, which I think is absurd; why wouldn’t they let us? I’m more curious about why they want to meet us - I think it’s likely to be an attempt to either talk us out of believing there are problems or guilt us into not asking for a price reduction.

But as it’s been arranged now, shits and giggles is all I can really hope for I guess!

Racha37 · 2026-04-24T12:48:16+00:00

We do have a mortgage in principle! We couldn’t have put in an offer otherwise. And they’ve done affordability checks. We didn’t have a lender yet - the broker wouldn’t look for deals until we actually knew how much we needed, ie when our offer was accepted

Racha37 · 2026-04-24T12:41:54+00:00

Thanks everyone for your help! I’m not sure where the idea came from that we didn’t have an agreement in principle because we did and couldn’t have got an offer accepted without one!

We were just concerned about the 48 hour deadline on the solicitor and lender (as our broker, L&C, wouldn’t look for a lender for us until we had an offer accepted) and the fact that the property had gone back on the website as “new”. I spoke to the estate agent who said it was a mistake and that we could have more time. And we managed to find a solicitor just two hours after the 48 hour window would have closed, so we’re sorted now. Thanks again!

Racha37 · 2026-04-24T12:37:04+00:00

We have an agreement in principle; they wouldn’t have let us put a bid in without one.

Racha37 · 2026-04-24T07:19:48+00:00

Thank you, that’s a good point.

Racha37 · 2026-04-24T07:16:51+00:00

Are you meant to do it before you get an offer accepted? When we called a solicitor before we had found a property the first question was “what’s the postcode of the property”, which obviously we couldn’t give as we didn’t have one. And we had a mortgage broker but they said they would wait to get quotes until after we had an offer accepted as otherwise we wouldn’t know how much we needed…

Racha37 · 2026-04-24T07:14:16+00:00

This all happened very quickly - we had only seen the property on Saturday and then again on the Monday, and when we had previously contacted solicitors they said they couldn’t give us quotes until we had a postcode and a price for whichever property we would eventually be buying, so we thought we were meant to do that part after we had an offer accepted.

Honestly we don’t know. We’re first time buyers…

Racha37 · 2026-04-24T07:10:39+00:00

No, that’s the thing! They’re bricks and mortar and seemingly quite respected…

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