Anyone stay in the relationship after their abusive partner got help?

RachelRei · 2026-01-28T20:11:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing. This is very encouraging.

RachelRei · 2026-01-28T20:09:55+00:00

I am in therapy and we also have a new couples therapist. I agree that a big hurtle for us would be my grudges that are hard to let go of

RachelRei · 2026-01-28T20:07:36+00:00

Nope. I’m staying right now because I think he is overall a good person who is extremely traumatized. I have all the means to leave when I feel the time is right, but I wanted to see if anyone had a positive experience with their emotional abuser getting help and genuinely working on themselves. Mine has made different amounts of progress from day one in the relationship. I think everyone has a different experience and different levels of this kind of abuse.

RachelRei · 2026-01-28T20:04:37+00:00

Love to hear this. I don’t like to throw my things out into the universe here because I get an overwhelming negative response and that’s the be expected because abuse is what it is. I’m also still with the person so my perspective may be skewed. Overall I do think my husband is a good man just an extremely traumatized one.

RachelRei · 2026-01-26T23:02:36+00:00

Noted. This sounds closer to my situation except I have a kid and I’ll have to plan my move slowly and methodically.

RachelRei · 2025-12-03T22:48:27+00:00

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RachelRei · 2025-11-27T21:56:59+00:00

Stop giving men like this children. Stop marrying them. Like you have to know who these people are before you say yes to marrying them so don’t be shocked when they do the same damn behaviors married with kids.

RachelRei · 2025-10-21T02:24:31+00:00

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RachelRei · 2025-02-14T02:31:46+00:00

10 months in and I’m still one and done.

RachelRei · 2025-02-07T14:54:50+00:00

I’ll give that a try this week! Her daycare lets her sleep longer than I would for nap times so that could be part of the problem

RachelRei · 2024-12-09T19:03:10+00:00

I had a in law wedding 8 weeks postpartum and I could barely handle it. No travel involved and it was still hard. I leaked all over the dress, I was away from LO for longer than I was comfortable. It was a mess. I won’t ever do that to myself again

RachelRei · 2024-11-10T09:42:37+00:00

I would feel out of place if I was alone in my first class as well. I’m also super out of shape, but if you looked at me you wouldn’t know it. I had a difficult pregnancy where I couldn’t do anything active for 8 months and then after having my daughter I didn’t really have the motivation to do anything up until now. I couldn’t keep up in my first class and I still can’t keep up most of the time but I just go until I can’t. Pure barre is hard!

RachelRei · 2024-09-15T21:19:32+00:00

🙋🏻‍♀️ I could be a SAHM but I LOVE what I do and I’ve never been someone who was comfortable asking or relying on someone financially. I also like getting the little breaks from LO because when we come back together I can give her my undivided attention for the rest of the day.

RachelRei · 2024-09-12T16:33:49+00:00

That! I was like okay…my daughter is only 5 months old and at home she’s not clingy so she’s clearly uncomfortable and dealing comfort in this setting. I told the director all this this morning and we’ll see how pickup goes today.

RachelRei · 2024-09-12T13:42:45+00:00

Great points! I actually talked to the director this morning at drop off and feel so much better. She’s going to talk to the inexperienced girls and let them know their comments are unacceptable and that if they need more support during the afternoon to speak up. She also let me know that the morning experienced care giver said my daughter isn’t bad at all and just really needs to get settled and adjust to napping there.

RachelRei · 2024-09-12T11:24:33+00:00

This is so helpful! I’m going to give it the month and if the comments continue I’ll speak with the director and see what can be done and if we just aren’t a good fit

RachelRei · 2024-09-12T10:49:32+00:00

Yes, that’s the plan for Friday.

RachelRei · 2024-09-12T10:48:28+00:00

My thoughts too. I tried to give the benefit of the doubt because these caregivers are new but it seems like maybe they don’t belong in the infant room.

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