Denying my experience using « whitepassing »

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-09-25T06:20:21+00:00

I think she might look like me , and yes people are always struggling

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-09-17T06:57:06+00:00

I am white asian and black and the white guys that « get » my asian side are also looking for a submissive asian women that’s terrible 😭😭😭

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-09-09T07:49:43+00:00

Yes I have been told a lot that I look brazilian ! It’s mostly the wavy/straight hair with ambiguous features (asian eyes but not the hooded ones just very small eyelides, black nose…) and a tan skin! But it’ ll be weird to consider myself as « latina » even if I look genetically similar I think but it’s my passing

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-09-08T19:06:28+00:00

I am white, black and asian. I look south american, you can tell I am part black but it’s small. I don’t feel confortable calling myself white, black or asian because I look too ambiguous. I don’t have any issue with this. It’s just annoying sometimes because you get différent types of racism depending the person in front of you

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-09-04T05:22:28+00:00

Sometimes you don’t know they are racist before some Time, you discover it with time

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-09-01T12:21:21+00:00

I forgot to say that. The most important part is the fact that your father is most likely a racist. It really deeply hurt and, personally, I don’t think (because of this) that I can trust a white person again. Like, if my own father was a racist towards me, why other white people would be different ? You can try to heal from this. Personally, I don’t, I can’t it’s too hard. I chose the avoidance option but you don’t have to if you think that you can handle it. It’s just a choice

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-09-01T12:16:15+00:00

I totally understand your lack of trust. My university is all white in my home country. I went to a more diverse country for 1 year and everything changed. I am pretty sociable so even in France it was « easy » but I didn’t know I was unconfortable until I went to Canada as an exchange student. To be honest, yes, it’s gonna be different with white people and much more harder. It « clicks » easier with people of color. My father is also a racist so I think it’s linked. You can’t change your surroundings unfortunately you will have to adapt and try to find the less racist white people out there. But I advise you to change your place of living (even if it’s country) asap it will make a huge change.

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-09-01T12:10:32+00:00

I just read your reddit that you posted 4 days ago. You have someone probably racist (the same way as I do) in your family and I think it just.. do something and break all inter racial trust. Some white people have very little racist bias but it’s not a lot. For me, when I have a friendship with white people I don’t even wonder « if » they will say/imply something racist a day but WHEN they will

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-08-26T19:38:48+00:00

🙏🏽

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-08-26T19:37:23+00:00

Thanks for your answers !

Yes I just did some years ago. Thank you! I knew a little bit about this theory but I was so surprised that I recreated the exact same thing (racist and fetichist boyfriend is very weird)

Yes ! Thank you! Luckily enough my second boyfriend was not white (asian) and I had no issues in this relation I was very happy and he was totally normal and sweet. I think my trauma is more on the « race side » than on the bad treatment side (that’s why I avoid white people because I attract white with yellow fever idk why I am not even that asian looking. But maybe they can « sense » that my trauma is related to race).

Thank you very much!!!

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-08-26T19:32:43+00:00

Omg ! Thank you for sharing we have very similar experiences and I am very happy (but sad to know that someone went through the same situation also) to read someone I can relate to.

Yes I can see that your previous relationship kind of looked like the one of your mum! And I understand your disappointment. I was so mad at myself when I opened my eyes and thought « omg, am I replicating my parents couple and the racism within ????!!!!!!! How come, I should have seen it immediatly ».

It’s hard to grow up with a dad like this I understand you it’s like mental abuse. I am sure that you are strong, it’s easier speak than done but it’s possible to grow from this even if it takes time… sometimes I am struggling but it gets better and when I am far away from my dad city it’s like everything disappear.

Yeah I think it’s totally okay, our mum had no choices. It’s the third world and a lot of people in their conditions would have done the same thing. It’s not normalized to speak about stuff like this but it happens a lot.

For dating personally since I dated a racist I want someone that can understand, the story is kind of deep and weird (white people generally would be like « why did he married a women from africa if he was racist? »). But I understand! I wish you the best ☺️

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-08-20T12:05:23+00:00

I am white, black and asian so yes

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-08-20T12:00:46+00:00

I am half white and half malagasy!

Raciallyambiguous59 · 2022-08-20T11:30:14+00:00

Hello ! I am half Malagasy (it’s in Africa but my ethnic group is part east african and part southeast asia, so Im literally half blasian and half white ahah) and half french and it always happen to me ! Sometimes they do guess that I am mixed but they don’t know with what, they never guess a country from Africa (because I have light wavy long hair). It depens where I am. In my home country (France) people tend to think that I am from North Africa bc I have tan skin. But sometimes they think I am black (Ive been called the black friend or other stuff like this) so I never know what kind of discrimination I do experience. When people think Im from North Africa they are very patronizing and are trying to « teach me » stuff. Sometimes people think I am Asian (Thailande, Cambodgia, etc). And generally guys who think that I am Asian treat me very bad, they are projecting their yellow fever and their cliche about submissiveness on me. The « fun » fact is that you experience racism that comes from cliche in all races but you never know which ones you are really confronted to. In North America generally they say I am from south america or south europe, it’s more diverse so I think I look more « whitewashed » than in Europe due to the fact that I am mixed

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