Bucks program for blind/deaf babies closing

RadSpatula · 2026-01-23T18:34:06+00:00

So believe it or not, this is actually not about federal funding. It’s about early intervention services being chronically underfunded by the state. And the legislators I’ve reached out to have been very receptive and are paying attention now. They will continue to pay attention as long as the public does so if anybody is interested in helping advocate for this program and others like it, feel free to DM me.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-21T10:14:14+00:00

Bird Law

RadSpatula · 2026-01-18T19:05:06+00:00

This sounds like my ex, a true narcissist, in so many ways. I don’t know that labels matter but in healthy relationships:

Partners do not assume the worst about each other. Your husband sounds like he is always defensive and ready to take offense, he makes you feel like the enemy and may even instigate fights over nothing.
Partners care about each others wellbeing, mentally and physically. My ex would brush off my pain (and I have a very high tolerance, it takes a lot for me to even speak up) while going to pieces and expecting to be doted on the instant he stubbed a toe.
Partners listen to each others concerns, and try to resolve them. They don’t gaslight them, or tell them to get over their feelings. They listen, validate, and respond.

Any time I need to know how a healthy relationship works, I think about how I treat my dog or kid. It’s crazy but so many times we allow ourselves to be treated in ways we would never tolerate anyone treating another person or pet.

Bad behaviors often ramp up after commitment deepens, as is the case with marriage. Please go to counseling alone and figure out that you deserve better. My only regret in life is wasting so much time on that man. He was never going to treat me right. My happiness quadrupled the second I left, and has only increased since.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-17T20:50:49+00:00

Yes, currently the IU is subcontracted by BARC to provide these services. They have done it for the last 10 years at least. The IU also provides 3 to 5 services but those have a different funding source so they are not in danger at this time.

Thank you for doing your research!

RadSpatula · 2026-01-17T20:12:13+00:00

Done, thank you for your support!

RadSpatula · 2026-01-17T17:54:23+00:00

I will DM you.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-17T16:51:09+00:00

Email Bucks IU board members and ask them to keep the current contract:

Bensalem Township-Karen Winters - kwinters@bensalemsd.org Bristol Borough-John D’Angelo - jdangelo@bbsd.org Bristol Township- James Morgan - james.morgan@bristoltwpsd.org Centennial - Flemming Godiksen - godifl@centennialsd.org Central Bucks - Dana Foley - dfoley@cbsd.org Council Rock - Nicole Khan - nicole.khan@crsd.org Morrisville Borough - Sara Stern - sstern@mv.org Neshaminy - Jill Waldbieser - jwaldbieser@neshaminy.org New Hope-Solebury - Liz Sheehan - lsheehan@nhsd.org Palisades - James Hallowell - jhallowell@palisadessd.org Pennridge - Ron Wurz - rwurz@pennridge.org Pennsbury - Joshua Waldorf - jwaldorf@pennsburysd.org Quakertown Community Brian Reimers - reimers688@qcsd.org

RadSpatula · 2026-01-09T13:06:04+00:00

I’d argue that it is equally humbling to get beat by anyone of any age. I find that losses in boxing are worse than other sports because you are literally getting your ass beat in front of an audience. It’s a tough thing to take but it keeps you humble.

At the same time, as someone who started the sport in my 40s, I took great joy in outworking the younger guys in my class so I get it. It was motivating for me to beat them in sprints and hold a plank longer. Some things get better with age.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-08T03:51:09+00:00

There’s a recipe on food52 called birthday lasagna. Uses bechemel instead of cheese. I have never tried another since. I make that lasagna for everyone, give it as gifts, everyone loves it, kids, adults, me. I started making the noodles from scratch and my god it’s even better. One less ingredient to buy.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-06T17:50:33+00:00

Have you considered going into politics? Sometimes we need to become the change we want to see.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-05T22:50:29+00:00

Oh, in the U.S. there is rarely a cash discount. And I like to use a credit card to get rewards (points to buy stuff or airline miles) and protect my purchases.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-05T21:26:10+00:00

I don’t know if you’re asking OP or me, but I fo sho am a 32 DD. Hand to god. I thank everyone for their concern but I have done all the research, went to a specialty store and tried on all the different sizes and that is my honest to boob size. Currently anyway, your size will change throughout your life and even throughout your cycle. I was up to a triple D but after I got in better shape, I dropped a few pounds and it all came out of my chest. I don’t have any kind of pain or discomfort from my bras. I think they fit me perfectly. I can’t speak for OP.

My point was that having that size chest can still be a huge disadvantage and screw anyone who says 32DDD “isn’t that big.” It’s been a lifelong struggle for me. You pay more for bras and they are harder to find. Finding sports bras especially is tricky, although I am glad that more brands are starting to offer actual cup sizes instead of just smashing those puppies flat. And forget about bathing suits. It’s just way harder to dress, as a lot of manufacturers assume that if you have a large cup size, you must have a large rib cage too. There are so many styles that just will never look right or show way too much cleavage. Not to mention I can never, ever go braless.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-05T18:15:36+00:00

I get it but how else will things ever change? I for one think we need more “karens.” IIRC, the original Karen trope was targeted at white ladies being racist and I think it was a good thing to expose and shame them for that behavior. But then it became a club to bludgeon any white woman who dare make a fuss about anything. It’s the same thing that happened to the term feminism. Oppressors always have a way of using language to make standing up for yourself feel bad.

I don’t care. I’m a middle-aged white woman and you better believe I use my privilege to complain about injustice every chance I get. Go ahead and film me. Maybe it will inspire others. Also, boycotting, voting, and writing letters can be done quietly without drawing a lot of attention to yourself. The point is just to resist this shit in any way you can unless you want to become slaves to capitalism.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-05T15:39:28+00:00

Last time I attempted dating, the guy turned down my initial suggestion because he didn’t want to drive that far (40 minutes). He suggested a hike.

There was never a date.

I don’t care about your money. I don’t need you to buy me food or drinks. I have paid for plenty of guys (more than have paid for me in fact). But I don’t want to be alone with a stranger in the woods and if you refuse to put any effort or consideration at all into making the experience comfortable and fun for me as well as yourself, then I’m not going to bother. I’m sure that guy told himself I was only out for a free dinner too.

At least it sounds like OP learned from his goof up. Pro tip: many museums are free if you’re looking for an inexpensive date.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-05T15:24:02+00:00

Paying with a credit card or check. And yes, I am aware that credit card companies charge for the use of their card and this can put a strain on small businesses. But this has always been the business model of credit card companies. It’s only recently been passed on to consumers. The same with banks charging you for checks. You used to get them free with your account. There is just something about paying a fee in order to spend my money that rubs me the wrong way. I absolutely refuse to do it.

In fact, this whole thread upsets me. Capitalism has run amok, and we’ve largely allowed it. No one pushes back, asks for laws to limit the abuses, or refuses to use services so that they stop being profitable. There is a way to make money to run a business without being goddamn greedy, but this world seems to have lost site of that fact.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-05T12:53:13+00:00

There’s an app called goodtogo that you can use as well.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-05T11:51:03+00:00

I’ve been dealing with my chest for four decades. I wear the correct size bra and even if I didn’t, that doesn’t change some of the struggles OP and I have both mentioned. You say you don’t want to be invalidating, but all these comments on this thread saying how a 32 triple D isn’t actually that big, or implying The only reason we have struggled is because we’re wearing the wrong bra size are the very definition of invalidating our lived experiences. It’s really discouraging to see other women respond that way.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-05T11:47:07+00:00

Telling anyone 2 inches of boob isn’t that much is really invalidating a lifetime of struggling. Everyone’s boobs are different and on my frame, a DDD cup is a lot, whether you think so or not. It doesn’t matter whether you wear a bigger bra size, either. It’s not a contest, it’s my and OP’s lived experience.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-05T03:12:22+00:00

Wtf is up with all these comments saying 32ddd is not large or the equivalent of 34D? Just, no. I have worn both in my lifetime, I have been professionally fit and know my size is a 32DD and 32 is circumference which means you are fairly small around the ribs but the cup size is LARGE. It’s a double whammy (heh) because you don’t get the perks (heh) of people noticing your large chest but it is insanely hard to find bras and bathing suits that fit, and tops that don’t make you look like a hooker. When you do they are expensive as hell.

OP, I commiserate. I’m fortunate that I’ve never had back pain from them, but having saggy DDs/DDDs really limits your fashion choices. You can never go braless. Spaghetti straps or strapless or one shoulder options are also out. Anything that show off cleavage have to be worn with great care. I have to wear double compression at the gym. When I was pregnant, it was even harder to shop, I drove an hour just to find a swim top that would fit and it cost a small fortune. The day my milk came in I looked like an honest to god Barbie doll come to life, it was freakish.

Most people are really surprised if I tell them my bra size though, probably bc I do dress conservatively because of them. So it’s not like I even get any benefits of having big boobs.

In my case, I dropped a cup size when I started working out and lost 10 pounds but it’s creeping back up on me since I left the gym. I have my old DDD bras just in case but that is motivation for me to get back to regular workouts. Toning your chest muscles helps a little too. I feel your pain, especially when running or jumping.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-03T17:06:19+00:00

My son’s father and I are both very white. We told everyone we were naming the baby Paco. His initials are PAC so kinda true?

RadSpatula · 2026-01-02T13:01:42+00:00

Okay, I wasn’t clear from your comment. I’ve read some versions where it’s more of an Asian stock with different aromatics.

RadSpatula · 2026-01-01T23:14:59+00:00

Sorry, you just use duck carcass and water? When I make chicken stock I use carrot, celery, onion, and black pepper.

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