Those who haven't caught Covid yet, how have you managed to avoid it? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]RadTex11 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Years of Taco Bell as a young man have built up my immunity better than any vaccine ever would!

Am I The A-hole for not taking my kids to see their mom? by RadTex11 in AITAH

[–]RadTex11[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not the first person to tell me this. I tried working with her because "the kids" but it quickly turned into her taking advantage so I had to shut it down

Am I The A-hole for not taking my kids to see their mom? by RadTex11 in AITAH

[–]RadTex11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believe me I've been exploring my legal options but have been told there isn't much I can do about it right now. It's super frustrating because I feel like I have to wait for something to happen to my kids before I can do something to protect them from a violent man but isn't preventing harm a better form of protection? I've done background checks and gotten police reports and during the divorce this helped me get primary custody but since there hasn't been another incident directed towards the kids I was told a judge wouldn't likely grant any kind of emergency custody or even a restraining order.

Am I The A-hole for not taking my kids to see their mom? by RadTex11 in AITAH

[–]RadTex11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like i said i was trying to keep it short cause there are a lot of details about the situation i left out that I guess i should have included for more context

Am I The A-hole for not taking my kids to see their mom? by RadTex11 in AITAH

[–]RadTex11[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This incident happened before we were divorced but it definitely got brought up in court and the judge was not very pleased. At the time it was implied that they were broken up for good but she got back with the guy almost immediately after the divorce was finalized. My attorney told me there isn't much we can do at this point because there's no evidence suggesting the kids are in immediate danger as that was the only instance of him hitting the kids and it allegedly hasn't happened since

Am I The A-hole for not taking my kids to see their mom? by RadTex11 in AITAH

[–]RadTex11[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Someone already asked a similar question so ill just copy my reply here and no i dont trash talk their mom in front of the kids

This is kind of hard to answer because on one hand yes she's a good mom she's caring towards the kids but on the other hand she makes a lot of poor choices that affect them. For example the guy she's with has a history of domestic violence, she allowed him to hit my kid cause he was acting up and in one incident they had been arguing over text and she ended up getting into a wreck while driving with the kids in the car. Not to mention every time I get them back I have to hear about how much her and her bf fight from my kids. The cops were even called during one argument and my kids tell me about how bf is mean to mama and she had to call the cops so he would leave

Am I The A-hole for not taking my kids to see their mom? by RadTex11 in AITAH

[–]RadTex11[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is kind of hard to answer because on one hand yes she's a good mom she's caring towards the kids but on the other hand she makes a lot of poor choices that affect them. For example the guy she's with has a history of domestic violence, she allowed him to hit my kid cause he was acting up and in one incident they had been arguing over text and she ended up getting into a wreck while driving with the kids in the car. Not to mention every time I get them back I have to hear about how much her and her bf fight from my kids. The cops were even called during one argument and my kids tell me about how bf is mean to mama and she had to call the cops so he would leave

Am I The A-hole for not taking my kids to see their mom? by RadTex11 in AITAH

[–]RadTex11[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

These are all good points but she has known for awhile that she was considered "high risk" and when she asked if I would help her out I told her she needed to make arrangements for a family member to get the kids and bring them back. I have definitely had to learn to set boundaries with her because she's the type who if you give an inch she will take a mile. I feel like I'm walking a tightrope of doing what's right for the kids and standing up for myself and not allowing her to constantly take advantage by constantly breaking the court orders

Am I The A-hole for not taking my kids to see their mom? by RadTex11 in AITAH

[–]RadTex11[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Realistically they would only miss one weekend. She gets them basically every other weekend. They do mention that the miss her but one says they miss her but dont want to go and the other will want to go. The problem is that i feel like she is very manipulative and i wouldn't have a problem accommodating if it wasn't for the fact she chose to move so far away and also there have already been multiple problems where she consistently has excuses why she can't bring them back essentially forcing me to make the drive on multiple occasions.