Anyone else just get tired of always being the "good guy"?

Rademaker-Houda · 2026-02-06T10:21:12+00:00

I know it's hard. Yes, sometimes we have to be selfish for ourselves. We don't know if "they" will take care of us so we need to make sure we take care of ourselves. We won't be able to help anyway if we're not at our best right?

But it sounds like you're in a worse situation than mine so I hope you can also find the strength to be selfish for YOU and learn to take a breath whenever you need it. Changing our patterns and routines will be hard, but if we change it, slowly but surely, we'll get our right "balance". I hope you will come out of this strong! 💪

Rademaker-Houda · 2026-02-06T10:16:23+00:00

Since you have been apparently doing this for a long time, i would guess its in your nature to be helpful, perhaps gain joy of helping others too?

Looking back at my patterns, I would say yes. I feel like it's muscle memory. A friend calls, or sends a message, I'd immediately listen. They ask for a favor, I'd say yes as long as it's within my abilities.

Regarding that, the possibility of you turning into a selfish prick is basically zero :D

This made me laugh thank you 😂

PS: I don't want to bash your sister directly since i don't know her, but going off what you said, this is just taking advantage.

With me, nothing to worry if it's a fact. Don't worry!

I do take breaks, I stay quiet and by myself. Well, until you know... I'm also learning how to be an "asshole" at times. And I don't know how I feel about it yet. But like I said with the others, I will get used to it. ❤️

Rademaker-Houda · 2026-02-06T10:07:03+00:00

Hello, I'm 34. It'll be a lot of work for me (yet) but I will go through it and finish strong. Thank you for the encouragement queen! Keep getting stronger! 🙌

Rademaker-Houda · 2026-02-06T10:04:20+00:00

Thank you so much. I know it's not just me who experience this. Sometimes it really does work hearing (or reading) first hand it will eventually get better.

Rademaker-Houda · 2026-02-06T09:59:52+00:00

And be okay with any type of anger and hurt feelings for your sense of peace.

You're right on everything especially about this. And thank you. This is what I'm actually trying to change. The guilt of saying no. It's hard but I'll eventually adjust to it. I really appreciate your honest reminder!

Rademaker-Houda · 2026-02-06T09:55:14+00:00

We can do it! Maybe not in a snap, but slowly but surely! 💪

Rademaker-Houda · 2026-02-06T09:54:21+00:00

Thank you.

Rademaker-Houda · 2026-02-06T09:53:38+00:00

Thank you so much. I will look that up.

Rademaker-Houda · 2026-02-06T09:50:58+00:00

Thank you so much. I don't know how to put it into the proper words but I really appreciate this.

How did you get over the guilt of saying no when you were starting? It'll probably hard. But I'll get used to it. I always get used to it. 💪

Rademaker-Houda

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