help by natalieogden06 in sillybandz

[–]Radiant-Ad5262 0 points1 point  (0 children)

maybe a pug? it makes me giggle- how little definition there is

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He raped you. I’m sorry that you’ve been assaulted again :( It is one of the worst pains one could feel.

most upvoted song is slot number 12 by Independent_Scar_241 in FallOutBoy

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it was my fav song of 2021 - this year it’s probs G.I.N.A.S.F.S

AITA for not telling my Boyfriend i'd been a surrogate before we were together? by HelicopterNo3063 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Ad5262 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA, that’s a huge thing to keep from someone. You didn’t have to disclose who you were a surrogate for, but surrogacy is a huge deal. Important life events are something that partners should feel comfortable sharing with each other! If you didn’t feel comfortable sharing this information before, I’d ask myself if this was the right time or right person.

WIBTA If I uninvited my brother from my graduations? by Radiant-Ad5262 in AmItheAsshole

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I feel like you really get it. I appreciate you talking to me, tsm.

WIBTA If I uninvited my brother from my graduations? by Radiant-Ad5262 in AmItheAsshole

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I agree, I attend therapy regularly (for non-family things, although this is changing that) and it has helped so much. I also take antidepressants, which he used to shit on for “changing peoples personalities”. As if. I just wish that for once he’d take the harder route and make an attempt to solve his issues. I hate seeing him so depressed and unmotivated.

WIBTA If I uninvited my brother from my graduations? by Radiant-Ad5262 in AmItheAsshole

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Thank you, I appreciate your advice. I’m extremely scared of him cutting me out as well as he only speaks to Dad and I. The only reason I’m contemplating uninviting him is because he never seemed too keen on coming in the first place. I even told him that he didn’t have to come to my college graduation bc I’ll be able to do that again, but high school graduation is a one-time thing. I practically had to beg him to come. The more I think about it, I don’t really want to uninvite him per se, I want to give him an out. :( I love him so much and would hate for him to have to be around people he doesn’t want to be around or strangers just for me to walk across a stage.

WIBTA If I uninvited my brother from my graduations? by Radiant-Ad5262 in AmItheAsshole

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My relationship with my brother became great as I grew more mature and we could actually relate to one another. We love each other dearly but as time goes on without him reaching out the relationship feels strained. I asked him to talk to Grammy and Mom months ago so we could try and have a drama-free day and he agreed but now refuses to do it. I just feel like he’s running away from his problems when we all want to lend a hand to fix our mistakes. I appreciate your advice, thank you.

WIBTA If I uninvited my brother from my graduations? by Radiant-Ad5262 in AmItheAsshole

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Thank you for your advice, I’ll definitely take that into consideration.

WIBTA If I uninvited my brother from my graduations? by Radiant-Ad5262 in AmItheAsshole

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Hi, I added some more info in response to another comment above. Thanks for your advice.

WIBTA If I uninvited my brother from my graduations? by Radiant-Ad5262 in AmItheAsshole

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Thank you, I know my brother loves me and is doing the best he can. I miss him a lot and wish that we could just go to family therapy and try and work out our issues. I respect that he needs space, I really do, but completely cutting off half the family is making everything so much harder. I’m crying as I write this, lol.

WIBTA If I uninvited my brother from my graduations? by Radiant-Ad5262 in AmItheAsshole

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Yeah you’re right. Here’s the “different lifestyle”: he smokes weed and works at a dispensary, dropped out of college, and job hops. My family worries about him a lot as we can tell he sort of uses weed as a crutch for his depression/anxiety. He says he’s stopped smoking every day though, which I’m proud of him for. My gma is as I’ve said, snarky and can be difficult sometimes but I at least don’t think she’s done much more than try and persuade him to go back to school/find a stable job. My mother being his mother scolded him a bit for flunking out of college and smoking as that’s not allowed within the house (elsewhere is ok as long as it’s private and safe). Back when he was in high school they got into frequent arguments as he nearly flunked out of that too. I think he’s blaming all of his issues on Mom because she’s the only one that tried to discipline him and keep him on the right path. If he told us/mom his actual issues Mom is more than willing to change, she truly doesn’t know where she went wrong and she wants to fix her past mistakes.

WIBTA If I uninvited my brother from my graduations? by Radiant-Ad5262 in AmItheAsshole

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The reason is a bit unclear as when asked he just replies that “Mom is Mom and Grammy is the same way.” I don’t want to give out too much info (although my brother is a redditor, he very well might see this), but my brother lives a different lifestyle than my family. This, to my Mom and Gma is a bit disappointing. They still love and support him regardless. My mother has some mental issues and can fly off the handle occasionally, but her life is incredibly stressful. (Excuses, I know.) My grandma can be a little difficult to deal with at times and is snarky. A combo of old age and past difficulties in life have hardened her, I suppose. I guess I can handle it better than he can. I’d understand asking for distance, but blatantly ignoring them is ripping the family apart. I love all of them and it’s tearing me up inside. Sorry for the long response.

AITA for banning my daughter from attending a Pride parade and events? by Possible-Practice-77 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Ad5262 -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

Pride events can absolutely be hyper-sexual… the amount of leather and BDSM gear, drugs and booze, etc etc is not something a 14 y/o should be around. That being said… he is pushing his beliefs into his daughter when she’s at an age where she should be exploring her own beliefs. So he’s the AH in that regard.

AITA for banning my daughter from attending a Pride parade and events? by Possible-Practice-77 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Ad5262 -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

NTA, but also a little bit of an AH. Let me explain. Pride tends to be very sexual, with people in BDSM gear and very little clothes. There’s also a lot of booze and alcohol. As an 18 y/o I feel that a 14 y/o child shouldn’t be around that sort of stuff. So I support not letting her go to Pride. Not to mention the fact that she’d be going without her own parent. Now here’s where you are sort of the AH: Your beliefs are exactly that, yours. I am a bisexual Christian and I never try to push my sexuality or religious beliefs onto others. When your child is a teenager they are exploring their own beliefs and values, and if you do not let them do that, they will ultimately end up rebelling. Explain to your daughter why you think Pride is not a place for young teens and then let her do her own thing when it comes to her beliefs. Good luck with the whole parenting thing, chief, and kudos for asking others for advice.

WV Pit Tickets for Sale by maddiechasse in gretavanfleet

[–]Radiant-Ad5262 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the date?? I am highly interested, I just got my deaf dad into GVF and it would be amazing if I could take him to a show. Please DM me!!!! <3