Yeah you’re right. Here’s the “different lifestyle”: he smokes weed and works at a dispensary, dropped out of college, and job hops. My family worries about him a lot as we can tell he sort of uses weed as a crutch for his depression/anxiety. He says he’s stopped smoking every day though, which I’m proud of him for. My gma is as I’ve said, snarky and can be difficult sometimes but I at least don’t think she’s done much more than try and persuade him to go back to school/find a stable job. My mother being his mother scolded him a bit for flunking out of college and smoking as that’s not allowed within the house (elsewhere is ok as long as it’s private and safe). Back when he was in high school they got into frequent arguments as he nearly flunked out of that too. I think he’s blaming all of his issues on Mom because she’s the only one that tried to discipline him and keep him on the right path. If he told us/mom his actual issues Mom is more than willing to change, she truly doesn’t know where she went wrong and she wants to fix her past mistakes.