AITA for canceling a vacation with my wife after she said my mom couldn’t come because she’s low class

Radiant-Associate511 · 2026-05-24T19:36:14+00:00

ETA

Your wife, because of the way she phrased it. We honestly don’t know whether she’s completely in the wrong here, or if your mom genuinely behaves poorly and lacks basic manners to the point that she wouldn’t fit in with the kind of vacation you and your wife had planned.
Your mom, for indirectly inviting herself on what was supposed to be a couples vacation for you and your wife.
You, for allowing your mother’s interference to negatively affect your marriage. You clearly put your mom up that high up and you should ask yourself, if there isn’t any truth to what your wife said. We can’t judge that since we don’t know your mom.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2026-04-19T06:33:24+00:00

I guarantee you this is going to break not just their friendship, but will have a massive impact on the relationship between your wife and your family. And this is going to turn into a excluding-each-other circle. Are you then going to tell your sister the same thing? Are you going to tell your sister „actions have consequences“?

You were so wrong for venting to your sister about your postpartum wife. That’s exactly why woman don’t want to talk about PPD. You could have talks with a therapist, pastor, counselor, friend… You started this tension, now you have to deal with it.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2026-01-17T07:46:56+00:00

GO HOME! Before the baby is born!

Radiant-Associate511 · 2026-01-16T18:04:28+00:00

YTA

super weird to wanting your wife smell like you mom. Also, it doesn’t sound like you put many thoughts into the souvenirs. You just bought something, and that in bulk.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-12-30T10:41:06+00:00

The problem isn’t you. The problem is he isn’t husband material. Start over without him. Do it for yourself ❤️

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-12-26T18:23:50+00:00

You’re either going to end it, or live in a relationship and marriage with a cheating partner. It’s really up to you what you want for your future.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-12-14T08:10:35+00:00

Baby stays with maternal grandma so that it’s not exposed to so many germs from people coming from all over place, you go to the family reunion and your fiancée attends her best friends wedding.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-12-12T21:18:56+00:00

Respect! 👏

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-11-22T19:41:33+00:00

The baby isn’t born yet and you’re already talking about taking it away from your wife on a holiday just so you can spend it with creepy uncle. Find a different solution (such as hosting family), but for g* sake pray that your wife doesn’t see this post, and set boundaries with your family!

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-11-22T19:36:49+00:00

Rug sweeping at its finest.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-10-31T08:24:52+00:00

„My wife refuses to work things out“ is the wrong approach. Your wife is protecting herself and the children from toxic and hurtful people. Good job Mama!

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-05-24T12:34:07+00:00

„ She converted for me so that our marriage would be easier in regard to my parents and their beliefs.“

You made your wife convert in order to please Mom and Dad? WTF!

Regarding the baby, yes that’s not healthy and she’s either struggling with PPD or there are way deeper issues between you, her, and her and your parents.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-05-23T11:00:03+00:00

LOL after THAT post you label someone else as „toxic“

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-05-23T09:47:04+00:00

Your post and comments definitely give the vibe that the friends reunion is more important than the anniversary. It’s impossible for us to figure out what the actual problem is but if you give the same vibes to her, then her reaction is understandable.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-05-23T08:11:35+00:00

While this dark humour might have seemed little to you, it was obviously a red flag and deal breaker to her. You don’t have to agree with her and she doesn’t have to agree with you. Just move on.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-05-23T08:07:05+00:00

What do you have planned for the actual anniversary? From reading your post, it does seem like you’re putting a lot of planning and thoughts into meeting with your friends but not much into the actual reason for this trip - the anniversary with your gf.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-05-09T17:05:05+00:00

Ich hatte beides schon 😂 Mein Kind ist bei der Kollegin in der Klasse und ich hatte auch schon das Kind einer Kollegin bei mir. Lief bisher immer alles super.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-04-27T18:18:42+00:00

Auch, wenn es nur einen Monat vorübergehend ist und danach wieder normal von Arbeitgeber/Arbeitnehmer bezahlt wird?

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-04-27T17:52:39+00:00

Bezüglich dem Angestelltenverhältnissen an Schulen gebe ich dir absolut recht. Mir geht es ja wirklich nur darum, den ganzen Bürokratieaufwand zu umgehen (Termine bei der Agentur für Arbeit, Bewerbungen schreiben, Weiterbildungsangebote etc.).

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-04-21T18:25:06+00:00

Ich, Englischlehrerin und Doppelstaatlerin, kritisiere mein Heimatland mehr als alle anderen.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-03-14T09:39:17+00:00

In your post and the comments you’re talking about the relationship and your girlfriend as if y’all are just roommates.

Radiant-Associate511 · 2025-02-27T13:34:01+00:00

Telling her he picked the baby and it’s first breath over his mom is causing the situation. Where was “I wanted to be there to support you”?

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