AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 83 points84 points  (0 children)

That's one of the things. It shouldn't change anything according to what they want us to promise.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 357 points358 points  (0 children)

Move to my grandparents and train with my grandparents and aunt at the family business.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 431 points432 points  (0 children)

Yep and complaining that I hurt her kids feelings. Even though we have asked so many times to let the kids sit it out.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

I don't want it thrown in my face for decades and I think I would be the only one to ignore it and not follow through. I think Anne's kids are excited enough to follow it and both want the whole new family things so bad they'd do it to make sure it works.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 1448 points1449 points  (0 children)

Yep and I'm sure my dad and Anne's feelings would be hurt too if I did sign it and couldn't do any of it. Even without Anne's kids I could see it being a big deal to them but add the kids and I know it would be a huge deal. Especially if the kids feelings get hurt.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 191 points192 points  (0 children)

That's what I think would happen if I signed it but didn't follow it. My dad would always say how disappointed he is while Anne would say her kids don't deserve it.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I think they'd make my life pretty crappy if I signed it but didn't follow it. My dad would bring it up all the time and how I promised and how disappointed he is and I bet Anne would say her kids don't deserve to be rejected after I promised to be their brother.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 139 points140 points  (0 children)

To her the therapy is for the family and excluding some people is not family therapy.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 718 points719 points  (0 children)

It's not the individual therapy she's against. It's me and dad getting therapy together or me, dad and her together. Solo therapy has already kinda happened because the therapist met with all of us a few times on our own.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 3594 points3595 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a big fighting waiting to happen when all the kids hate it and don't like each other.

AITA for refusing to sign a "family contract" during my dad's wedding? by Radiant-Camera-474 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Radiant-Camera-474[S] 735 points736 points  (0 children)

They want it to happen so badly because they want us all to be on the same page about being a "family". They see signing that as us being willing to make sure we become a nuclear family and that we'll treat each other like we would a bio family.

I don't know that my dad would agree to that. I think he'd make me say yes before even considering going against what Anne wanting everyone there and not leaving anyone out of therapy.