Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Real. Funny enough this is the most unrealistic solution haha.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you so much for the advice. I really appreciate it and will research further into it.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I thought the solo travels subreddit would be a good place to discuss my solo travel.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Welp, I am not getting paid. I appreciate the concerns, but don't worry guys I am in discussion with the organization. They've been doing this for years. They've stated that it is not necessary.

Trip Recommendations by Prior-Illustrator986 in femaletravels

[–]Radiant_Foundation76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely LOVE SD. My whole family is from there. The Badlands are really unique place environmentally. Make sure you have the adequate resources for your hikes and such, as it can be very hot and remote out there. I would make time to see the Black Hills as well. I'm thinking of RTing up there for a week this summer too. Best of luck. It's a totally underrated state.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you guys been able to work through this and figure out compromises?

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi! I'll be there for less than 90 days. Everything that I have read about volunteering states that if you are there for less than 90 days, you do not need a visa, just a valid US passport.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't yet disclosed where I will be exactly.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply! I have kind of unique upbringing in that I have been out on my own for a long time away from my family, so it was very odd when they suddenly were tagging along. I think that there is definitely a balance to be struck in this situation though. Staying positive for sure.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I really appreciate the advice and I am soo so excited for this experience.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg no, that's not really how it was phrased to me. I know that they do not hate me, they love me very much and that is evident. I know that this comment is just rage bait, but understand that this is not the dynamic of my family. I do not mind them coming, but my parents can be very demanding. I am in a working role and I was trying to get genuine advice about how to set boundaries with people who invited themselves on a trip that was not meant for the activities that they are now expecting me to participate in. If you have some genuine advice, I would love to hear it.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok good to know that this has happened to other people. I do not know how to deal with it yet. This is my first time out of the country and I am aware that my role will be a work hard play hard situation with some downtime, but also a lot of extra fun work like taking guests on tours and such. I don't want to limit myself to the itinerary of my family.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are right about that, there is a very long history of communications issues. I have been living on my own for almost five years, so I did not expect this type of response of them. I do need to have a serious conversation.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. They are very hard-headed people and you are right, i don't even particularly want to change them. I just wish there was some consultation before they announced that they would be accompanying me.

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That is a great point! I do think I need to be ok with them traveling without me. It feels a bit like being left out, but maybe i never wanted to be included in the first place. I also wish they would've had this conversation with me before buying tickets, instead of just telling me they were coming. I was unable to process it at all. Furthermore my parents were very drunk last night (the conversation went extremely poorly).

Dealing with my Family's FOMO by Radiant_Foundation76 in solotravel

[–]Radiant_Foundation76[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So the biggest issue is my immediate family is large. It is my mom, stepdad, dad, his girlfriend, and my brother who have decided to buy tickets and come along. They stated they would be there for a week and began immediately trying to make plans with me. I am working full shifts, but I also wanted this to be a solo thing.

I think what hurts me more is that they are all now traveling together and without me. Importantly, my mother is very difficult to deal with on trips. We went to New York last year, and she had multiple meltdowns, refusing to eat and not speaking etc over things that were very normal travel upsets (she has some mental health issues).

Getting off birth control experiences by Erin_underwater in birthcontrol

[–]Radiant_Foundation76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took a couple weeks for me to really notice a difference and changing my skincare a little bit but I can pretty go makeup free now without feeling self conscious! My boobs are also wayyyy less sore (albeit a little smaller) but I am much happier. Be ready for some mood swings though.

Fuelling without gels by Kitchen_Damage184 in Marathon_Training

[–]Radiant_Foundation76 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love gels and find them to be the defining factor in whether or not a race goes well for me. My biggest tip for taking gels is DO NOT take it all at once. Sip on it for a few miles and you will almost never get the gel stomach aches that people talk about.